What do escorts tell their parents?

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

I'd be interested to hear from escorts about what they tell their parents they do for a living (assuming they don't have a "regular" job). Especially those who have been doing this for some time now.

[johnnysneakers]

The total lack of response is an indication of the answer to this question!!!

[Rick Munroe]

I told my parents that I was a whore.

 

My father said, disappointed, "We sent you to an ivy league school and you graduated with honors. You couldn't at least be a pimp??"

 

My mother said, "How ironic...your brother (the accountant) has a bigger dick!"

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

With the exception of Rick, who did such a fine job removing the stains from my couch, the silence is deafening.

 

I seem to have it a nerve.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

>I seem to have it a

>nerve.

 

(I really should preview my posts before entering them.)

 

I seem to have HIT a nerve.

[Justice]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-21-01 AT 09:45AM (EST)[p]

>(I really should preview my posts

>before entering them.)

 

 

Don't you just hate when that happens! ;-) (That's why a lot of my posts -- including this one -- frequently show that they've been edited!)

[Guest curious2000]

What if the question was reversed and asked: How many clients tell their parents they hire male esorts for sexual pleasure? I think the same silence would be deaffening. In other words,there are just some things you never should tell your mother or father: Either that you escort for a living or hire escorts for fun ;-)

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

Your turn around of the question made me think about the couple of cases I have heard about in the past few years where parents have been charged by police for hiring male strippers for teen age girl parties. I have also always heard stories about fathers/older brothers etc hiring hookers for guys.

 

<sigh> How happy would i have been when I was younger if Mom and Dad had said "OMG all As again? Dam for that you get the male escort of your choice for the night!"

 

Dam my parents ;-)

[Guest pickwick]

It's a question that should be answered by people who maintain that being an escort is a perfectly decent and respectable way to earn a living. People who believe that should have no problem telling their parents what they do.

[+ deej]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-21-01 AT 01:25PM (EST)[p]I suspect this will vary as much by individual as body hair. :-)

 

I've talked about this with several porn stars, and sure enough each has a different story to tell. They range from "they don't even know I'm gay" to "oh, they know everything". One of them experienced some angst when his ex's parents saw him interviewed on Cinemax's "101 Rent Boys". LOL

 

Do you tell your parents your salary? Do you tell your parents what you paid for your home? Do you tell your parents what you spend on porn rentals? Do you tell your parents how often you have sex? Do you tell your parents what you like to do in bed? (i.e. does your mom know you like to get fucked?)

 

Every one of us will have a different answer to each of these questions. Why would the question of escorting be any different?

[Guest luha]

Never mind parents - do you tell your closest friends that you hire escorts ?

[Guest JustANametoPlay]

There is just some information I don't always feel comfortable sharing with close friends. It goes back to that old Catholic guilt I have mentioned before. In addition to the guilt, for me there was always a sleaze factor about going to a strip club. In my mind I always kind of thoght about perverts going to strip clubs etc. Then I realized that I go and for the most part I am relatively normal. Now my pals are aware that from time to time I go.

[Bilbo]

I never did tell my parents, but as someone just said there are a lot of things I never told them. Some things were just so natural to me that they didn't seem important enough to bother them with. At other times, I realized that although something is beautiful, natural and aboveboard does not mean that it will always or has always been that way. My mother, by then a widow of many years, once turned to me and out of real intellectual curiousity asked me how it could have happened that my father was so by the book and I was so behemian. She's been gone herself three years now and this was about a year before she left for Heaven, so I can't remember if I was actually quickwitted enough to make this reply, or if I only stitched in into the scene later - "Well, Mom, I'm pretty by the book, too. It's just a different book now."

 

I told everyone whom I knew here in Houston, until I was sure that they were all bored with the subject, and then I was highly surprised occaisionally to find out that someone didn't know, about my escorting. I've never been very popular nor politically successful, just well loved, so I won't blame my failures there on people knowing. The only response that bothered me was when nearly everyone assumed that my escorting and my massage were the same thing. In fact, it was at least five years after I started doing massage, too, that I willingly did my first erotic massages and started studying how to do them better.

 

My family, though, is very close in each other's hearts, but not geographically. I told my gay cousin before my arrest and my big sister after it, but they are the only family members who know. My big sister's children are out of the nest, but my little sister is definitely defined mainly by her parenthood. So why trouble her? Well, I do wish she could see my new website, but ... (Not quite up yet, let y'all know when it is.)

[Guest pickwick]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-21-01 AT 03:55PM (EST)[p]In re Deej,

 

Do you not see a difference between telling your parents how much money you make and telling them what you do for a living? Just as there's a difference between telling them how much you paid for your home and telling them where you live?

[Guest]

>

>Never mind parents - do you

>tell your closest friends that

>you hire escorts ?

 

I've told my closest friend. I've even strongly suggested that he hire escorts himself. I told him it's one of life's greatest pleasures--or I would almost say privileges. If you look at it from a biological perspective, that is to say that the purpose of life is to reproduce ones DNA, it would follow having sex is one's raison-d'etre. In other words, life has no meaning if you don't hire escorts! :7

 

On the other hand, one would have to be pretty distant emotionally from one's family for them not to at least suspect something regarding their son being an escort, if he does it full-time. How can one meet one's expenses without a good source of income? I would be proud to have some of these better escorts as my sons. Hell, I'd love to adopt some of these guys! :9

[Justice]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-21-01 AT 10:15PM (EST)[p]Parents always worry about their kids ... it doesn't matter if the kids are 3 or 33 or any other age. There's nothing wrong with being an escort, but the potential health issues alone would be enough to give the most open minded parents cause for concern. So, even though escorts have nothing to be ashamed of ... why should they give their parents something else to worry about? (The same thing goes for those of us who hire.)

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

Other than Rick, NO ONE has answered the question. Interesting.

 

I'm referring to those guys who have NO OTHER source of income - not the ones who have a regular job and do this on the side.

 

If you're living in NYC or LA or wherever, and, to your parents, you have no job, I'm merely wondering what these guys tell their families that they do to make ends meet.

 

This is NOT a post about the moral or ethical merits of escorting, so let's all lighten up.

[RM]

Well speak of the devil. That story is in the news here THIS WEEK. More in TODAY's paper. Front page today and Thursday. The foster mother is charged with 14 felonies; the strippers with almost as many. http://www.fresnobee.com/localnews/story/0,1724,259679,00.html

 

The TV news keeps showing the strippers web page. Darn - I can't find it now.

[Guest eric922]

Try -

http://Http://www.badboyzproductions.com

[Guest youngblood]

Fin, do you really think that Rick Munroe's posting on this thread was a serious answer to your question?

[Guest pickwick]

>This is NOT a post about

>the moral or ethical merits

>of escorting, so let's all

>lighten up.

 

You're free to express your curiosity about any aspect of this situation that interests you. What I'm curious about is whether people who think escorting is a positive thing really act in a way that's consistent with that opinion.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

LAST EDITED ON Apr-22-01 AT 10:09PM (EST)[p]I doubt the topic is intentionally brought up by escorts and if it comes up I expect the anwers are as varied as the escorts.

[+ deej]

>In re Deej,

>

>Do you not see a difference

>between telling your parents how

>much money you make and

>telling them what you do

>for a living?

 

Yes, but I don't understand how anyone can get their panties bunched up over it the way you have. ;-)

 

Until you're in their shoes, you won't know how YOU will react much less how anyone else would. (shrug)

[Guest pickwick]

>>In re Deej,

>>

>>Do you not see a difference

>>between telling your parents how

>>much money you make and

>>telling them what you do

>>for a living?

>

>Yes, but I don't understand how

>anyone can get their panties

>bunched up over it the

>way you have. ;-)

>

 

I've noticed you're awfully quick to insult other people on these boards. First BostonGuy, now me. Why? Do you get off on it?

 

>Until you're in their shoes, you

>won't know how YOU will

>react much less how anyone

>else would. (shrug)

 

What is that supposed to mean? The whole point of this thread is to find out what people are doing in that regard. If I wasn't interested in the subject, I wouldn't bother to participate.

[Guest alanm]

I have read through about 20 posts without coming upon a real answer. What are the choices? It has to be something where they are out most evenings and may be out of town for days at a time,

with only the possibility of a cell phone call. There are several possibilities. The food industry (catering) and the fashion industry seem like good bets. I am sure there are others.