Safety issues on RM

[nomad]

Being discreet and using common sense.  I can understand guys wanting to protect themselves since many have friends and families that don't know they are doing this for a living or as a side hustle. The reality is most of us have much at risk either personally or professionally to han they do.  

Ask for quick video call for new hires. Reach out to recent reviewers to get more details and confirm deets.  Make sure the provider knows what I'm looking to do and they are agreeable to it upfront. 

Never bring anything with me to meets other than limited cash for the fee.  Give first name only.  Hotels so I don't have clean up after myself.   I leave a tip for the cleaning person as a courtesy and apology for the mess.  😆

[marylander1940]

On 7/10/2025 at 4:46 AM, Rgsnva said:

I am starting to be really concerned about hiring from RM. Given the info shared in the long thread in The Deli about a provider who is clearly mentally ill and at least wants to appear dangerous, I’m wondering why his profile is still active and lists no negative reviews.  Adding a couple of my own experiences: one in which a provider threatened me with several actions like sending dangerous people to my house and showing up at my workplace unless I gave him money, and another in which a provider stole money from me.  In both cases, I submitted RM reviews and had email conversations with RM customer service in which I submitted our messaging which clearly showed I was being truthful. In both cases, my review was not published and the profiles remained active, with RM explanations that it’s not their responsibility.  So no wonder most providers have all 5 star ratings,   I know that aren’t legally responsible, but doesn’t seem like great service to either providers or clients if clients bail from the site because it isn’t safe.  
I suppose I have 3 questions for the hive mind: Is RM safe and do others also think they need to be more responsive to security issues? If I give up on RM, are there any other options? And lastly, what do y’all do to ensure your safety when hiring?

Thanks, all.  

Either you've been extremely unlucky or you picked the wrong kind of guys. 

You can always ask on here whether to hire someone or not. Considering your record I think you should start doing it 

I'm glad you reported him but sometimes it takes several negative reports for RM to do something even though you clearly made the case.