Chiaroscuro

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

The whole question of escorts and what we do in our private lives, when not entertaining clients, seems to be a common topic and some take the position that we are, in essence, the equivalent of hard-ons with heart beats for hire.

 

For example, I do not know if Rod Hagen is an engineer but he has cultural tastes I can admire and an mind I can appreciate, even if I do not always agree with him on this site. Rick Munroe and Jacob (where have you gone?) both have a great sense of humor and I look forward to their posts for those reasons. I wish I knew them, as well as others here and elsewhere, better to know, beyond what they write, how they spend their spare time, but I know from the escorts I have met, in Los Angeles over the last nine months and when I originally escorted in San Francisco in the mid 90s, is that my colleagues come from as varied and interesting a background as any other profession.

 

I just met Devon for the second time in nearly as many weeks, when he came to my home to look at my art. Having met him recently and being to his home while in San Francisco, I got to see a lot of his work. I even bought a piece (which he was kind enough to deliver yesterday since we were not able to meet up a second time in San Francisco).

 

I have also met professional chefs, personal trainers, bankers, retail clerks, screen writers, actors, adult film performers; we come in all shapes and from all backgrounds. In Devon's case, as in my own, escorting affords us the opportunity to explore other interests--in his case his art, and in my case, my writing and art.

 

I write this to offer that there are many reasons, some which may be valid and some which may not, for whcih many of us come to this profession, and they are not always black and white. Some of you have repeatedly expressed your appreciation for the escorts you have encountered and I know some of you have also had less-than-stellar experiences. But please do not treat all escorts (much less any one else in adult entertainment) as caricatures.

 

Hopefully, we can help one another find what we need and want and and do so with a measure of courtesy and respect for one another.

 

 

 

I will let you into my dreams if I can be in yours.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[HooBoy]

Franco, you are so fine.

 

You mentioned one of my fave people.

 

Jacob (Jake)relocated to Hungary last week. That is the country of his heritage and his father & grandparents kicked in for his travel and college tuition. He tells me he will not escort over there.

 

Arigeshigedre!

[ad rian]

>The whole question of escorts and what we do in our private

>lives, when not entertaining clients, seems to be a common

>topic and some take the position that we are, in essence,

>the equivalent of hard-ons with heart beats for

>hire.

.....

>But please do not treat all escorts (much less any one else

>in adult entertainment) as caricatures.

>

>Hopefully, we can help one another find what we need and

>want and and do so with a measure of courtesy and respect

>for one another.

 

I think you are right about this. All that I would add is that engaging an escort for sex does not mean one does not respect either that attribute or their other attributes or interests. It just means we are not hiring those other attributes or interests. We might on occasion, buy a piece of art from an escort/artist but most often are not going to do that, and should not be expected to do so. As I have said, I have had great experiences with almost all my escorts, and I like and respect each of them greatly.

[Rick Munroe]

>Jacob (Jake) relocated to Hungary last week. That is the

>country of his heritage

 

I always felt there was something very Zsa Zsa about that boy.

[Will]

It just so happens that my lawyer and my physicians are in the same age category as the escorts I like, mid-30s to mid-40s. I hire them for their legal and medical services; if they weren't any good, I wouldn't keep hiring them. Part of a lawyer's and physician's effectiveness for me is his/her sensitivity, ability to listen, intelligence, and willingness to offer advice. The professionals I engage are all effective, or I wouldn't keep hiring them. In turn, I'm a sort of ideal client and patient. I cooperate, I do what they tell me, I take their advice, and I let them know how much I respect and appreciate their care. I'm also interested in them as human beings. All but one have children, whose names I know and whose school careers and hobbies I keep up with. Two of my doctors are lesbians who are also life-partners, and we have a sort of special bond. I care deeply about them as human beings, and they care deeply about me as a human being. Yes, our relationship is based on my need for their professional expertise, but it certainly need not end there if both parties are ageeable.

 

So it is with escorts. The escorts I write about in these posts are men that I care very much about; what I know of their personal lives is what they tell me; in some cases that is a lot, in others a little. What they know of my private life is what I tell them; some I tell more than others. For the life of me I cannot understand all this preciosity about the personal lives of escorts. If somebody doesn't want to tell me something, he can say so. So what? I'm not on terms of equal intimacy with even my very closest friends. I don't fall in love with my lawyer, my doctors, my dentist. I don't fall in love with escorts. But that doesn't mean that I don't love my lawyer and my doctors, just as I love all my friends. And I reserve the right to love my escorts as friends, too, even though I know it makes them nervous. Love has many different shapes, and colors, and functions. Yes, there is the "in love" kind of love that is sexual. But love is love for children, for pets and other animals, for parents and siblings, even for art or music or nature.

 

Escorts, however, play in the fields of Eros, and therefore talk of "love" almost inevitably means romance. Romantic love isn't the kind of love I have for my escorts. It's actually stronger than that, because it isn't contingent on mutual sexual desire or sexual bonding. But since I don't ever want to make my friends nervous, I just don't talk about love with escorts. But that doesn't prevent me from loving them. It seems to me that all loving relationships rely on discretion, on knowing when and when not to speak one's mind. If the bond that joins friends is strong, one need not keep pointing it out, testing it, playing with it. What's at stake is integrity, respect, and sensitivity. I don't see why those shouldn't be just as important in my relationships with escorts as they are with the other professionals whose services I seek.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Well put.

[HooBoy]

Will - I just typed to say I love you....

 

Thanks

[bluenix]

>I care deeply about them as human beings, and they care

>deeply about me as a human being.

 

Will, you seem besotted by the milk of human kindness today. Watch out for Goneril and Regan. They're full of advice, too.

 

Cordelia (working on a Saturday)