Why do you do what you do.

[doitb4ugo]

I would like to open up this thread to ask the escorts here Why did they choose escorting as a part of their life. Also, maybe some discussion of what they thought escorting would be like when they started vs. what their experiences have taught them about being a "working guy". Likes and dislikes as well.

 

I realize a number of you guys may be reticent to post your story and thoughts. I hope we can all take a very positive approach to this thread.

[Mocha]

Because we do...

[orbital sander]

When someone starts a thread that has the sentence:

“I hope we can all take a very positive approach to this thread”, I can only guess that it is not going to be a very productive discussion.

 

I think that it would be interesting to read some answers, but I am guessing that there will be few escorts who discuss this. How does anyone end up doing what he or she does? There must be a million different answers. One answer that I would be surprised to hear is “Well, my dad was and escort, and his father before him”…but perhaps some of the working guys who post here had fathers who liked to make others happy…even if it was for a brief period of time, who knows.

 

I would guess that you would meet interesting people, probably some nutty ones too, but in my work, I am often meeting interesting people, some of them nutty, some of the not.

 

I would guess that the money is not too bad, but that being said, I have met guys who struggle, as there are not always clients, especially in this economic climate. I am also guessing that if an escort gets sick there is little that can be done to earn income.

 

I also imagine that this work can make one feel a bit blue as well, it must be tough to find a partner in life who can tolerate the bad with the good…In fact, I would have to say a committed partner of one who escorts must be a remarkable person…or they happen to be an escort themselves.

 

Anyway, I cannot imagine why many people do the job that they do, but in my case, it just evolved that way..

[kjun]

I think he asked for the opinions of escorts, not for your opinion of his post or what you thought an escort would think.

[+ purplekow]

Well I have had a very short career as an escort but I will share my story with you. I must admit, I have asked this question of escorts in the past, but in thinking about it now, it seems an intrusive question into something that is probably very personal and which has multiple factors involved. Or I suppose it can be as simple and straight forward as mine. Me, 18 year old college student, living on $100 a month $50 or which paid my share of the rent. Hitchhiking home from school one day I am picked up by a middle aged bald man, rather non-descript. He tells me he is new in town, having just moved to Buffalo from Cincinnati (frying pan to fire). After a short bit of conversation, he asks if I have a girlfriend. I lie and say yes. He asks if she "cleans my pipes." And I stumble to find an appropriate answer. Before I can figure out what to say, he says, because I will pay you $50 to clean your pipes for you. Fifth bucks and a blow job, why the hell not. I get out, start to drive his car and he fumbles with my jeans and finally gets my dick out as I drive toward my apartment. After about 5 minutes he lifts up and says his back hurts, but I am too far gone and grab his bald head and force it down on my cock until I come. All the while pushing down harder and harder on the gas pedal. After I come, I drive the block to my house and ask for my $50 and he says he only has $20 but if I would like to come to his hotel, he has another $100 that I can earn. I take the $20 and leave. Fucking guys who offer you the moon and shortchange you in the end. Next time I will ask for the money up front. There never was a next time and I wasn't with a man in any manner for about 30 years. So there it is: The Explosive Exploits of Purplekow Male Prostitute". Who knows, a different set of circumstances and I may have been supplementing my college income with blow jobs instead of flipping burgers and mopping the student union Rathskellar.

[orbital sander]

“I think he asked for the opinions of escorts, not for your opinion of his post or what you thought an escort would think”.

 

 

 

Guess that is one of the pitfalls of posting in an open forum...

 

However...if you do not like it, there is always the "ignore" feature

[+ Travis69]

I know a guy who went to hire an escort at an agency. When he got to the place the guy who ran the agency asked him if he would like to work as he was just starting the agency and needed guys. The guy was the type who would walk through a store and see all the stuff he wanted but couldn't afford on his salary. He saw the job of escorting as a way to obtain all those things he lusted after. He soon got all the material things he wanted but found he enjoyed the intrigue of the escorting. He loved the idea that he would go to his regular job in his suit and tie and then after work go home to run around town and meet strangers in hotels for sex. He loved the "double life" aspect.

[Romann]

My story 101.

 

Escorting for me started out after me and 200 others were laid off as contract workers for the D.O.D. in 2008. I had recently just started my graduate studies in which I was paying for myself after turning down company sponsorship because I would have had to sign a 3 year contractual agreement Federal Government. After quickly turning that down, I secured the financing and began studying away. Not more than 2 months later, all of us receive our "dismissal speech" and were escorted out of the building like criminals. I refused to have my tail between my legs and ask for financial assistance from my family which they would have happily done without delay but that never has been and will never be my style unlike a few of my other siblings who look at my parents like they're some sort of personal ATM machine with endless amounts of funds at their disposal. I was 31 at the time and well qualified as an adult so resolving this issue was my responsibility but I did keep my family in mind if push came to shove but again, it was my last option and one that would only be made with a heavy heart due to my pride.

 

I told myself that escorting would be a temporary thing and something I would do till completing my studies but in April of 2009, graduation day came and went and I was still escorting. The job market was still in a downward spiral and employers were hiring for positions but at half the salary levels and with little to no benefits. It was unnerving, frustrating and bordering on insane with so many people applying for many of the same positions.

 

Call me sad or call it what you like, but honestly, for myself, escorting was something I was meant to do and I say that without doubt though many would laugh at me. While many would dismiss my words as delusional or someone attempting to avoid a "real job" (whatever that is), at the end of each day I rest my head on the pillow knowing that I love my job, if you can call it a job and I am thankful that I can honestly say with 100% confidence that I enjoy what I do. After listening to friends, family and a host of other people complain about their job, I'm free of that worry in life. It is in my nature/blood to make others happy on many levels both in and around the sexual aspect of escorting but for myself, escorting goes beyond the physical encounter and reaches many levels of connecting with others on a mental and intellectual levels to name just a few. While I have always considered myself a people person, I had a lot of difficulty achieving this on many levels in my personal life but when it came to escorting, things just came naturally for whatever reason. This profession has also provided me some of the most sincere and rich friendships/relationships with a number of people especially from this forum and a few that I would lay down and die for if necessary because of the qualities that they have brought to my life and in return, it is my wish that I provide the same in return if not more. To me, that is priceless and will forever be close to my heart and mind.

 

I have always said that clients and escorts are very closely related and due to most of us living a "double life", we can come together without judgment, fear or ridicule from others who simply don't understand what escorting brings as a whole for all parties involved. It is a correct statement that for those who independently escort, we are the business and if something should happen to us whether that be illness to name just one, we must put the closed sign up and rest up for better days. While this can be very difficult for any escort, proper financial planning with a Financial Adviser at the bank which I use has been useful. I have made it a practice to hold 6 plus months of reserves in the event that I can't work for whatever reason. I use all the resources of my bank and FA to invest in the stock market and mutual funds while keeping to my promise of fully funding my IRA each and every year. Since I don't have a company to match my contributions, I am the sole contributor to my retirement system so that means I should and do go beyond just my IRA but into other areas to secure my financial future and meet goals while establishing new ones as the yeas go on. There is something to be said about being your own boss and that is one aspect I like very much about my chosen profession. I've always wanted a job where I can travel, meet new people and reconnect with those I've seen/met before plus, being your own boss and calling the shots just can't be beat.

 

I remember an old saying my mother used to say when she first started to teach me how to invest and that was "Pay yourself first!" when it comes to retirement because Social Security is something you can't count on and with it currently now pumping out more money that it is receiving through payroll taxes, the system should be considered defunct unless a miracle is performed sooner than later. Her other great piece of advise was to "live for tomorrow and not today", something I'm attempting to install in my two nieces though that is proving to be a more difficult task as they become more familiar with credit cards and what these thin slices of plastic and do both good and bad.

 

Long story short, plan, plan and more planning is required in my opinion.

 

As for likes and dislikes, that's a hard question. While I love my profession 99% of the time, I also have days when I don't but it's not because of what I'm expected to do/perform but rather typical frustrations that have been expressed on this forum countless times so nothing out of the ordinary but frustrations that any face-to-face job has and will have now and in the future.

 

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

[SMILE]

And you are SPECIAL indeed!

 

You do connect on many levels and are simply the best and so special in so many ways. . . many thanks for being YOU! All my Best . . .

[Romann]

You do connect on many levels and are simply the best and so special in so many ways. . . many thanks for being YOU! All my Best . . .

 

There is my special friend with the unmistakable chosen forum name. Part of being a good escort is also being surrounded by great people such as yourself because most things in life are a two way street.

[doitb4ugo]

Thanks Romann

 

Thanks Romann. Your story is very interesting and I really appreciate you sharing it here.

 

I am certainly grateful for your chosen profession. having met you as my first escort has litterally changed my life and led to finding many friends and supportive guys here as well.

 

Your ability to connect on so many levels makes you great at what you do. I'm so glad you travel the way you do and thanks for bringing the leather.

 

Wishing you only the best because that is what you deliver.

[+ Ace]

My career in escorting starting completely out of financial desperation & QUICKLY became a lifestyle...

In 2004,after losing my job in finance, trading foreign currencies (post 911), I drove cross country from New York to Las Vegas with a man who I "thought" was the absolute love of my life....The abridged version (full version will be in a book/show I'm currently working on) is that a year into living in Las Vegas he abruptly left me, with about $4000 in bills/deposits, etc in my name.

At that time, being in Vegas was very important to me (as well as my career as an entertainer) & I made it a point to stay by any means necessary.

A fuck buddy of mine (a former Mr. Leather…WOOF!), suggested that I become a “Rentboy” …..(THIS after we had just blown each other in the bathroom of the now long gone “Pride Factory” in Las Vegas).

I looked at him & said (without missing a beat): “What the hell is a Rentboy?” (REMEMBER, I was from New York, & considered myself pretty sharp, but apparently naïve about a few things!).

He told me to go home & logon to Rentboy.com & check it out…(BOY, was I surprised!)

I REALLY wanted to stay in Vegas…..

What did I have to lose?

So…a website where you can “pimp yourself out”, be a *****, hooker….WHATEVER you want to call it??!!

NO FUCKIN’ WAY! I COULD NEVER! (could I???). Hell, I gave it away for free so much & left with nothing, why NOT just “pay the bills” & be done with it?

A few weeks prior to that discussion was a photo session that I had set up with a well known Las Vegas photographer, to take some erotic shots for my (now) ex boyfriend…Valentine’s Day was Feb 14….he moved out Feb 6th!

So…….I now had 2 CD’S worth of pictures of me in various poses (and stage of undress), hard & looking HOT. (one of the shots has become synonymous with my escorting career & netted me MANY a bottle of Jack Daniels)..Could I REALLY go through with this? Could I really NOT??

I will admit that once I quieted down my “moral” voice, I found writing the ad quite liberating:

 

 

It's 2am, I just got finished on stage...my leather pants are soaked & I'm hard as a rock........Want it???? HOT, long haired, verbally aggressive, versatile guy ready to perform for you or be worshiped. EXPERT ass eater & GREAT fuck! Role play SPECIALIST. All scenarios considered & welcomed! Multiple hour discounts & overnights available. I welcome all races and ages. I am available to travel anywhere worldwide, traveling at clients expense. E-mail me for an appt.or call for an immediate hook-up. Available 24/7. Money exchanged is simply for time and companionship. Here to meet your needs. Bright and upbeat, relaxed demeanor, well educated and well traveled. I can be strong and aggressive or gentle and passionate. I am as comfortable enjoying a romantic dinner as engaging in hot passion in the bed room. Email or call.

 

As a matter of fact, Brandon Baker (who runs Rentboy) compliments my ad everytime he sees me…and he’s read ‘em ALL!

 

This all had to be very “hush-hush”, as I was new in a VERY small town, making contacts for my “real profession” AND still had the ex lurking…

I told myself that I would run the ad until the bills were caught up.

 

Well, the bills got caught up, I was on a roll...having the time of my life, living a "double life" & LOVING my "alter ego" as well!

Suddenly, reviews were being posted, I was being asked to travel & building a nice network of regulars (Most of which I STILL see today & consider friends as well).

Yes, there are downsides as well, (been arrested once, the "UN stability" of it all), but overall at the end of the day, I know I made the right choice!

It helps to love what you do.....& I DO.

[doitb4ugo]

Hot Ace

 

Your ad description is hot. I'll have to keep my eyes out for you.

 

Thanks for the story. I am finding it realy nice to hear from the working guys as to how they became escorts. It is liberating to see someone take on something and really enjoy what they do (as much as we enjoy them doing it)....

 

rich

[NYTomcat]

Ace you and I have Never met. Romann well Thats well known. All I. Can say is thank you for sharing your lives with us Here now and as always everyday. I must admit I never Thought any of the escorts would answer but I am so glad you did. I've always known Romann truly enjoyed what he does for a living it comes across in every encounter with him. Its a testiment to who he is as a person and a professional. Ace. . I am thrilled to find he is not alone. Its the men like you That make being with an escort so much fucking fun.

 

And Romann thank for changing my life 4 ever.

 

Doitb. Great thread. Truly inspiring

 

Tom

[Romann]

The stage is all yours!

 

Ace you and I have Never met.

 

I can say with confidence that I have heard many wonderful things about Ace over the last year so you should certainly snatch him up! Don't forget to write an oh so yummy review for the rest of us inquiring minds!

 

And Romann thank for changing my life 4 ever.

 

I'm honored but I can't take credit for that my friend. Your journey has been driven solely by you though I've had the ultimate pleasure of watching you develop into who you are today and who you will become in the coming future. Thanks for sharing some very special times together!

 

Hats off to you, Tom.

[seeker630]

Amen!

 

Thanks Romann. Your story is very interesting and I really appreciate you sharing it here.

 

I am certainly grateful for your chosen profession. having met you as my first escort has litterally changed my life and led to finding many friends and supportive guys here as well.

 

Your ability to connect on so many levels makes you great at what you do. I'm so glad you travel the way you do and thanks for bringing the leather.

 

Wishing you only the best because that is what you deliver.

 

Men who enjoy their vocation take it to a higher level, I think!

[migueldeltoro]

I personally love my job. I started out part-time to supplement my income for school but now it's a fulltime venture. Of course some meetings are less than desirable than others, but without an advanced education I'm not sure what you could possibly do to make as much money and still have so much free time especially in this economy. Most of my clients are extremely respectful and they make my job pretty easy. Now that I've been at this for awhile I can actually say no if someone seems sketchy over the phone or in person. If you stick with this business long enough and really offer the best that you can, it can be VERY rewarding. Even after college I think I'm in this for the long run.

 

Miguel

www.migueldeltoro.com

[Dave]

i had just split from my wife. my kids were with her, and i had a lot of time on my hands. i reverted to my old activities: staying up late, going out, having sex with strangers. my pre-marriage activities.

 

i was at a party, and met some guy through a mutual friend. i told this guy about my background, my international travel experiences, and how i loved to get massages when abroad. he listened, and then asked if i would give him one. no, i replied, i don’t give massages... i get them. he said he understood, but thought that with my background getting them, i could probably give a great one, too... and offered to pay me for it. what the hell, i figured, i’m adventurous and he seemed nice, and hell, what the hell...

 

about a month later, he called me. he wanted another one, and this time he got a happy ending. and a month after that - his friend called me.

 

this was not anyone i knew. the guy had given my number to HIS friend (i thought it odd that he hadnt done this in reverse, but whatever.) the new guy said he heard that i give massages, and would i give him one? i did... but realized then and there that i really ought to learn about what i was doing.

 

i was able to take a leave of absense from my day job, worked out the custody thing with my wife (this part needs to be private, sorry) and headed off to asia for almost 4 months. i studied massage and got certified, returned to the usa, and started advertising as a naked masseur. work piled in, and within a couple months i quit my day job, and started giving naked massages to people day and night.

 

i assert that anyone who is working as a massage therapist for at least a year has been asked to do more than massage for his or her clients. being adventurous, flexible and versatile, i was game for nearly anything that came my way. i learned about all sorts of things previously foreign to me, including the world of kink and fetish, a lot more stuff about m2m sex, and how far i could push my own body. it was a great education, and after about a year and a half of advertising as a masseur, i pulled off the speedo and jumped bare assed into the pool of escorting. and i haven’t looked back.

 

it’s been, as Romann said, 99% fun. i’ve been, like Ace, arrested once - but being a quick study, i doubt that that will happen again. i’ve had a few downs (i mean, negative experiences) but overwhelmingly WAY more positive ones.

 

so why do i escort? i escort because it’s fun, because i like teaching people new things, because i love meeting people, and because i still continue to learn. i escort because i love sex, and i’m pretty good at it (hey, i don’t mean to brag... um, i can’t sing a single note, i do have a sense of humor, i suck at crossword puzzles, i get stressed out when i cook, and i speak a few languages - there, does that balance me out?) anyway, you know what? one day i will get out of escorting, and trust me - it’ll definitely be before i burn out or become jaded from it. i’ll know when that time will be, but right now, i don’t have the end in sight.

 

i realize i didn’t quite cover what i thought escorting would be like when i started vs. what my experiences have taught me (part of doitb4ugo’s original post.) i have to go pick up my friend at the train station now, so perhaps i’ll write more on that later.

 

btw, Ace - i've heard great things about you, would love to meet you when i'm in vegas. actually one of my clients who knows you said you and i should give a client a threesome - that's certainly a snap to arrange (LOL)

and Romann, well, although we haven't met, i continue to have a high degree of respect for you. perhaps one day our paths will cross.

[adriano46]

Escorting for me started out after me and 200 others were laid off as contract workers for the D.O.D. in 2008. I had recently just started my graduate studies in which I was paying for myself after turning down company sponsorship because I would have had to sign a 3 year contractual agreement Federal Government. After quickly turning that down, I secured the financing and began studying away. Not more than 2 months later, all of us receive our "dismissal speech" and were escorted out of the building like criminals. I refused to have my tail between my legs and ask for financial assistance from my family which they would have happily done without delay but that never has been and will never be my style unlike a few of my other siblings who look at my parents like they're some sort of personal ATM machine with endless amounts of funds at their disposal. I was 31 at the time and well qualified as an adult so resolving this issue was my responsibility but I did keep my family in mind if push came to shove but again, it was my last option and one that would only be made with a heavy heart due to my pride.

 

I told myself that escorting would be a temporary thing and something I would do till completing my studies but in April of 2009, graduation day came and went and I was still escorting. The job market was still in a downward spiral and employers were hiring for positions but at half the salary levels and with little to no benefits. It was unnerving, frustrating and bordering on insane with so many people applying for many of the same positions.

 

Call me sad or call it what you like, but honestly, for myself, escorting was something I was meant to do and I say that without doubt though many would laugh at me. While many would dismiss my words as delusional or someone attempting to avoid a "real job" (whatever that is), at the end of each day I rest my head on the pillow knowing that I love my job, if you can call it a job and I am thankful that I can honestly say with 100% confidence that I enjoy what I do. After listening to friends, family and a host of other people complain about their job, I'm free of that worry in life. It is in my nature/blood to make others happy on many levels both in and around the sexual aspect of escorting but for myself, escorting goes beyond the physical encounter and reaches many levels of connecting with others on a mental and intellectual levels to name just a few. While I have always considered myself a people person, I had a lot of difficulty achieving this on many levels in my personal life but when it came to escorting, things just came naturally for whatever reason. This profession has also provided me some of the most sincere and rich friendships/relationships with a number of people especially from this forum and a few that I would lay down and die for if necessary because of the qualities that they have brought to my life and in return, it is my wish that I provide the same in return if not more. To me, that is priceless and will forever be close to my heart and mind.

 

I have always said that clients and escorts are very closely related and due to most of us living a "double life", we can come together without judgment, fear or ridicule from others who simply don't understand what escorting brings as a whole for all parties involved. It is a correct statement that for those who independently escort, we are the business and if something should happen to us whether that be illness to name just one, we must put the closed sign up and rest up for better days. While this can be very difficult for any escort, proper financial planning with a Financial Adviser at the bank which I use has been useful. I have made it a practice to hold 6 plus months of reserves in the event that I can't work for whatever reason. I use all the resources of my bank and FA to invest in the stock market and mutual funds while keeping to my promise of fully funding my IRA each and every year. Since I don't have a company to match my contributions, I am the sole contributor to my retirement system so that means I should and do go beyond just my IRA but into other areas to secure my financial future and meet goals while establishing new ones as the yeas go on. There is something to be said about being your own boss and that is one aspect I like very much about my chosen profession. I've always wanted a job where I can travel, meet new people and reconnect with those I've seen/met before plus, being your own boss and calling the shots just can't be beat.

 

I remember an old saying my mother used to say when she first started to teach me how to invest and that was "Pay yourself first!" when it comes to retirement because Social Security is something you can't count on and with it currently now pumping out more money that it is receiving through payroll taxes, the system should be considered defunct unless a miracle is performed sooner than later. Her other great piece of advise was to "live for tomorrow and not today", something I'm attempting to install in my two nieces though that is proving to be a more difficult task as they become more familiar with credit cards and what these thin slices of plastic and do both good and bad.

 

Long story short, plan, plan and more planning is required in my opinion.

 

As for likes and dislikes, that's a hard question. While I love my profession 99% of the time, I also have days when I don't but it's not because of what I'm expected to do/perform but rather typical frustrations that have been expressed on this forum countless times so nothing out of the ordinary but frustrations that any face-to-face job has and will have now and in the future.

 

That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

 

Romann, this is a truly amazing essay. I read it twice. It underscores that in the world of escorting there are some very exceptional guys out there who match their outer beauty with inner values that make all the difference: sensitivity, intelligence, wit, courage, tenacity, and openness to others. I hope these qualities stay with you as you are truly gifted!

[jj69action]

I would like to open up this thread to ask the escorts here Why did they choose escorting as a part of their life. Also, maybe some discussion of what they thought escorting would be like when they started vs. what their experiences have taught them about being a "working guy". Likes and dislikes as well.

 

I realize a number of you guys may be reticent to post your story and thoughts. I hope we can all take a very positive approach to this thread.

 

All I can say is Thanks to the powers that be for providing Escorts, I wouldn't be where I am in life or enjoying it as much, with out what my escort has taught me!

[doitb4ugo]

Thanks

 

I want to take a minute to thank the posters here for their thought and stories. I find that peeking into the lives of you guys is very telling about what makes a good escort. For all the cynics who like to slam you working guys, there are a larger number of people here who respect and admire you for the life choices you have made...

 

As I stated at the outset of this thread, I was hoping to raise the level of discourse (as Tomcat had so eloquently stated elsewhere) with a thread that is bth interesting and somewhat thought provoking (mildly).

 

Please continue to post to this thread if you wish..

 

And to the escorts who shared their stories, I could never do what you do, even if I had the tools of the trade. But I do enjoy spending some time with you when I can.