uhmm... HI EVERYONE!

[spunky]

hey there! uhm... it's just me, spunky from up north in vancouver, canada. kinda found the site randomly & immediatley had to sign up to learn the basic *do's* & *dont's* of hiring escorts. me: youngish, sk8erish, average looks i guess (not hideous but certainly not as hot as pretty much everybody in here) & kinda randomish... so first a couple of questions...

 

i was just turned down on my first call to an escort cuz he thought i was kiddin around ... any advice to be taken seriously when calling? is email the best way to go?

 

& second... let's say i'm into some REALLY weird stuff (the one that doesnt even show up in the sexual deviance section of psych books) BUT that i know it's all legal & doesnt involve anythin dirty (read "scat"). how do ppl usually bring that up? b4 meetin' up? right at the very moment? i once read somewhere on yahoo questions that most ppl in the business have seen it all and arent impressed by anythin but i'm not sure... wanted to double-check 1st before makin an a-H-oLE out of myself

 

thx ppl! patience's always appreciated... remember i'm a newbie!

[Guest Merlin]

Escorts will take you seriously if you are serious. But they don't want you to waste their time with enless talk. Some guys like to get the escort on the phone for the fun of talk, with no intention of ever hiring.

If you are concerned that your practices may be strange, be sure to hire an experienced escort, and not someone very young. Ask in advance if you are in doubt, but some escorts are reluctant to get too specific, and if you go through a list of stuff you want to do you may begin to sound too strange. What sort of stuff did you have in mind?

[Guest zipperzone]

What sort of stuff did you have in mind?

 

Now that's the $64,000 question. This fellow Vancouverite is dying to know!

[devonhunter]

although i'm brand new, i would offer this suggestion: before contacting an escort, make certain he is someone who is not vanilla. i immediately had to revise my ad, because i was getting requests that i couldn't accomodate. if the person in question indicates he is willing to provide more exotic services, he is more likely to talk to you seriously.

[+ purplekow]

Spunky, pretty much anything that you have every thought of doing, has been done, paid for and made into a movie. So relax. There is a fetish forum here and if you feel your desires are a little extreme, post it there and others will comment not on your practice but rather on how to find someone who does that or about their own experiences with it. Just finished reading about the gentleman who uses his load as the special ingredient in his breakfast meal. So, how much further out there can you get? Inquiring minds want to know.

[Guest Musclestudoh]

hey there! uhm... it's just me, spunky from up north in vancouver, canada. kinda found the site randomly & immediatley had to sign up to learn the basic *do's* & *dont's* of hiring escorts. me: youngish, sk8erish, average looks i guess (not hideous but certainly not as hot as pretty much everybody in here) & kinda randomish... so first a couple of questions...

Welcome Spunky! There are definitely fundamentals to hiring but there will be variances in the style and approach among escorts.

 

i was just turned down on my first call to an escort cuz he thought i was kiddin around ... any advice to be taken seriously when calling? is email the best way to go?

Depending on the escort you called and how you were perceived the escort may have felt you weren't serious. If you were nervous or embarrassed to articulate your interests then that could have been part of the issue. However, a professional, mature escort would have handled the situation and your dignity with respect, even probing to get a better understanding of your interests if they detected hesitation or that you were unsure.

 

Before contacting, research the escorts to find those that fit your basic requirements. Since you may have a particular fetish you should be even more diligent when doing your research. Be clear and upfront about what you like and what you are looking for. Setting a clear expectation gives a better understanding of what’s going to take place and less room for interpretation. One person’s kink is another person’s vanilla!

 

Many escorts prefer phone contact but are open to email as well.

 

I personally would never be able to function efficiently if I only accepted phone calls. It is easy for details and certain aspects for a meeting to be lost or forgotten. Keep in mind that most escorts see multiple clients during a trip or in their home city.

 

Email allows for more time to be specific and less reserved without the hurried or tense moments phone conversations can sometimes have. It also allows for an account of what was discussed from both sides for easier reference. However, some escorts may not be up for alot of back and forth, so it's better to be as clear and concise upfront. For escorts that travel and are quite busy, email is a lifesaver so that the important details are not forgotten. A phone call is a good way to have more rapport and to get a sense of the person. I typically do all communication through email and then speak with the person on the phone after all the details are in place.

My answer is email is best! IMHO

 

 

 

 

second... let's say i'm into some REALLY weird stuff (the one that doesnt even show up in the sexual deviance section of psych books) BUT that i know it's all legal & doesnt involve anythin dirty (read "scat"). how do ppl usually bring that up? b4 meetin' up? right at the very moment? i once read somewhere on yahoo questions that most ppl in the business have seen it all and arent impressed by anythin but i'm not sure... wanted to double-check 1st before makin an a-H-oLE out of myself

 

thx ppl! patience's always appreciated... remember i'm a newbie!

 

It goes back to being upfront about what you are looking for. You should never go into a session with an escort without a mutual understanding of what’s going to happen. As an escort, I always know what my client’s interests and fantasies are upfront. This allows a more comfortable, relaxed environment with very few surprises and awkward moments. That doesn't mean there isn't room for spontaneity in the heat of the moment but the key points are discussed. No one likes to be caught off-guard and with your very specific “interests” it sounds like a recipe for disaster to bring it up right as you are meeting for the first time. You wouldn’t buy a new car without knowing details about performance and handling. Unless money is no object and you are ok with potential disappointment.

 

If you find an escort that fits the bill in terms of your main criteria but aren’t sure if they are into a specific scene just ask. You might be surprised at how open someone can be to something new with the right communication and understanding. If you have reservations it’s best to keep looking until you find the guy that is the right fit. Daddy’s is a great medium to help filter through the choices and get a few suggestions. The contributors have definitely done their share of "filtering" through the masses and can give some valuable incite from a client’s perspective.

 

I doubt that most have seen it all. Even if they have not every escort is open to every scene or sexual interest.

I haven’t seen it all but I’ve seen plenty! I can tell you not every escort is the right fit for every client and vice versa. Not to be cynical but sometimes the phrase “buyer beware” does apply. Just ask anyone from the forums.

 

There will definitely be someone out there as kinky and weird as you think you are.

 

Good luck and happy hunting!!!!

[spunky]

oh W-O-W!!! thank you very much everyone!! there's still so much to learn it makes my pre-gradskool courses sound so boring now, lol.

 

well, for the few people up there (Merlin2, zipperzone, etc.) who were wondering what i'm into it's kinda weird but i dont think uber crazy or dangerous stuff. i'm basically strongly sneaker/boot-fetish oriented so variations among that line appeal to me significantly. yeap, no sex, no need for nudity, no kissin, no cuddlin, no oral... not even feet! lol. i get into worship/lick, trample, dom-sub roleplay, some bdsm & within all the deviant stuff that can be done with feet, the one i like the most is being a crushfreak (<-- i LUV that term). for ppl out there who dont know it, we crushfreaks are guys who get off by watching other guys crush to death with their boots/sneaks little bugs like ants or spiders or stuff. sounds weird but it IS a legitimate fetish, you can google it & a friend of mine who knows about my particular taste told me once that he saw it somewhere in one of those CSI spin-off programs so popular nowadays on tv (or maybe it was even on CSI). the straight version of the fetish is more common but, heck, if the str8 world has it we do as well.

 

i've already traded regular sex for kink b4 will regular guys but, for some weird reason, i'm doubting myself everytime i wanna bring it up to an escort. i thought it would be like pretty easy... i'm not cheap so i'm willin to pay full rates for certainly less than an hour of their time but dang, i dunno... i guess this is just so new to me.

 

i found the 1st guy i called on craigslist (i didnt know about rentboy before). it was a pretty strange conversation... called & kind of in the very beginning of it he just said something like "so... how old are you? you sound kinda young" i answered truthfully (22) and he just said "dont waste my time" and hung up on me which brings me to my 3rd question...

 

how good is craigslist to find guys to play with? i feel so jealous of NYC or Orlando where there're like 100s of escort profiles there in rentboy and here in van we only have like... 10

[Edward]

crushfreak

 

Your fetish is not for me but interesting. Sure there are a lot of guys that would accommodate you. Not out of this world or dangerous. Just one dumb question. Does this turn you on sexually and bring you to a climax?

[Romann]

Welcome for the MC.

 

hey there! uhm... it's just me, spunky from up north in vancouver, canada. kinda found the site randomly & immediatley had to sign up to learn the basic *do's* & *dont's* of hiring escorts. me: youngish, sk8erish, average looks i guess (not hideous but certainly not as hot as pretty much everybody in here) & kinda randomish... so first a couple of questions...

 

i was just turned down on my first call to an escort cuz he thought i was kiddin around ... any advice to be taken seriously when calling? is email the best way to go?

 

& second... let's say i'm into some REALLY weird stuff (the one that doesnt even show up in the sexual deviance section of psych books) BUT that i know it's all legal & doesnt involve anythin dirty (read "scat"). how do ppl usually bring that up? b4 meetin' up? right at the very moment? i once read somewhere on yahoo questions that most ppl in the business have seen it all and arent impressed by anythin but i'm not sure... wanted to double-check 1st before makin an a-H-oLE out of myself

 

thx ppl! patience's always appreciated... remember i'm a newbie!

[devonhunter]

I've heard of this before, and I'm not sure why it's so difficult for you to find someone for an appointment. Unless calling yourself names is part of your fetish, I don't think it's necessary - are you taking some kind of tone/stance in your conversations with escorts that would make them think you're prank calling?

[jackcali]

Hi, Spunky. Devon's got a point. Especially if you're young, the escort may not be taking you seriously. I had that problem in business when I got a job usually done by someone in his 30s or 40s when I was 23 (and I looked and sounded about 18). I had real trouble being taken seriously by the people I dealt with, and it was giving me a lot of trouble.

 

So I made some changes. I adopted a "business voice," especially for over the phone. I deepened my voice as much as I could (which wasn't much, lol), I talked slower and in complete sentences, I was very slow to joke with a person until I knew him and I avoided slang or informal expressions that were generally used by young people. It was amazing how much people's reactions to me changed as a result.

 

Maybe you have a similar issue in your dealings with with escorts? The combination of your youth and the nature of your fetish may make an escort unfamiliar with your fetish think you're not serious, especially if you're defensive about it through explanation or humor. Fetishes are part of an escort's business (or not, as they choose of course), and you should explain your fetish without joking or discomfort or embarrassment. Try the business voice for your initial contacts with escorts, and see if that works. When you get together with one, you can be more your usual light-hearted self.

 

Good luck.