Virgins and Escorts

[Guest slimskate]

I'm a virgin -- I've never been with a guy. And I'm stressed about this. It's not that I'm not good looking or anything, it's just that I'm shy, don't know what to do, and too stressed about all this.

How did I let this get so far?

So I thought - hey - an escort! It'll give me a chance to learn what's "involved" -- and help me de-stress.

And this website seems like an awesome way to see what's available.

But still the whole idea seems wierd. How can I really pick the right dude to de-flower me? From this website? And how far should we go the first time?

And how fuckin' wierd will it be when he shows up at my door? (after I stress while he comes over.)

And, to help you understand why I'm so nervous about this ... I'm 35 years old - so that makes me feel like a looser for taking so long to come out.

 

ugh.

[liubit]

Hey, slimskate, please don't feel like a loser! I was a "male sex virgin" myself until the ripe age of 34, when I had some unsatisfying, sleazy, anonymous backroom adventures. I finally had the courage to hire my first escort at 36, and boy, it was great! The Internet was not big then, and there certainly was no site like this one, a fabulous jewel for escort references, so I did have a few "bumpy" encounters. I've been meeting escorts now for 6 years, and I think I know the scene pretty well, at least in New York. Where are you? What are you looking for? What kind of guy turns you on? Don't be too shy and you'll have a great time. E-mail me at <numerito@yahoo.com> if you think I might be of help. Good luck! :-)

[Guest Merlin]

By all means hire an escort, and don't worry. While you will feel nervous before meeting him, once you hug him and he starts to disrobe, the old hormones will take over. He will not push you to do anything you don't feel like doing, but you will be surprised how little shyness you will feel once you get started. You are probably a little worried that he may be judgmental about your looks, your body, your lack of experience etc. Not to worry. Most of his clients are older than you and probably not as good looking. He learns to accept what comes or he would not be in business long. If you prefer, tell him of your inexperience, he won't think it is unusual and will probably go out of his way to make it a good experience. Finally, don't worry about your nervousness prior to meeting him. Anticipation is part of the fun, and you will always feel it. Its like waiting to open a surprise present. I would suggest you meet in a hotel room or in your home, rather than going to his place. You will feel more comfortable. Read up on safe sex and decide firmly in advance what you will not do. Escorts practise safe sex, but you cannot rely on anyone else to protect you. Have fun.

[Will]

Ditto! From my viewpoint, thirty-five seems young indeed. Anyhow, men are at their sexiest in their thirties and forties, so you waited until just the right moment! I was thirty-four when I finally and truly came out, and haven't looked back since. The only thing worse than being stressed out about how much time you have wasted would be to waste more time. And now that Saint HooBoy has come to your aid, you're in the right place.

 

You don't say where you live. It would probably help to tell us, because I am sure that the guys who contribute regularly to this site will be more than happy to give you sound advice. Nobody can take away your nervousness or your feeling weird until the moment itself actually arrives. And then it's between you and the escort. But I think you are very, very wise to take your "problem" to a professional expert first. At all events, I can only imagine that an escort whose reviews on this board have been consistently strong would consider it a kind of honor -- I'm not being ironic here, but serious -- to help you enter into the great tradition. Good luck! You've already taken the correct first step by bringing your inquiry here.

[Justice]

LAST EDITED ON Mar-03-01 AT 09:09AM (EST)[p]Excellent advice Guys!

[Justice]

You're not alone. Many guys don't come out until later in life. You've come to the right place. This site will be invaluable in helping find the right guy for you! If you're in New York, than may I suggest that you consider seeing Rick Munroe? Check out his reviews -- particularly Review # 17 which describes a situation that's similar to yours. Rick's a very special guy. He'll not only make sure that you enjoy the experience, but that you also proceed at your comfort level.

If you're not in New York, then check out the reviews of all the guys in your area. Hopefully you'll find someone who meets your needs. Good luck!

[Guest LG320126]

LAST EDITED ON Mar-03-01 AT 11:02AM (EST)[p]Dear Slim,

 

Don't feel like you're the Lone Ranger here. At 35 you have a long and hopefully happy sex life in front of you. Being an older, married with children type guy, I just finally experienced what I have been wanting to experience for many many years last year at the age of 51 and I am ecstatic about it. I was nervous just as you describe and will probably continue to be everytime I hire a new escort, but I truthfully tell you here that I have not had a bad experience and my escorts have made me feel so good and welcome and comfortable that I usually cannot wait to see them again. Use this service of HooBoy to kind of choose what you are looking for, communicate with the escort what your likes/dislikes are and that you are new to the scene and I am sure you are in for a good experience.

 

Good luck!

[Rod Hagen]

Congratulations Slim, you've made the decision to improve the quality of your life 110%. This is not something you should feel bad about, you should be thrilled.

 

Choose the right escort, and you will be overjoyed that you’ve unlocked this amazing internal capacity for joy. And you will not believe how serene you'll feel resting peacefully on a man's strong chest after sweaty and intense fun.

 

It does not matter how long you've waited (Believe me, many men wait a LOT longer; some forever), Your overwhelming feeling will be of relief, relief that you never need to look back and that your entire future of being comforted in Men's powerful loving arms now lies before you.

 

I envy you. Congratulations.

 

My Reviews: http://207.14.53.20/reviews/rodhagen.html

 

-Hagen

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Guest Monopolizer]

LAST EDITED ON Mar-03-01 AT 01:01PM (EST)[p]I didn't have sex with a man until I was 35 and it was nice and wonderful but it was with someone who was relatively inexperienced. I suggest you hire one of the escorts on this site who has a lot of good reviews. If you are in L.A. I suggest Rod Hagen or Brett Silvers.

 

You will be so happy when you go through with it.

 

Good luck.

[CT Dick]

Merlin has given you great advice.

I would disagree about one thing:

 

>If you prefer,

>tell him of your inexperience,

>he won't think it is

>unusual and will probably go

>out of his way to

>make it a good experience.

 

I would recommend telling him it is a first time. A good escort will see to it that it is a special event.

 

I suspect that most of them assume that their clients are experienced. I'm sure they would get an extra thrill out of deflowering a youngster like you.

[Justice]

Slim,

 

I expect that you'd get a similar enthusiastic response from almost any good escort.

 

Justice

 

P.S. Rod, please tell us what you really think! ;-)

[Guest slimskate]

Guys- thanks so much for the positive encouragement. It really helps a lot.

I suspect that my inexperience and fear is what sabotaged potential relationships I've had in the past.

It's still going to take me a bit more time to gather the courage to send off that email to an escort, but I think I'll be able to do it soon.

Thanks again!

And I'll let you know what happens next...

[Rick Munroe]

>And you

>will not believe how serene

>you'll feel resting peacefully

>on a man's strong chest

>after sweaty and intense fun.

 

What is this, an ad for a Sealy Posturpedic mattress?

 

>your entire future of being

>comforted in Men's powerful loving

>arms now lies before you.

 

Umm...he might just want to suck a dick or get laid.

But that was a nice selection of ad copy from your website, anyway.

[Rod Hagen]

LAST EDITED ON Mar-04-01 AT 03:37AM (EST)[p][>But that was a nice selection

>of ad copy from your

>website, anyway.

 

And the part about "internal joy" was from the play "Jeffrey". You caught me Rick; kudos. You missed your calling, with such investigative talents you should have become a Private Dick. Oh wait, I guess you did..become a dick that is.

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Rod Hagen]

> If you are in L.A. I

>suggest Rod Hagen or Brett

>Silvers.

 

...or Monopolizer. He's a sweetheart, with an equally sweet butt.

 

Sorry I missed you that recent evening Monop. NEXT TIME for sure.

 

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[Rick Munroe]

>Oh

>wait, I guess you did..become

>a dick that is.

 

Yeah, but mostly an ass, too.

 

xoxo Rick

[CT Dick]

Slim, where are you?

 

Guys on this site may have good recommendations for you if they know where you live.

[Guest Kevin 2]

Slim,

Take the wonderful advice that has been given to you from everyone on this site. As far as getting your courage up to e-mail an escort...I say JUST DO IT! and remember that you are anynomous when you send an e-mail. I waited until I was 29 to finally try my first male to male experience. I only wished I had not waited so long...all those waisted years Also for you information I decided to hire an escort for my first time. Everthing worked out fine. I only wished I had known about this site then.

[Justice]

I still say that the two of you should get together! }>

[Guest EvilSwine]

Nyahh...35?...pfftt...I'm 40....don't feel so bad....

[Guest Jacee]

Michael Vincenzo would be a EXCELLENT choice for a first time experince.. He's Awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest slimskate]

Well, It's been almost 2 months since I found this site and posted about being a virgin.

 

The support I got from this group was outstanding. And I even met an online friend with whom I've been discussing this as it's progressed.

 

(Does this sound like an academy award acceptance speach?)

 

Well guess what... last week I did it! I had a date with Rod Hagen here in Los Angeles (I just send in my review today) It went great.

 

I was expecting to be so nervous - but the whole thing was so smooth, so easy, so much fun. I'm really surprised at how calm I was - it made me wonder why I had waited so long.

 

It's only been a couple days, but I feel so much more at ease. Comfortable with myself. (does that sound corny?)

 

And I feel like... had I done this before I wouldn't have screwed-up my previous relationships. Ok world - bring on the dates!!!

 

Thanks again everyone!

 

Life - let's get going.

 

 

 

P.S. I have a feeling my next posting is going to be about going to bars alone... I don't have a lot of gay friends, and the idea of going out alone to a bar makes me really uncomfortable...

[Guest AllAmerEscrt]

I first want to congratulate you for more than there are words to express. Not only did you take a huge step by deciding to explore and learn more about you, but you did so in an open forum, and even asked for help or advice. I am happy you took your time in making a VERY wise choice. I know that a "first experience" can mold a person outlook and ultimately their self-image. I do not know Rod personally, but have been nothing but impressed with the posts, reviews, and other related material I have read of his.

Which leads me to the second reason for my post, and that being to give a huge amount of credit. I know that you had posted on this topic from the early stages and seemed to understand that the author was being sincere. I know a lot of escorts who might have not been experienced enough to handle the emotional aspect of providing not only a positive first time, but a memorable one. I hope sometime when I am out in LA I might get to meet you? But in any case, Bravo, job well done!

 

Matt

Tampa

http://www.allamericanmat.cjb.net

[Guest Merlin]

For your first bar you might consider Numbers in West Hollywood. The younger guys you see are likely to be escorts and you may find it easier to approach them. About 7pm or so is best and the weekends are busier than weekdays. A young guy off by himself or on the balcony is certain to be an escort. In any event everyone know it is an escort bar so he will not be offended.

[Bilbo]

Or you could hire someone to go to the bar with you. That would seem to be a natural part of hiring an escort overnight, but there are also other professions that could help you here - I am thinking of Sacred Intimates (as defined by Body Electric and others).

 

http://rainbowprod.com/bilbo