The Best Of Both Worlds....

[Godiva]

Is it possible to have the best of both worlds??..and why not??

 

..Whether it is a straight married guy fucking and in some cases getting fucked by men..

 

..a gay man in a gay relationship who still has an attraction for and sleeps with beautiful women..

 

..gay escorts who haven't revealed that they have girlfriends at home who don't know..

 

..married men whose wives know about their husbands desire for a little butthole on the side...and are okay with it..

 

Whether both sides are truthful, whether some think it is moral issue (let me remind you that in the real world many think being Gay is immoral.)

 

Is man suppose to live in a one on one relationship?? Is that natural

or societal?..I would love to hear from men who have both a committed relationship with a woman and with a man..Whether they know or don't know and how you manage it..

 

P.S. ..I thank you in advance for your honest contribution.

[Guest regulation]

>Is it possible to have the best of both worlds??..and why

>not??

 

Why not? How about because most of the examples you give involve deceiving and betraying someone with whom you have a relationship of trust. Could that be a reason not to do it? Or is it that your obligation to someone who trusts you just doesn't stack up against the importance of satisfying your own personal appetites?

 

>Is man suppose to live in a one on one relationship?? Is

>that natural

>or societal?

 

This sounds just like some of the rationalizations I have heard from people convicted of violent crimes. Their behavior was "instinctive." It was "natural." Uh huh.

[duke37]

I don't know if it would be the best for me. The best feeling I have had in a long time is knowing I could answer ANY question honestly.

 

Most of your scenarios presuppose that you will have to lie to someone. Or maybe lie a lot to a lot of people.

 

No thanks I'll pass on the attractive idea because it comes at too great a cost.

 

Jeff

[Guest RushNY]

Actually i'd have to side with Regulation here ,maybe it's just a personal thing but i know i would feel uncomfortable in lying to someone close to me i am in a relationship and i could and would not lie to him if i felt something for someone else whether it was male or female, you are degrading yourself and the person you are lying to ,i think a lot of these types of questions come done to the individual person and how comfortable they are with their own sexuality and how they are seen by family,friends,work colleagues etc because we still are in a world which treats anything that is deemed not "normal" with disgust,hate and fright and there are a lot of people out there willing to trade and profit from peoples fears and prejudices whether about sexuality,religion,race or any other subject guaranteed to bring people to blows.

When i came out fully in 1996 i was 33 years old and i went through some nasty shit at work (NYPD-not the most homo-friendly and tolerant place !!! )but because i stood up to the bigots and smart- mouths i was left alone after a while (about 6 weeks)and now my fellow officers treat me no different ,i think that if people were more brave and truthful with themselves they wouldn't have so many heartaches and soul searching and trying to hide who you really are.

[Rick Munroe]

Have to agree with Jeff. As I've said, and not in an attempt to ass-kiss (I prefer to have mine kissed...yeah, I know that's been established), I do not judge my closeted clients' decisions (and I find the whole secrecy thing quite hot); but personally, I value total honesty with my partner above all else. I am not a huge Barbra Streisand fan (and I regret that I have to use one of her awful films as an example) but The Mirror Has Two Faces had a storyline that I totally related to...that of longing for a spouse who knows everything about you, who can order your food for you in a restaurant, who can know every minute detail about you inside & out. There's nothing like it! I wouldn't feel complete if I had to hold back. Knowing someone loves and accepts every aspect of you unequivocally is the ultimate high.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

I prefer to have mine kissed, too, what a coincidence!

 

> ... personally, I value total honesty with my partner above all else. . . .

>. . . that of longing for a spouse who knows everything about you, who can order

>your food for you in a restaurant, who can know every minute detail about you inside & out.

>There's nothing like it! I wouldn't feel complete if I had to hold back. Knowing

>someone loves and accepts every aspect of you unequivocally is the ultimate high.

 

My best friendships are like this. We can complete each other thoughts and while we do not necessarily agree, we can create a very private and very intimate world. The love of my life was also like this so I have to say that the closeness which comes with trust would denigrate most of your possibilities.

 

The better question to me would be why would a partner allow the other a little "tail" on the side? Otherwise, they would lose the relationship?

[Godiva]

RE: I prefer to have mine kissed, too, what a coincidence!

 

Thinking outside the box..I have read that there are clients that are doing this today with the full acceptance of their spouse. I wonder how it works..?

 

I still believe that it can be done..