Devon's Diary

[Candyman]

Wow, did you read Devon's Diary today. Quiet the bomb shell,but I have to give him credit for being so upfront about his change in his activity. So what do you guys think?

[axebahia]

I have no problem with that. I respect the honesty and transparency. The only thng that makes me mad is asking if the escort is versatile, and then on arrival being informed that in his humble opinion that does not include bottoming.

[dick_nyc]

Then be more specific. If you want him to bottom get that fixed up first. I know the semantic games we play are necessary in some cases, if you want a specific item on the plate, put it there to begin with. Then no problemo.

[Guest zoom]

Personally I find it strange that someone who was gleefully barebacking (per his diary entries) is now concerned about health issues. I am please he came to his senses.

[+ Lucky]

Shall I assume that all these roundabout posts are meant to get one to read Devon's Diary? Personally, I never have. I know that the Internet is full of blogs where people detail their every poop, but I would rather keep up with the people I know than follow someone's travails whom I will never meet.

[Guest ortrud45]

As logical as Devon's announcement reads ... I think there must be something more to it: either he has so many clients that he does not

want to meet new ones at this time or I could imagine that he is suffering from burn-out or that at 30+ he slowly wants to prepare for

his exit as an escort?

And I agree with above poster: that a guy who was barebacking at some time, now states that he is not bottoming any more because of his concern about health-issues (eventually tearing condoms) ... sounds a bit farfetched to me.

Of course I respect his decision and I think it's very fair and correct that his webpage clearly lets any new client know, that there

is no bottoming to be expected.

 

PS: I never have met Devon, so my thoughts are just a gut-feeling.

[Chuck50]

I have always been a fan of Devon met him last year on the east coast in Philly had a good time. I am very vanilla ,but got after him this past year as he told the world about his BB with the hot guy that he got to know. The Soldier I think. I love him, nice guy but the bottom line it is dangerous for any of us. HUGS Chuck:P

[Chuck50]

I have always been a fan of Devon met him last year on the east coast in Philly had a good time. I am very vanilla ,but got after him this past year as he told the world about his BB with the hot guy that he got to know. The Soldier I think. I love him, nice guy but the bottom line it is dangerous for any of us. HUGS Chuck:P

[Huey]

I have read the diary off and on though more off the past few months. It seems with each some new note Devon has put up a road block between him and his clients. Many on the surface are ful of common sense and in themselves nothing wrong with what he says. Yet it seems a bit of a stretch that he would have all therse issues hit him at once.

 

Now he doesn't bottom, I really don't care as I wouldn't hire Devon. His past barbacking experience and justification for it is a huge turn off for me and his current enlightenment is somewhat confusing .

 

I think I will follow my poster pal Lucky's idea of not following the "poop" of Devon's life as an escort anymore. I too would rather read about someone I actually know.

 

Huey (who normally would be working about now )

[Huey]

I have read the diary off and on though more off the past few months. It seems with each some new note Devon has put up a road block between him and his clients. Many on the surface are ful of common sense and in themselves nothing wrong with what he says. Yet it seems a bit of a stretch that he would have all therse issues hit him at once.

 

Now he doesn't bottom, I really don't care as I wouldn't hire Devon. His past barbacking experience and justification for it is a huge turn off for me and his current enlightenment is somewhat confusing .

 

I think I will follow my poster pal Lucky's idea of not following the "poop" of Devon's life as an escort anymore. I too would rather read about someone I actually know.

 

Huey (who normally would be working about now )

[Flower]

Sometimes it's best to take things at face value rather than read too much into a simple statement. :+

 

I have never met Devon and probably won't, but just because a guy WAS barebacking, IF that be the case, doesn't mean he can't get religion along the way and say NO to BB as well as other things. He says he never really enjoyed bottoming anyway, so why do it--period.

 

Health issues and priorities change and evolve for all of us. I feel differently about BB now than I did a year ago--but it took 2 very close, much younger friends of mine becoming poz to make me think more clearly on the issue.

 

That can happen to anone at anytime and since it's his ass, his body and his health, why even care or speculate on "other possible" reasons that go deeper than what he has stated?

[Flower]

Sometimes it's best to take things at face value rather than read too much into a simple statement. :+

 

I have never met Devon and probably won't, but just because a guy WAS barebacking, IF that be the case, doesn't mean he can't get religion along the way and say NO to BB as well as other things. He says he never really enjoyed bottoming anyway, so why do it--period.

 

Health issues and priorities change and evolve for all of us. I feel differently about BB now than I did a year ago--but it took 2 very close, much younger friends of mine becoming poz to make me think more clearly on the issue.

 

That can happen to anone at anytime and since it's his ass, his body and his health, why even care or speculate on "other possible" reasons that go deeper than what he has stated?

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>As logical as Devon's announcement reads ... I think there

>must be something more to it: either he has so many clients

>that he does not want to meet new ones at this time or I could >imagine that he is suffering from burn-out or that at 30+ he slowly >wants to prepare for his exit as an escort?

 

If I had so many clients that I didn't want to meet new ones, don't you think I'd either raise my rates or stop advertising, or both? As for "preparing for my exit," my decision to stop bottoming is, to the contrary, designed to further my longevity in the business, by sticking with the things I most enjoy and ditching activities that aren't so important to me. If you want the "more to the story," it's in the entry announcing my decision:

 

"The fact is, I'm a tight squeeze, always have been, and getting fucked has never been a staple nor a centerpiece of my sexuality. And while I've had some good experiences, it's also true that my few bad experiences since starting this job have involved bottoming, or trying to bottom, and lately I've been thinking why put myself and the other guy through it; why not just take the option off the table and go with my strengths anyway?"

 

>And I agree with above poster: that a guy who was barebacking

>at some time, now states that he is not bottoming any more

>because of his concern about health-issues (eventually tearing

>condoms) ... sounds a bit farfetched to me.

 

What's a bit far-fetched is zoom's characterization of me as "gleefully barebacking" at any point in my career. He is referring to an isolated incident, which I wrote about in my diary some months ago, in which I barebacked with someone I was seeing after we had both gotten our negative test results for HIV and STDs (and he had been tested several months in a row). I stated at the time that this was a highly unusual exception to a lifelong no-barebacking policy due to fairly unique circumstances. I then ran about a dozen emails from readers, some of which were critical of my decision. If had it to do again, truth be told, I probably wouldn't, mainly because it wasn't worth the disruption to my peace of mind. You can say I made a bad decision, and that's fair enough, but it's just not true that now I am somehow making a dramatic change in my sexual lifestyle.

 

That said, what amounts to a small adjustment -- dropping an insignificant part of my business, and one that I am least likely to enjoy anyay -- does mean I'll get fucked two or three dozen fewer times this year (I was averaging getting fucked two or three times a month), which, to my mind, does represent a tightening up on safety -- an appropriate one, in my view, given the issues Dan Savage raised in the column I linked to.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>As logical as Devon's announcement reads ... I think there

>must be something more to it: either he has so many clients

>that he does not want to meet new ones at this time or I could >imagine that he is suffering from burn-out or that at 30+ he slowly >wants to prepare for his exit as an escort?

 

If I had so many clients that I didn't want to meet new ones, don't you think I'd either raise my rates or stop advertising, or both? As for "preparing for my exit," my decision to stop bottoming is, to the contrary, designed to further my longevity in the business, by sticking with the things I most enjoy and ditching activities that aren't so important to me. If you want the "more to the story," it's in the entry announcing my decision:

 

"The fact is, I'm a tight squeeze, always have been, and getting fucked has never been a staple nor a centerpiece of my sexuality. And while I've had some good experiences, it's also true that my few bad experiences since starting this job have involved bottoming, or trying to bottom, and lately I've been thinking why put myself and the other guy through it; why not just take the option off the table and go with my strengths anyway?"

 

>And I agree with above poster: that a guy who was barebacking

>at some time, now states that he is not bottoming any more

>because of his concern about health-issues (eventually tearing

>condoms) ... sounds a bit farfetched to me.

 

What's a bit far-fetched is zoom's characterization of me as "gleefully barebacking" at any point in my career. He is referring to an isolated incident, which I wrote about in my diary some months ago, in which I barebacked with someone I was seeing after we had both gotten our negative test results for HIV and STDs (and he had been tested several months in a row). I stated at the time that this was a highly unusual exception to a lifelong no-barebacking policy due to fairly unique circumstances. I then ran about a dozen emails from readers, some of which were critical of my decision. If had it to do again, truth be told, I probably wouldn't, mainly because it wasn't worth the disruption to my peace of mind. You can say I made a bad decision, and that's fair enough, but it's just not true that now I am somehow making a dramatic change in my sexual lifestyle.

 

That said, what amounts to a small adjustment -- dropping an insignificant part of my business, and one that I am least likely to enjoy anyay -- does mean I'll get fucked two or three dozen fewer times this year (I was averaging getting fucked two or three times a month), which, to my mind, does represent a tightening up on safety -- an appropriate one, in my view, given the issues Dan Savage raised in the column I linked to.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I'll refund the cost of your subscription. :+

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I'll refund the cost of your subscription. :+

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

Devon,

 

If you were dating this guy exclusively (and he you), and you both had been tested, I personally don't see the problem with you guys having unprotected sex. Although you're still taking a risk in that a) he could be lying about being faithful and is having unprotected sex with other partners, and/or b) he became positive and the last test was taken too soon thereby not letting the antibodies time to develop.

 

When you put your life on display for the whole world, there will always be those who will be critical for something. And I'm assuming you know that too.

 

Although I don't agree with barebacking in general, I really don't see the problem with two committed (or dating exclusively) guys forgoing the condoms. If I ever meet someone and settle down in a monogamous relationship, I'll admit (at the risk of coming under everyone's wrath) that I'll be willing and actually wanting to ditch the condoms. It brings more intimacy. But I would have to trust the guy completely and wait about 6 months into the relationship for testing before having unprotected sex.

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

Devon,

 

If you were dating this guy exclusively (and he you), and you both had been tested, I personally don't see the problem with you guys having unprotected sex. Although you're still taking a risk in that a) he could be lying about being faithful and is having unprotected sex with other partners, and/or b) he became positive and the last test was taken too soon thereby not letting the antibodies time to develop.

 

When you put your life on display for the whole world, there will always be those who will be critical for something. And I'm assuming you know that too.

 

Although I don't agree with barebacking in general, I really don't see the problem with two committed (or dating exclusively) guys forgoing the condoms. If I ever meet someone and settle down in a monogamous relationship, I'll admit (at the risk of coming under everyone's wrath) that I'll be willing and actually wanting to ditch the condoms. It brings more intimacy. But I would have to trust the guy completely and wait about 6 months into the relationship for testing before having unprotected sex.

[BuckyXTC]

Guess I'm one who's enjoyed reading Devon's Diary. I enjoy reading it, because Devon, at least to me, seems to be an interesting, creative person. I've particularly enjoyed some of his artwork. To date I've never been to California, and have no immediate plans to do so, so hiring him is not a strong possibility. But if he lived here on the East Coast, I'd certainly give it strong consideration, even though I generally tend to gravitate more to the twinky guys.

 

In a nutshell, I think Devon is a good guy, above and beyond what he will do and won't do. When I'm hiring, that's an important consideration for me. It's about more than just sex, at least for me. If he's decided to take some steps in protect his health from the incipient risks associated with his chosen work, I think that's wise. I'd feel safer hiring someone like Devon who's honest and upfront about things, than some who might talk a good line but not follow through in actual practice.

[BuckyXTC]

Guess I'm one who's enjoyed reading Devon's Diary. I enjoy reading it, because Devon, at least to me, seems to be an interesting, creative person. I've particularly enjoyed some of his artwork. To date I've never been to California, and have no immediate plans to do so, so hiring him is not a strong possibility. But if he lived here on the East Coast, I'd certainly give it strong consideration, even though I generally tend to gravitate more to the twinky guys.

 

In a nutshell, I think Devon is a good guy, above and beyond what he will do and won't do. When I'm hiring, that's an important consideration for me. It's about more than just sex, at least for me. If he's decided to take some steps in protect his health from the incipient risks associated with his chosen work, I think that's wise. I'd feel safer hiring someone like Devon who's honest and upfront about things, than some who might talk a good line but not follow through in actual practice.

[Guest Pulsator]

I read Devon's diary occasionally and took advantage of his recent NYC trip (December) to finally meet and "rub the flesh" with him. My review took a long time getting posted on this site because the first attempt was lost in the black hole of Hooboy's December difficulties.

 

Anyway, from having spent an hour naked in bed with the man, I would say he is a very mature, thoughtful, creative person whose Diary is worth reading and whose physical and emotional presence is worth making the acquaintance. (And since I'm a big old bottom, his decision to stop doing passive anal as part of his escorting routine makes no difference to me, and would probably make no difference to lots of other guys.) I certainly hope he's still "in the game" the next time I get to San Francisco.... or that he had enough fun here in the Big Apple to consider a return engagement in the not too distant future.

[Guest Pulsator]

I read Devon's diary occasionally and took advantage of his recent NYC trip (December) to finally meet and "rub the flesh" with him. My review took a long time getting posted on this site because the first attempt was lost in the black hole of Hooboy's December difficulties.

 

Anyway, from having spent an hour naked in bed with the man, I would say he is a very mature, thoughtful, creative person whose Diary is worth reading and whose physical and emotional presence is worth making the acquaintance. (And since I'm a big old bottom, his decision to stop doing passive anal as part of his escorting routine makes no difference to me, and would probably make no difference to lots of other guys.) I certainly hope he's still "in the game" the next time I get to San Francisco.... or that he had enough fun here in the Big Apple to consider a return engagement in the not too distant future.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>When you put your life on display for the whole world, there

>will always be those who will be critical for something. And

>I'm assuming you know that too.

 

Yes, and not only that, but sometimes they'll be right, which is precisely why I've chosen to open myself to the criticism. Some of my most faithful readers regularly let me know they love me by boxing my proverbial ears, and it's very much appreciated. How good did it feel when a bunch of people I'd never met, or in some cases, had met only once or twice, wrote in to yell at me for the barebacking incident? Pretty damn good, because it showed that they cared, and that meant more than they knew.

 

That time I barebacked -- it did not meet your standard for an okay decision; I had known the guy only a month, and we didn't have a monogamous arrangement (though he told me, and I believe him, that I was the only person he'd hooked up with in quite awhile). As it happens I still don't believe he was lying to me about either his status or his recent sexual history, but still I concede that it wasn't the brightest thing in the world to do and is not a choice I would repeat.

 

But I'm glad I wrote about it, because my decision was one that many gay men face, and that entry generated some truly amazing letters from readers, who, unlike me, came of age in the pre-condom era and have a lifetime of experience dealing with this issue. It was a pleasure to read and post their varied perspectives. I think it was much better to write about it honestly than to sweep it under the rug, even if it cost me a few dollars. If some people want to not hire me or stop reading my diary to punish me for writing about a mistake I made while I was in the middle of making it, then that's their privilege and we probably wouldn't have been that compatible anyway. There are still plenty of clients out there who don't require their escorts to shit marble. :+

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>When you put your life on display for the whole world, there

>will always be those who will be critical for something. And

>I'm assuming you know that too.

 

Yes, and not only that, but sometimes they'll be right, which is precisely why I've chosen to open myself to the criticism. Some of my most faithful readers regularly let me know they love me by boxing my proverbial ears, and it's very much appreciated. How good did it feel when a bunch of people I'd never met, or in some cases, had met only once or twice, wrote in to yell at me for the barebacking incident? Pretty damn good, because it showed that they cared, and that meant more than they knew.

 

That time I barebacked -- it did not meet your standard for an okay decision; I had known the guy only a month, and we didn't have a monogamous arrangement (though he told me, and I believe him, that I was the only person he'd hooked up with in quite awhile). As it happens I still don't believe he was lying to me about either his status or his recent sexual history, but still I concede that it wasn't the brightest thing in the world to do and is not a choice I would repeat.

 

But I'm glad I wrote about it, because my decision was one that many gay men face, and that entry generated some truly amazing letters from readers, who, unlike me, came of age in the pre-condom era and have a lifetime of experience dealing with this issue. It was a pleasure to read and post their varied perspectives. I think it was much better to write about it honestly than to sweep it under the rug, even if it cost me a few dollars. If some people want to not hire me or stop reading my diary to punish me for writing about a mistake I made while I was in the middle of making it, then that's their privilege and we probably wouldn't have been that compatible anyway. There are still plenty of clients out there who don't require their escorts to shit marble. :+

[Bilbo]

I read Devon daily. It's the first thing I read when I come here, unless the cover man is definitely someone whose review must be read right away.

 

I have to admit to a little confusion in that the original dairy page that announced this plan referred to the dangers of anal intercourse on the first date and it seemed, at least to me at the time, that Devon was going to still occaisionally do anal passive, just not as part of the first sexual liaison with anyone. Now it seems like he is saying that he will never do anal positive with a client and I missed the transition between the two stances, if there was one.

 

Was I disappointed? Yes, there goes a part of one of my favorite fantasies. Would I still hire him? Yes. Since he is still into tit work, flogging and oral, he is still enough of a bottom to interest me. }(