When half a loaf is better than the whole

[+ purplekow]

On a recent weekend visit to a nearby city, I decided to hire a known escort couple for a threeway. After a very satisfactory session, I found that one of the guys was much more to my liking than the other. They had mentioned to me that they will soon be visiting my area and asked if I would like to get together. I would love to have a repeat engagement with one of them but because of chemistry and finances, I would rather have it be just one of them. They advertise as being available as singles or as a couple, yet I feel a bit odd about discussing hiring one without the other. While I know this probably has more to do with my own unresolved being picked last for kickball issues, I am curious if others have had this issue.

 

i would be particularly interested if any of the couple escorts have any thoughts about being the one not selected when a client decides he wants only one.

[alanalt]

While I know this probably has more to do with my own unresolved being picked last for kickball issues

 

LOL!!

 

While I appreciate where you're coming from, I think it's important to remember that one of the advantages to hiring is the avoidance of all the emotional 'baggage'. Despite the intimacy of the act, it's important to remember that this is essentially a business transaction and as the guy with the cash, you're entitled to set the ground rules for getting the most out of the experience. I suspect that if you e-mail the escort that you're interested in with much the same open and honest approach as you took in this post (i.e. making it clear that while you enjoyed your last encounter, that 'for reasons of chemistry and finances, you would rather have it be just one of them'), it would be hard to take offence...

[JT Brooklyn]

Biz is Biz

 

Purple.. Bottom Line..After all is said and done Be Truthful!

 

It's Your Dime! Biz is Biz..

[+ Charlie]

I don't often disagree with alanalt, but this time I think he is wrong: we may think we can avoid the emotional baggage by hiring, but it's still there. By hiring the escorts as a couple the first time, it inevitably sets up a tricky situation if we want only one of them the next time. As a practical matter, they may be available individually, but the one who is not chosen is likely to wonder what's wrong with him; perhaps it's not as bad as not being the one who gets the rose from the Bachelor, but it's still deflating if he thought he did a good job and thought you found him as satisfying as his partner. The other one may also feel defensive about being chosen, and there is probably going to be a bit of background tension in the experience of your one-on-one appointment. It's not you who will be carrying the baggage, but you will be aware that you created it, which is probably what makes you uncomfortable. Of course, the best case scenario is that the one you didn't want may be relieved, because he really didn't want to do it again with you, either, and the one chosen may really want to do it alone with you, so it will work out fine all around.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Mister Cow!

 

I am glad you ask that. I can imagine how this could be perceived as a touchy subject. I am going to tell you about my experience, even if I am sure that there are many ways to look at this issue.

 

I worked for many years with Kevin Vancouver. We worked together a lot, and enjoyed it. It really worked well for both and for many of our clients, however, every now and then one client would request only of us. Sometimes the same client would ask for the other and take turns and sometimes he would become a one on one client with one of us. In my experience it is great to know that we are going to keep in touch with our clients, and of course to keep their business. It so much better that one of us gets to play than never again hearing from our client.

 

Since Kevin and I couldn't be more different when it comes to types (As are most of the working couples.), it was really easy to understand that someone would have a specific preference. Sometimes it was more difficult to imagine so many people wanting to have sex with two people as dissimile as ourselves. Also since we always assumed Kev and I were both very dedicated, professional and focused escorts, who loved being so, we assumed our levels were similar, even if we had different strengths. We never took it personally and it was great to know that our client wanted to see one of us. Remember we are here to provide YOU a good service. We are here to make you comfortable, to fulfill your needs. We are not here to have our egos stroked or have our needs met. We expect respect, cleanliness and a good attitude, but you are the one who is entitled to ask for anything you want, if it falls within our boundaries.

 

Yes, email or call them and simply say that you had a great time with them, and that you would like to meet with so and so. Had you not have had a great time, however {was that an actual phrase in english?} and you think their service could be improved by your disclosure, then always let them know why you didn't, but we know that's not the case in this situation. I would leave out the part about the chemistry being a reason for only choosing one, I would perhaps say that for financial reasons I will see only one, and not explain my choice.

 

I do know a couple escort couples who work coming from competition and ego stroke. In those couples you would really wreak havoc by choosing only one but most of the escort couples that I know are made of intelligent and professional guys who will want to please YOU, so don't be sheepish and ask for exactly what you want... that way you are more likely to have a good time.

 

Hope this helps, and hope that whomever you meet, whenever you meet him/them, you have a fantastic time doing so.

 

Enjoy!

 

Always hard and warm,

 

Juan

[Guest zipperzone]

As a practical matter, they may be available individually, but the one who is not chosen is likely to wonder what's wrong with him; perhaps it's not as bad as not being the one who gets the rose from the Bachelor, but it's still deflating if he thought he did a good job and thought you found him as satisfying as his partner.

 

If you are concerned about hurting someone's feelings the solution is simple. Don't mention the chemistry part and just say that due to financial pressures you have to hire only one.