Private-Unknown Numbers?

[Guest Hottiewithabody]

I was wondering how the board felt about Private-Unknown numbers? I have a potential client who is very Interested in meeting me and plans on seeing me In a few weeks..he also wanted to chat a bit on the phone. I have given him all of my information but he prefers I dont have any of his?? Something doesnt feel right...

[Romann]

I have given him all of my information but he prefers I dont have any of his?? Something doesnt feel right...

 

Trust your gut feeling and go with it. In the end, you need to feel comfortable with what you're getting into and that will translate into your performance and interaction with the client through phone, email and in person.

 

IMHO, I wouldn't accept "Blocked/Private" because just siding with the statistical numbers, most of those calls do not pan out for a multitude of reasons which has been discussed heavily on this board and others as well. Conversation with the client prior to a possible booking is for myself and in my opinion a good thing and I would encourage that. Expectations can be addressed along with other basic factors to ensure a delightful time for everyone involved. I would say, and going on only what you have stated in this thread, it's time to start firming up a date and time with this client but also kindly state and ask that you have a contact number for him. If this is going to be done at a hotel, it would be in your best interests and safety to call his room prior to your arrival. This is a simple request that most clients are more than happy to comply with so that you can verify the room information and hear their voice on the other end.

 

If the client chooses to continue the practice of calling you from a "Blocked/Private" number and doesn't give other basic contact information, then I would pass on the appointment and state clearly to the client why. If this is someone who truly has interest in hiring you for your time and companionship, they will most likely give you the information that you seek for basic safety and confirmation purposes.

 

In the end, if your gut is already giving you some indication after what appears to be a handful of exchanges, go with that trusty feeling and pass it up. Be confident you're making the right decision for YOU.

 

I hope this helps!

[wayout]

From my perspective as a client, once a date is set and confirmed, it is totally reasonable to expect to provide my contact number or to call without blocking. Giving assurances of discretion by both is important. In fact I think it is a good thing, for both escort and client, to talk especially for a first time meeting. If the escort does not ask for or insist on it, I am fine with that but I do appreciate the safety issue for the escort if requested.

[Guest]

I prefer to set things up by e-mail unless the escort answers right away. This is because most of the time, I'm either at work, at the gym (when my cell phone is in the locker), or at home with my partner. We do have an open relationship, but I'm certainly not going to discuss an escort hiring in his presence. After things have been set up, I will provide my cell # to confirm, after setting a specific time he can call when I can be in privacy. Many escorts don't answer their messages promptly, so I will not leave a number for him to call any time it suits his fancy.

[Guest Hottiewithabody]

I prefer to go back and forth thru email to untill the day before the booking etc. Things come up all the time and I want to know Im sending out my number to a client who will follow thru with our original booking or is already in town. Im thinking of getting a second phone line tho that way once school starts I know if someone is contacting that line it is for this purpose

[jackcali]

Romann, you've given Hottie some good advice, but I've got a question for you. My experience with most hotels is that someone can't call a room number from either a house phone or from outside the hotel without first giving the hotel operator the name of the guest in that room. Are you suggesting that you won't go to a client's hotel room without first calling, meaning that he's got to give you his last name? I ask because I would never give out my last name to an escort.

 

I've never even thought about that problem before, but now I have to think about how to get around it. I guess I'd just have to come down and meet you in the lobby. How do you feel about that?

[jackcali]

I think a second phone line is a great idea. There was a thread about phone numbers a while that had a mention of how to get one device to accept calls from two different numbers, which might work for you if you don't want to carry around two cell phones. Even though I'm a client, I have a second phone number just for contacting escorts so that there's no potential for overlap, confusion, calls to my office by mistake, etc. I think a second phone number would be necessary for an escort.

[JT Brooklyn]

Romann, you've given Hottie some good advice, but I've got a question for you. My experience with most hotels is that someone can't call a room number from either a house phone or from outside the hotel without first giving the hotel operator the name of the guest in that room. Are you suggesting that you won't go to a client's hotel room without first calling, meaning that he's got to give you his last name? I ask because I would never give out my last name to an escort.

 

I've never even thought about that problem before, but now I have to think about how to get around it. I guess I'd just have to come down and meet you in the lobby. How do you feel about that?

 

IF as in "most cases" the Client knows what the "Working Guy" looks like, or he probably wouldn't be in the Lobby in the First Place... going to the Lobby to meet HIM is certainly no biggie!

 

Of course for those who keep their Face a Mystery, until the "Face to Face" this is a different story.

[Kevin Slater]

My experience with most hotels is that someone can't call a room number from either a house phone or from outside the hotel without first giving the hotel operator the name of the guest in that room. Are you suggesting that you won't go to a client's hotel room without first calling, meaning that he's got to give you his last name? I ask because I would never give out my last name to an escort.

 

Most folk have cell phones which makes the issue moot. And it's been my experience that most hotels will put the call through with just a first name (indeed, I get the sense that most don't even check the name; asking is just a device to weed out the nervous). You asked Romann and not me, but yes, if I felt the caller was dodgy and I couldn't positively place him in the purported hotel room, I would forgo the booking.

 

Kevin Slater

[jackcali]

Thanks. I was assuming that cellphones weren't satisfactory from Romann's perspective, but I would understand that if something seems dodgy, then one might want some extra assurance.

 

I've actually had trouble getting through hotel switchboards when I haven't had a last name, even in totally legitimate situations. My guess is the level of phone security varies from hotel to hotel, and probably from operator to operator.

[jackcali]

That's not my concern, Brooklyn. I was more worried about discretion, about how it looks to come downstairs to meet someone in the lobby and then take him up to my room. It's one thing during a crowded time, but if it's late it's just a little too obvious for my comfort.

[+ newatthis]

blocked numbers - another perspective

 

When I first started hiring, I did not have a cell phone and would not, for reasons of discretion, ever have given out my land line number, which could easily have been searched to discover my name and address.

 

I am grateful to those experienced escorts who were wise enough to distinguish a nervous newbie from a time-waster and take my phone calls.

[Romann]

Thank you for the question.

 

I have never had an issue requesting the hotel staff to ring the room and inform them that I'm calling and allow the guest to accept the call or deny it.

 

Romann, you've given Hottie some good advice, but I've got a question for you. My experience with most hotels is that someone can't call a room number from either a house phone or from outside the hotel without first giving the hotel operator the name of the guest in that room. Are you suggesting that you won't go to a client's hotel room without first calling, meaning that he's got to give you his last name? I ask because I would never give out my last name to an escort.

 

I've never even thought about that problem before, but now I have to think about how to get around it. I guess I'd just have to come down and meet you in the lobby. How do you feel about that?

[seaboy4hire]

I prefer to exchange a few emails get the general feel of a person and then do a phone chat if our scheds allow. I have a fucked up day job where I am not off work till 1 or 2 am so sometimes chatting on the phone can be a bit hard. Now if someone calls from a blocked number it gets ignored and lately I've been getting quite a few blocked numbers during the evening hours. Am I missing work? Most likely but if you can't unblock your number then I don't need to answer. Having a clients number when I am gone is important for one and most importantly MY safety. You have my info for your safety so I should and better have yours. Secondly Seattle is lay out is all mucked up and sometimes I get lost and need to call for either directions or to let you know I am running behind. I think that these are valid reasons to have a clients contact info. If one is that scared of their info getting out then one shouldn't be hiring let alone getting online and doing any sort of transaction be it escort or purchasing something online.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Romann]

Thanks. I was assuming that cellphones weren't satisfactory from Romann's perspective, but I would understand that if something seems dodgy, then one might want some extra assurance.

 

I've actually had trouble getting through hotel switchboards when I haven't had a last name, even in totally legitimate situations. My guess is the level of phone security varies from hotel to hotel, and probably from operator to operator.

 

I prefer that the client provide me with mobile number if that isn't possible for whatever reason, then I need contact information for the hotel room so that I can call and confirm. In most cases, bookings are completed and the client (in almost all my experiences) supply a contact number upfront.

[Romann]

Im thinking of getting a second phone line tho that way once school starts I know if someone is contacting that line it is for this purpose

 

I would recommend acquiring a second phone line for this business venture and think you will find that it provides that break from your professional and personal life but also in helping you organize your calls. One thing I didn't like about having personal and professional calls on one line was I never really knew who was calling. Was this a client or a personal friend, maybe family calling from a number I don't recognize. There is the pain of carrying two phones around but the convenience and organization that it provides keeping the two twins separate are priceless but again, this works for me.

 

Hope this helps!

[+ purplekow]

Oh so that was two cell phones in your pocket, I thought you were just glad to see me.

[Romann]

Many escorts don't answer their messages promptly, so I will not leave a number for him to call any time it suits his fancy.

 

I hear that a lot from a number of clients who have hired escorts in the past.

[Romann]

Of course for those who keep their Face a Mystery, until the "Face to Face" this is a different story.

 

IMHO, there is something to be said about mystery.

[Romann]

Oh so that was two cell phones in your pocket, I thought you were just glad to see me.

 

You must be referring to the phone in my center pocket, right behind the zipper.

[+ purplekow]

You must be referring to the phone in my center pocket, right behind the zipper.

Yes but from the outline it looked like one of those original cell phones, you know they were much longer and thicker than the phones we have now.

[Romann]

There will always be exceptions to the rule and that is something very hard to avoid. One has to determine what works best for them, what is acceptable booking information and what's not.

 

I tend to make a lot of bookings through email followed up one or several phone conversations prior to the actual day. This helps me inquire about expectations but also get a better feel for the client and if I can determine how serious or not serious the person is. I do require that all bookings have a contact number upfront and that has always worked out well for me. There have been times when I have lost appointments because the potential client didn't want to share any information with me but did expect me to show up blindly at a hotel without any way of getting in touch with them. For those instances, I kindly pass on the appointment and leave it at that.

[jackcali]

Thanks for your answers, Romann. I think I jumped to the wrong conclusion that a cell phone number wasn't enough for you.

 

And I wonder why do I have such bad luck getting past hotel operators when it seems you and others have no problems at all. I'd immediately assume it's because I'm not good-looking, but am I so ugly that they can tell that over the phone? Ugh.

[JT Brooklyn]

Speaking of Multiple Cells..The Muscle Hunk "Tony Pitt" at one time had 3 Cell Phones he lugged around with him. He was all Biz!

 

Now that's what I call a Working Guy!

[+ honcho]

Dual Sim Cell Phones?

 

I just googled "Dual Sim Cell Phones" and saw a fair amount of hits.

 

I think somebody previously mentioned them in the forum as a way to cope with international travel, but this might be adaptable to have a working/private number also...