Don't waste my time!

[Guest dougiefreshsf]

I am just wondering about this phrase that turns up more and more frequently on ads. "Don't waste my time and I won't waste yours". It really turns me off and I couldn't imagine calling someone who put that in their ad. Am I overreacting? I think I have to chat for a few minutes to get a sense of someone - the 'vibe' that tells me we could have some fun or that I should stay away. I realize some folks want to get off on emails or calls and who wants that. But I have to check it out - not waste your time. Thoughts?

[EXPAT]

I'm sure it comes from the fact that most calls escorts get are time wasting calls. And I'm sure that is very frustrating to them over time.

[Businessguy]

Sincere guy

 

It sounds as though you are a sincere guy who is trying to find a good match. I think if you approach the call that way and explain yourself, most good escorts will be happy to answer your questions. Even if you decide they are not a good match, they will not think of the call as a waste of time. The escorts who react less than favorably to your call will probably not be good for you anyway so what do you have to lose in making the call? I agree with Expat, escorts must get a regular stream of crank or jerk/off calls. These guys have no intention of following through on making an appointment. They are the "time wasters". As long as you are not one of those guys who makes it tough for the rest of us, go ahead and dial-for-cocks until you find the right guy. Don't let the comment in the listing intimidate you. You are the "King", the customer.

[+ purplekow]

How many potential customers walk into a department store for each one that actually buys something. In a business that counts on "sales" you have to expect some window shoppers. I don't doubt that some initial phone calls are just time wasters, but that is the price of doing business. This July 4th weekend, I had set up a meeting with an escort whom I had seen before, he didn't show and was unreachable. Time wasting may go in both directions.

[Kevin Slater]

How many potential customers walk into a department store for each one that actually buys something. In a business that counts on "sales" you have to expect some window shoppers. I don't doubt that some initial phone calls are just time wasters, but that is the price of doing business. This July 4th weekend, I had set up a meeting with an escort whom I had seen before, he didn't show and was unreachable. Time wasting may go in both directions.

 

Absolutely. However, if someone came into my department store, asked how soon the overcoat could be delivered, if it came in camel hair, could it be special sized, dyed a different color at the hem, have the lining replaced with flannel and oh, can you knock the price by two thirds, I'd be a little upset there as well.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ purplekow]

How about if he bought the coat and spent the extra money to do all those things? It comes down to whether or not the sale is made.

Does the client who asks only where and when and who shows on time leaves early and acts perfectly get a discount? Thanks maybe, but probably not a discount. That is the other end of the spectrum, the no muss no fuss client and hopefully they help balance the ones who are difficult. Remember, it is likely those difficult people are probably difficult at the supermarket, the doctors, the restaurant and almost everywhere else they go. You are not alone in suffering these fools.

[Businessguy]

Two Sides to every coin

 

Kevin & Purplekow present both sides of the problem very well. No one, no matter if you are the vendor or the customer wants to have their valuable time wasted. I'm in marketing, I have spent countless hours with potential customers who don't buy for a variety of reasons. Some were never serious buyers in the first place. It is the reality. I accept it and plan for a certain amount of it. For the inexperienced seller, it can be very frustrating and annoying.

I understand that escorts don't want to answer a lot of questions or get to specific on the phone or in emails with guys they have never met for obvious legal reasons. But they should be willing to answer a few basic questions and project a welcoming and friendly personality over the phone. They could even refer them to their reviews for a flavor of what they are like. This is another good reasons why we clients should write fairly detailed reviews and why potnetial clients should do some homework. It saves everyone time in the long run.

[Guest AndrewJames]

How about if he bought the coat and spent the extra money to do all those things? It comes down to whether or not the sale is made.

 

Unfortunately, as Kevin pointed out, it is often the 5th or 6th e-mail or txt that the non-client mentions that the rate is too high for him.

 

I have noticed that the wind ups do not come as often cities other than NY & SF. In some cities, the phone rings, and the person on the other end is real and ready to meet.

 

As someone who is doing this job professionally, I have to treat each person who calls as if they are for real. When a couple wind up calls happen in a row, it can be harder to be very warm to the next guy who calls. It is unfortunate, because as the OP points out the phone conversation is very important. So the time wasters, end up costing real clients.

[Guest greatness]

yes

 

I'm sure that the escort went through a lot of fake calls. Let's respect escorts' preferences. I am certain that there is a good reason behind it.

 

I'm sure it comes from the fact that most calls escorts get are time wasting calls. And I'm sure that is very frustrating to them over time.

[rvwnsd]

Wasting time

 

I am just wondering about this phrase that turns up more and more frequently on ads. "Don't waste my time and I won't waste yours".

 

I don't have a problem with this line when a guy answers the questions I ask in an e-mail. Most guys I've contacted do so and don't waste my time. I try not to waste theirs. There's a fine line between cybersex and obtaining enough information to decide whether a meeting is going to be mutually satisfying and not a time-waster.

[Guest RianB]

In a business that counts on "sales" you have to expect some window shoppers. I don't doubt that some initial phone calls are just time wasters, but that is the price of doing business.

 

Nah...see its different from other businesses. If they want to window shop, they can window shop as they view the ads and make a decision before they pick up the phone. Calling someone and asking a bunch of questions (many times they ask the same questions which are clearly listed on my ad), making up a time to meet and then not calling to confirm or cancel it is wasting someone's time. I even had someone do that who is active on 2 different forums...and he should be glad I didnt call him out on his shit on either one of them.

 

As far as stating not to waste time on an ad...I think its totally unprofessional. It gives the vibe that the person assumes every caller is a bullshitter. I admit I did it myself once or twice, but then I remembered Im not marketing to timewasters, Im marketing to actual clients. Real clients deserve to be given the oppurtunity to say what they want and be given the time to prepare themselves for that. But I have no problem telling a potential client not to waste my time over the phone if they are A) texting endlessly and not going forward or B) spending more than 5 minutes on the phone as if they were calling someone from fucking match.com.

 

But of course, I do too take everyone as a potential cause I dont always know. Some people who I thought were full of SHIT turned out to be very good clients indeed, and some who I thought were serious about bookings turned out to be full of SHIT. Just today, I took an advanced booking from a very sincere sounding guy but forgot to give my '1 hour confirmation spill' and sure enough he stood me up. Its good to set boundaries and confirmations with clients so I also dont waste my own time.

 

And oh God! when traveling, the amount of timewasters is so high...I must maintain both patience and brusqueness so I meet the ones who actually make it worthwhile!