Advice to Providers - Compensation for Chatting

[EastCoastBtm]

Just some thoughts and observations from my own personal experience....

I've hired on and off for over a decade.  I have found that I personally need a little 'chemistry' with someone to really 'get off'.  As such, I'm enjoy engaging with someone, usually over text or chat on RM, to get to know one another a bit - and I'm willing to compensate for that time.  Yes, it includes what we're both 'into', and can include any questions about actually meeting and anything that entails, but I also like to find what else we could enjoy together - food, movies, video games, theater, sexual fantasies, how to please each other.

I think many guys are surprised I'm willing to pay for chat given the very understandable attitude about endless chatting that leads to nothing or a provider who feels like they are being used for just sex talk.  I respect my possible provider's time is valuable and therefore I should be willing to invest in a lengthier discussion for a 'vibe check'.  Its led to more repeat situations and some longer term regulars.  

Just wanted to give you what my expectations would be if I was the one approaching you....

Have a rate, just for chatting - I don't think the same rate as actually meeting should apply because we can both multi-task and you can continue to be available to 'meet' with another client.  But if you're just hanging, and don't mind texting or messaging, I guess - why not?

I'm respectful of your time, please be respectful of mine - The biggest turn off is agreeing to chat, but then having to wait several minutes or hours or DAYS for a response - not cool - especially if I establish an expectation to be responsive and you agreed.  I also appreciate you have a life and others maybe approaching, but I don't think its a bad expectation that we can at least chat 20-30 minutes uninterrupted.  I'm not expecting instantaneous responses, but more than like 5 minutes can kill the vibe.  That being said - life happens - if you need to leave or I need to pause the chat for any reason, its cool.   It also doesn't mean it has to be a hard 'time allotment' either - I have a few guys that I text with often, and just shoot them something for some 'digital companionship'.

Given the likelihood of electronic funds transfer for chat... - Although I'm not super paranoid about sending something on something like CashApp, the digital world we live in is changing.  Visa walking away from RM is a perfect example.  Do you really need a CashApp name like "PoundYou4$$$"?  I made that up to be funny, but have had a couple that are similar.  May be a personal thing, but lets not make it obvious!

Don't make me do all the talking - Hopefully you feel comfortable enough to ask me questions.  Be engaging.  Take an interest.  I'm willing to invest to get to know you, but hoping you will want to get to know me.   

Certainly open to advice or suggestions, but thought I would share my experience!

 

Also wouldn't mind paying a provider I might want to hang with IRL to play video games with online - if you are out there, hit me up!  Will compensate you for playing time!

[Wings246]

Do you have any rough idea about the rates that you'll be comfortable with (for texting / chatting / video gaming, etc.)?  And will the rates vary based on the locations of the providers?  What you are asking for, in a strange way, is analogous to work-from-home arrangements.  We all know people who WFH receive less compensations than those who have to work at the office (just like in-call and out-call rates are different).  It is then determined by geographical and other cost-of-living factors.  I think setting up an agreeable rate and acceptable parameters for the interactions may be challenging.

[You_Can_Turn_Over]

2 minutes ago, Wings246 said:

Do you have any rough idea about the rates that you'll be comfortable with (for texting / chatting / video gaming, etc.)?  And will the rates vary based on the locations of the providers?  What you are asking for, in a strange way, is analogous to work-from-home arrangements.  We all know people who WFH receive less compensations than those who have to work at the office (just like in-call and out-call rates are different).  It is then determined by geographical and other cost-of-living factors.  I think setting up an agreeable rate and acceptable parameters for the interactions may be challenging.

It could all get so complicated.