I'd like you to meet my family.

[+ purplekow]

In his ad for Chicago, Seaboy mentions that he has looks innocent enough to be taken home to meet your parents.

 

I realize that there are some escorts who have had regular clients for years and that these clients sometimes have escorts with them for prolonged travel. I was wondering how many escorts have met the family of any of their clients.

 

I have met the family of one of the men I used to hire regularly. I met his mother, girlfirend, ex-wife, ex-fiance and a few others while he was alive.

[KMEM]

pk-

 

That sounds very sad and ominous for the escort you mention. Sorry to imagine what might have happened.

 

I have introduced at least one escort to my immediate family. They all seemed to get along famously, or at least, that is my impression. I didn't disclose any intimate details about the escort OR my family to the other. That seemed to work.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Greathands]

As I have mentioned in the past, a friend of mine used to run a local escort agency. On two occasions I had been introduced to a family member of one of his escorts and asked to talk with them and share my perspective of the "positive" side of escorting.

 

Now, as for an escort meeting my family. Looking back, I have to laugh and ask myself what I was thinking ...

 

About six years ago, I spent a long weekend in NYC. Accompanying me on the trip were 4 nieces/nephews and their respective dating partners. They were between 18 and 22 at the time. I only got into the city once every year or so, so there was no way I was going to be in NYC and not see some hottie!

 

Not being one of those clients who hire an escort for an hour ... and after making sure he was comfortable with the idea ... I invited the escort to join me and the family for dinner and a show. The plan was to tell them that he was a friend who lived in the city that I didn't get to see often. Well, that was the plan.

 

I could tell that they weren't buying the story. I guess they didn't believe that their middle-aged, balding, overweight uncle would have a young, built, gorgeous hunk for a friend! Both the escort and I could see their whispering and giggling amongst themselves. So, after again making sure he was up for it, we fully explained who he was. It was a longggg dinner with lots of questions. The escort then joined us for a Broadway show and then we all headed for our own rooms at the end of the evening. It wasn't an overnight, so I was alone again for breakfast the next morning. And there were a LOT more questions over breakfast. It makes me laugh thinking about it now.

 

I haven't thought about that weekend for a long time. Thinking back, perhaps that weekend should have been a clue for them of what the future might/could hold. No wonder they accepted my current partner so easily. Their new "aunt" (as they affectionately call him ... who is their age) and I will be celebrating our fifth anniversary in three months.

[JoeyBryant]

Mmmmm....Meeting the family takes it to a whole other level...I don't even meet the family of the guys I'm dating until Im sure we have something good going on, which could be several months. And even then not too often. In most of my best relationships, I never met the family.

 

Recently I was invited to attend an event with a client and a family member, and I declined because (similar to GreatHand's story) I just didnt think the act would work LOL. And then you have me, a young Black guy and most of my clients probably wouldn't be seen with someone like myself in their day to day environment, it would just feel rather obvious LOL.

 

I know it may be different among the cultures, but as individuals we all have control over when and who we introduce people to.

 

Ok, Im getting too deep here LOL...

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

Congratulations.......

 

Their new "aunt" (as they affectionately call him ... who is their age) and I will be celebrating our fifth anniversary in three months.

 

Congratulations! (In straight years, isn't that about equal to the diamond anniversary?)

[Guest greatness]

hmm

 

I think seaboy indeed looks innocent enough...

 

In his ad for Chicago, Seaboy mentions that he has looks innocent enough to be taken home to meet your parents.

 

I realize that there are some escorts who have had regular clients for years and that these clients sometimes have escorts with them for prolonged travel. I was wondering how many escorts have met the family of any of their clients.

 

I have met the family of one of the men I used to hire regularly. I met his mother, girlfirend, ex-wife, ex-fiance and a few others while he was alive.

[seaboy4hire]

Congratulations! (In straight years, isn't that about equal to the diamond anniversary?)[/color][/size][/font]

 

If 5 is diamond then what is 11? Cause this last Feb marked 11 yrs for myself and Boobers.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[JoeyBryant]

If 5 is diamond then what is 11? Cause this last Feb marked 11 yrs for myself and Boobers.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

I admire that...thats all I can say

[Mark Gordon]

Family & Friends

 

As I've mentioned before, I was fortunate during my years in London to establish several genuine friendships with clients. In some of these cases, that included meeting, and sometimes getting to know, the other people in their lives, including friends and family. To give some examples:

 

I had a client for several years who became a good friend. We went on several holidays together and I also did some gardening for him. He was open with his friends and family about the nature of his relationship with me and they accepted it. I went on social outings that included his other friends and his daughter. When his daughter got married, I attended as the date of the father of the bride!

 

I had a client for several years who lived in the countryside with his aged mother. I regularly went to stay at his home and we also travelled together. To his mother, other family members, and his friends, I was his simply his friend from London. I became quite close to his lovely mother and attended her funeral when she passed away.

 

I had a client for several years who was a Minister who had come-out to his family and friends, but had also decided to remain married. We had a relationship that was not fully sexual because he wanted to remain faithful to his wife, but I was still able to help him to explore intimacy with another man within his limits. His wife, children and friends were all aware of the nature of our relationship and accepted it, though it did land him in hot water with his Bishop. I sometimes went to stay with him at his guest house, while his wife was at home in the main house. During his later years, he developed major health problems and our relationship became purely friendship. I took him on outings to dinner and the theatre in his wheelchair. When he passed away, his family invited me to the funeral. I attended and was made to feel most welcome. They asked for my input regarding what to put on the headstone of this wonderful man.

 

None of my clients have met my family, but several of them have met various friends and boyfriends in social contexts.

[JoeyBryant]

As I've mentioned before, I was fortunate during my years in London to establish several genuine friendships with clients. In some of these cases, that included meeting, and sometimes getting to know, the other people in their lives, including friends and family

 

That sounds like quite an experience for you to have the oppurtunity to meet the people who mean alot to your clients, Im sure you enjoyed it.

 

However, being that escorting is technically illegal here and legal (to an extent) in the U.K., I can imagine that it'd be that much different. It would seem there would be more openness there simply because of that, right?

[Guy Fawkes]

However, being that escorting is technically illegal here and legal (to an extent) in the U.K., I can imagine that it'd be that much different. It would seem there would be more openness there simply because of that, right?

 

Excuse me but "Escorting" is technically legal in both places.

[JoeyBryant]

Excuse me but "Escorting" is technically legal in both places.

 

I just knew someone would say something about that word LOL. I'll rephrase it to the fancy way and say "the exchange of funds for fun" then.

 

The point I was making was unlike here in the states, U.K. has legalized 'it' therefore there may be less reluctance of doing things like bringing along an escort to a family get together because its more understood as a true profession...is that true Mark?

[+ purplekow]

The legality may play a small role in Mark's experience in the UK. I think is much more a testament to his dedication to his clients. I must say, as the OP, I was not expecting too many people to answer in the affirmative. I am glad to see that I was incorrect. Though I must say, the situation with the pastor and the escort in the guest house and the wife in the main house, is the stuff of which soap operas are made.

[Mark Gordon]

Role of Legalities

 

The point I was making was unlike here in the states, U.K. has legalized 'it' therefore there may be less reluctance of doing things like bringing along an escort to a family get together because its more understood as a true profession...is that true Mark?

 

It is true that the legal position of escorts in the UK is even more favourable than that of escorts in Canada. Both incall and outcall services by private escorts are fully legal in the UK. What is more, there is also less social stigma attached to escorting generally in the UK, where many male escorts in London are quite open about their profession and have formed something of a community. In Canada, outcall services are completely legal and there is almost no policing of private individuals offering incalls. However, society is equally judgemental as in the USA, even if the law is not. Toronto escorts generally keep it to themselves. I'm not sure what role the legalities of the situation might've played in my ability to form open friendships with clients in the UK, but I'm glad that my life was forever enriched by knowing them. I'm hoping that I might be able to forge such relationships on this side of 'The Pond' as well, over time.

[JoeyBryant]

Though I must say, the situation with the pastor and the escort in the guest house and the wife in the main house, is the stuff of which soap operas are made.

 

Are you implying that its dramatic?

 

What is more, there is also less social stigma attached to escorting generally in the UK, where many male escorts in London are quite open about their profession and have formed something of a community. However, society is equally judgemental as in the USA, even if the law is not.

 

Mmmm, It just goes to show that some places are further along than others.

 

Back to the topic, I still prefer non-family encounters for people I dont know well. I've done many family get togethers over the years with people I've never met and its something I do sparingly. I would also relate that to very close friends as well. Family gatherings usually end up turning into a 'circle' and invariably someone gets handed the 'spotlight' LOL. Or there's always a member of the group who wants to be the jackass.

 

I was at a friend's family function the other day, and although there wasnt a spotlight, there was 1 guy there who insisted on showing his ass. I was also bombarded with a couple of questions in which I had to more or less reply "thats non of your business"

[Guest LeoWalker]

Regarding meeting client's loved and close persons:

 

I've yet to be so closely introduced to family members, but I have gone to clients' children' events and seen them from the audience. Also, I've met very close friends multiple times in various activities or social gatherings. People haven't asked...I once was given a very creative cover story: touring drag queen manager. That alone took away any question to why I had a connection with my client because they were more whispering about my supposed profession.

 

Regarding acceptance:

 

In the gay community, I generally tell people what I do and am accepted at least 95% of the time. I've lately thought of coming up with a cover just to avoid the standard "curiosity and questions", which are always the same. Either that or I may make a pamphlet, "So, you've met a male escort". In general society, I avoid the topic and am graced that it's rude to ask such questions on initial meeting.

 

Regarding my friends and family:

 

Clients have met close friends of mine. For family, that hasn't happened and I don't see a reason why the client would ever need to meet anyone of my family. Granted, my entire extended family is aware of my profession and generally accepting of it.

[JoeyBryant]

Clients have met close friends of mine.

 

Now that I can relate to...Last year I had a 'suite' birthday party on the beach and a few of my friends and a client all went out and partied. Fun stuff.

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

Just a guess......

 

If 5 is diamond then what is 11? Cause this last Feb marked 11 yrs for myself and Boobers.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

2 diamonds and a foot rub??

 

Double congratulations, Greg

[+ Lucky]

Well, I met my escort's family in Northern Thailand once when we were heading up to the border with Burma. There was a group of us, and he insisted we stop to say hi since it was on the way.

Well, the family put out the red carpet. We all went down to the temple and joined in the parade- dancing and throwing our arms up in the air as we went down the street.

When we returned to his house, I thought we were moving on to our appointed destination. But no, my escort went out and bought whiskey. It took all I could do to get us back on the original itinerary.

I did enjoy meeting his family. They knew just what the score was and didn't mind at all. The guy had a closet full of clothes that he stored there, gifts from clients. He also had a US visa with multiple entries- something he was quick to show me when I started showing some affection!

I've always wondered what happened to him as he was such a sweet guy.

[Guest greatness]

Miss Saigon

 

Your experience reminds of Miss Saigon

 

 

Last Night of the World...

 

 

Well, I met my escort's family in Northern Thailand once when we were heading up to the border with Burma. There was a group of us, and he insisted we stop to say hi since it was on the way.

Well, the family through out the red carpet. We all went down to the temple and joined in the parade- dancing and throwing our arms up in the air as we went down the street.

When we returned to his house, I thought we were moving on to our appointed destination. But no, my escort went out and bought whiskey. It took all I could do to get us back on the original itinerary.

I did enjoy meeting his family. They knew just what the score was and didn't mind at all. The guy had a closet full of clothes that he stored there, gifts from clients. He also had a US visa with multiple entries- something he was quick to show me when I started showing some affection!

I've always wondered what happened to him as he was such a sweet guy.

[Bart]

The biggest mistake of my life was in fact hiring an escort who I had been with a couple of times to paint my home. He had a very interesting portfolio and a real business. The problem was that he had to drive some distance and proved to be one of the most unreliable people. A project that should have been done in two weeks took two months. I should have fired his ass but he had me in a postion I was between a rock and wall. Never again. I have helped guys in handling some personal financial stuff, not giving money but how to handle a purchase of a home and support documents.

[Okliehomo]

A rock and a hard place, huh?

 

I thought that you liked that position?

 

I did let David spend some quality time with my room mate and she has never been quite the same....

 

Okie

[Bart]

Hey stop giving away my trade secrets and besides the position I like is between a bed and hard thing or a floor and hard thing or two bodies and two hard, well you get the idea, certainly not a rock. I want to be able to get up and walk, bow legged yes but at least walk.