Poor excuse

[seaboy4hire]

Over the weekend a friend of mine was visiting SF. He arrived Thurs morning and by Fri night had already played (safely) about 5 boys. I don't see anything wrong with playing around but I told him Saturday night he needed to go to the Dr. and get checked out shortly after coming home. He said he didn't have insurance and couldn't afford it. I flatly told him that was a very poor excuse. If he could afford a weekend in SF then he can afford to go to the clinic and get an std check up. He then told me that he was playing safe and didn't need to. I told him regardless if he was taking it up the bum wrapped one can still get std's through oral sex. I told him that he still needed to get checked and that the clinic here in Seattle (and in any major city) offers a sliding scale to free exams. So for anyone who says that they don't need to get tested for std's because they play safe or can't afford it I call bull shit. If you have to, just fib on your income if you go to the clinic if you can't openly communicate with your regular Dr. *rant off*

[+ glutes]

You can lead a horse to water, but...

[+ Lucky]

Hmmm...are you his nanny? The number of tricks is irrelevant. The question is safety, and he insists that he was safe, so why do you doubt him? Would you insist that he get checked if he had only one trick?

[NYTomcat]

Rant on. We all take our risks as calculated as they may be but reality is nothing is foolproof and unless we are going the route of leslie neilson and priscilla presley (full body condoms) A check up after that much playtime activity is not only reasonable its necessary for his health and others. So keep up the Rant Sea

[NYTomcat]

Hmmm...are you his nanny? The number of tricks is irrelevant. The question is safety, and he insists that he was safe, so why do you doubt him? Would you insist that he get checked if he had only one trick?

 

well look at this posted at the same time and how different an opinion. hmmmmm

[Guest greatness]

You are so sweet

 

Greg you are so sweet to look after your friend. I hope your culinary training is going well.

[seaboy4hire]

Greg you are so sweet to look after your friend. I hope your culinary training is going well.

 

I just started today. Received my first assignment and completed it. I'm about to go on and take a peak on my second assignment and see if I can start that. It is an online English class and I am having mixed feelings about it. But I'll give it a try. If I don't like it I could always take it again.

[+ azdr0710]

so did your friend finally get tested?.....

 

and, I forgot, seaboy, was it you who was quitting smoking a few weeks ago or more??...if so, how is that going?....

[KMEM]

Aren't we all each other's nannys? As discussed here many times, there is no such things as completely safe sex. So, even if you have sex once a year, shouldn't you get a check-up on some kind of routine basis? I realize this person was being "bugged" at this particular time, but when is the best time to push someone into getting checked? When they show symptoms? Sooner would be better, wouldn't it?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Lucky]

The point that Greg makes that I think is the best one is to that no matter your finances, there is almost always a public health clinic that will test you for free. Making that fact known to his friend was a good idea. Otherwise, I do think that he is taken aback by the number of tricks his friend had, and associating such promiscuity with disease even though it does not necessarily follow.

[NYTomcat]

The point that Greg makes that I think is the best one is to that no matter your finances, there is almost always a public health clinic that will test you for free. Making that fact known to his friend was a good idea. Otherwise, I do think that he is taken aback by the number of tricks his friend had, and associating such promiscuity with disease even though it does not necessarily follow.

 

OK then with that I agree but given a large number of recent encounters the odds of contact with something do rise and its worth a check up.

[KMEM]

The point that Greg makes that I think is the best one is to that no matter your finances, there is almost always a public health clinic that will test you for free. Making that fact known to his friend was a good idea. Otherwise, I do think that he is taken aback by the number of tricks his friend had, and associating such promiscuity with disease even though it does not necessarily follow.

 

Is this before, after or during ObamaCare? Sorry, couldn't resist. I agree that is a good point.

 

Best regards,

 

KMEM

[Guest Merlin]

Lets face it, money is probably not the issue. Very likely he just doesn't want to know, if there is bad news. He is afraid to be tested because it might be bad. So long as he is not tested he can isgnore the issue. I think most people have a moment of apprehension before getting the result, even when they are confident the results will be negative.

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

I love your positive attitude. I love taking classes and going to seminars. I wish I were in school again. I love asking questions. Especially to hot professors. I could just day dream while they answer my questions. Well good luck and I hope you have a great time in school. Education will get you far~~~

 

But I'll give it a try. If I don't like it I could always take it again.

[Boomer]

Merlin2 makes a good point. Does Seattle have an LGBT Center? They usually offer free testing.

[seaboy4hire]

Merlin2 makes a good point. Does Seattle have an LGBT Center? They usually offer free testing.

 

Seattle last I checked did but like any big town or big city has a county type hospital & it offers low to no cost std checks & if one has missed their period prego testing as well. And Lucky knows that the more sexual partners has the more at risk that person becomes. I only urged my friend to get tested because he's a good guy.

[instudiocity]

I only urged my friend to get tested because he's a good guy.

 

And apparently and AWESOME Bottom!

[+ Lucky]

"I only urged my friend to get tested because he's a good guy."

 

LOL. And for the others?

[JackTwist]

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[jimboivyo]

Make idiotic choices in life, get idiotic results. Why in the world should I have to pay more tax because some ass decides to have unsafe sex or multiple, nightly sex partners and can't afford his/her own health care? I weep for the future, but for now am content to bitch about young folks having no common sense.

[+ Lucky]

Make idiotic choices in life, get idiotic results. Why in the world should I have to pay more tax because some ass decides to have unsafe sex or multiple, nightly sex partners and can't afford his/her own health care? I weep for the future, but for now am content to bitch about young folks having no common sense.

 

So you would rather see epidemics of disease in your community? I think your crocodile tears are simply because you like to bitch- at least today.

You were bitching in the other post I read by you!

[RockHard]

And how do you define hypocrisy?

 

So you would rather see epidemics of disease in your community? I think your crocodile tears are simply because you like to bitch- at least today.

You were bitching in the other post I read by you!

 

Sounds very "insulting" to me.

[imrthr]

 

Sounds very "insulting" to me.

 

 

I agree.

 

That poster seems to have some sort of superiority complex. He can be very nice and informative at times but other times he enjoys being condescending to posters that do not meet his fancy.

 

His occasional rude and insulting posts only tend to stifle posting participation.

[Guest ChgoBoy]

Make idiotic choices in life, get idiotic results. Why in the world should I have to pay more tax because some ass decides to have unsafe sex or multiple, nightly sex partners and can't afford his/her own health care? I weep for the future, but for now am content to bitch about young folks having no common sense.

 

There really is no distinction between having 5 sex partners in one night or having 5 sex partners in five days or having five sex partners in one month. Our younger gay brothern are going to have considerably more sex than their elders are having and in a much more frequent manner. That's just a fact of life. It was for you in your youth as it is now today in theirs. Perhaps Greg's friend was embellishing the numbers. He wouldn't be the first to do that after a night out. Maybe he wasn't. But it doesn't really matter.

 

Greg indicated that his friend had safer sex. At least he was being responsible in the areas where he can protect himself to the extent that safer sex enables.

 

Should you had checked your facts, I believe you would have found that whether Greg's friend had just one or had 10 partners that night, your "tax" rate did not change.

 

Public health clinics have always been at the forefront of the identification and control/treatment of contagious diseases. Whatever they might be. How could that ever be a bad thing? Is it even remotely reasonable to expect people who can not afford health care insurance to stop or limit their sexual activities? People aren't wired that way. Especially our youth.

 

If you're looking for adult behaviors in our youth, then be grateful that they are at least practicing safer sex because a reality of being young is that sometimes you are making less than perfect choices and decisions. Certainly you can see that from your own youth, can't you?

 

If you're going to weep for the future, then weep for those who can't or won't any longer relate their own youthful behaviors and lessons to those of our youth today.

 

Or better yet, weep for those who can only bitch about what's wrong in the world, yet do little, if nothing, to correct it.

[edjames]

You've Done What You Could...

 

I admire your concern for your friend's health. You've done what you could. You've spoken to him, voiced your concern, informed him of the risks and offered suggestions for free testing. He's an adult, it's now up to him to take action or face the consequences.

 

If you're a true friend, you'll be there in the event something happens. Let's hope he realizes that regular testing is part of having an active sex life, playing safe or not.

 

ED