cruising at the gym

[Guest admirerDC]

Looking for cruising tips at the gym:

 

1. How do you know if a guy is gay

 

2. How do you know if a guy is interested

 

3. How can you discretely imply that you're interested

 

 

Suggestions, tips, comments, let's hear'em. And saunas, steam rooms and showers are in the mix, so have a ball!

 

Thanks!

[+ glutes]

I am equally looking at the response to this thread. But at least at the gym you could inquire if they have a 'girlfriend'.

[+ Hoover42]

> I am equally looking at the response to this thread. But at

>least at the gym you could inquire if they have a

>'girlfriend'.

 

I don't know, that seems like it might be a little awkward.

 

"Hi, you don't know me, but I was just wondering if you have a girlfriend. Why do I ask? Oh, no reason, just curious."

[buckguy]

have wondered about this myself. I belong to a fairly "mixed" gym, so the cruising part often takes care of itself. At my gym, the steam room seems like a definite place to hook up on the weekends, late in the afternoon. Unless you want a hand job in the steam, the problem is getting beyond mere cruising---after several bouts of heavy cruising, I thought there was interest, but he only wanted to look (flattering, but discoruaging). The other interest seems mostly related to getting in something quick.

 

At a mixed gym, it's still easy to scare guys off, even if it's fairly obvious they're gay. Some guys are still in the closet and others may be in the closet to some of their fellow patrons (e.g., if they work for the same employer or in the same field). I think I inadvertently scared off a "prospect" this way.

[Rick Munroe]

For me, it's usually when they follow me home or slip me their phone number.

[Guest]

>Looking for cruising tips at the gym:

>

>1. How do you know if a guy is gay

>

>2. How do you know if a guy is interested

>

>3. How can you discretely imply that you're interested

>

>

>Suggestions, tips, comments, let's hear'em. And saunas,

>steam rooms and showers are in the mix, so have a ball!

>

Well, you don't want to be too discreet or you'll miss out. Just smile and act friendly. In a jacuzzi or steam room, it's fairly simple. Just let your foot "accidentally" touch his (or your pinky "accidentally" touch his thigh). If he's not interested, his foot or thigh will jerk away. If he IS interested, you'll know quite quickly (the touching will be unimistakeably not accidental).

In the shower or sauna, you'll have to go by visual cues. Then you kind of have to time yourself so you get dressed at about the same time. Once you're dressed, you can go up to him and ask "Hey, how's it going?". I would not try any obvious physical moves while you're in the shower or sauna, since anyone can see what's going on, and you could get a not so friendly reaction (from him or the gym staff).

[tedbear]

Well, yes, Rick, I'm sure guys follow you home all the time. But you're you, and we're just the lowly masses! Most of us don't have that experience.

 

:7

[Rick Munroe]

>Well, yes, Rick, I'm sure guys follow you home all the time.

 

It happened to me twice today...2 different guys were heavily cruising me on 8th Ave. Each one came up to me and asked me where I got my jeans. :'( Both times, I smiled & said, "I thought it was my butt you were checking out." And they each said something like, "Oh, yeah, that too." Gee, thanks. Fashion queens.

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>(or your pinky "accidentally" touch his thigh).

 

Hey - how did you know it was pink?

 

>If he's not interested, his foot or thigh will jerk away. If he IS

>interested,

 

He'll still jerk away ;-)

 

<I would not try any obvious physical moves while you're in the >shower or sauna,

 

Well you could always allow your self to get an erection - no one can blame you for that - it just happens, right? And if he shows undue interest, he's probably gay & available. If he isn't he will just dry himself off and leave.

 

Thunderbuns

[Guest DevonSFescort]

If you have a tough time telling who's gay, I'd suggest making things easier on yourself by joining a gay gym. Maybe some of the DC posters here can tell you which ones those are -- or look and see which gyms advertise in the Washington Blade. Yes, it might mean going to a gym that's a little more out of your way, or paying double gym dues if your current membership is prepaid, but it'll make cruising easier and more worry-free for you.

 

The biggest thing to be on the lookout for is what guys are doing with their eyes. Wear a wifebeater or tank top and see who's checking out your body. If there's a guy you like, start with harmless little tests to see if he's friendly. If you nod and say what's up when you pass each other and he doesn't respond at all, that's probably a sign you should move on. Some guys really don't go to the gym to socialize -- they're probably not talking to anybody else, either -- so you should just give them their space. If he's at least minimally friendly, you can try something slightly more involved like asking about some exercise he's doing and seeing if you can establish a chatty rapport.

 

One thing to remember about cruising at the gym is that its effects often work over time. If you're friendly, smile a lot and don't give off attitude now, even if nobody's really hitting on you, guys will feel comfortable later giving you compliments about the "great progress" or "impressive gains" you're making (dressing skimpy will helpfully make those gains more obvious). You never know what seeds today's cruising is planting. I stared at this hot guy in the locker room every day for a year. Then he switched gyms and I never saw him anymore. Unbeknownst to me, however, he had been cruising me while I was cruising him. A little over a year later, he saw that I was escorting and HIRED me for a session so hot I would have paid for it. Not a bad return on what I'd thought was just unrequited cruising. }>

[Guest]

>>If he's not interested, his foot or thigh will jerk away. If he IS

>>interested,

>

>He'll still jerk away ;-)

 

 

Yes, I suppose it might eventually get to that! But I prefer to wait until we get to eachothers' place, or at least to a more private spot!

[Guest]

>I stared at this hot guy in the

>locker room every day for a year. Then he switched gyms and

>I never saw him anymore.

 

You cruised this guy for a year and never did anything about it?? :o

 

Now I've heard everything--the ultra-shy hooker! For God's sake, when I see a guy I'm interested in who might be interested in me, I go for it immediately. Quite frankly, I've had more sexual encounters coming from the gym than from any other source. (Maybe gyms are just my forté). Of course, I don't think that if I waited around for a year, some day the guy would pay me! :7

I highly recommend sex from the gym. Other than some of my escort encounters, my hottest times have come from guys I met at the gym. And I've never gone to exclusively gay gyms (my current gym is only about 20-25% gay).

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Answers you may have

 

1. He buys dolls on Ebay or he has that freshly licked look;

 

2. Protrusion in his stripey pants or daisy dukes (if dressed);

 

3. He walks up to you on the pretense of asking for fashion advise and shows you his butt.

 

Not me, I'm asexual.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Answers you may have

 

>1. He buys dolls on Ebay or he has that freshly licked look;

 

>3. He walks up to you on the pretense of asking for fashion

>advise and shows you his butt.

 

WHO TOLD YOU??!!:o

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Who's Zooming Whom?

 

The guy with the really tight white wife beater that has my face sits five across his hot chest, the one always handing out flyers on the corner of Weehawken and Waverly, he introduced me to his hot twin brother, and in between spooge baths, while we were sitting around in our boxer shorts shooting the breeze and talking about guys we thought were hot, a certain name kept coming up over and over again. Relentlessly. Like a metronome. Everyone knew the name Rick Munroe. Even the straight barber of the boy who delivered the pizza boy had heard of you. But, when we were all satiated and ready to walk out into the hot, steamy August sun, it turned out, we had something and someone else on our minds. I turns out I am not the only one who thinks Derek has a hot ass and wonders what he sees in you, boy chick....

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Who's Blowing Whom?

 

>turns out I am not the only one who thinks

>Derek has a hot ass and wonders what he sees in you

 

Hey, I wonder that myself. He could have had his pick of hotties. Oh well...sometimes you just have to settle. I think what won him over was the fact that I completely worshipped him, and his ego just ate that up. It was real, though. He's totally the type of guy that you worship, and not just for his body. It's something he has within...what's the white-guy word for 'machismo'? He's got that. :9

[chrismac]

>1. How do you know if a guy is gay

>

>2. How do you know if a guy is interested

>

>3. How can you discretely imply that you're interested

 

1. When he opens his mouth, butterflies and feathers fall out

 

2. When in the showers, start fondling your dick and give him a "come hither" look

 

3. Practice suggestion Number 2 above

[Bilbo]

Actually, it's not that surprising to find his shy side. One reason I got into the business myself was that I was a bit awkward when I tried to pick people up, so I put myself where they would be picking me up, I could get more and more often, and there were more things to blame rejection on (Maybe my fee was too high?). It's sort of like clowns and comedians often being among the most sober and serious people when they are off stage. Though, admittedly, it's hard to get some of them truely off stage.