Co-Workers, Competitors, or Friends?

[OneFinger]

The thread on client reviews has me puzzled about the relationship between escorts. Do escorts view other escorts as co-workers, competitors, friends, or ...?

 

Let's assume I own car repair business in Smalltown, USA. I would NEVER go to another car repair business and suggest we share information on our clients. As a business owner I would try to protect what little info I may have on my clients so I could provide more personal service and keep them as clients.

 

Likewise, let's take hair stylists. I can just imagine Bob at Cuts Are Us getting a phone call from Peter at the Dollar Barbershop. Perhaps the conversation would be:

 

[ol]Hello, Bob? This is Peter. OneFinger just set up an appointment with me and he's looking for a haircut. How does he usually like it?

 

Hey Pete, good to hear from you again! OneFinger is really particular about his sideburns. Make sure they are level and cut straight. I usually sight in the bottom of the sideburn with the bottom of the nostril.

 

Bob, that's a great idea. Thanks. Any other tips for dealing with him?[/font color]

 

Sure, Pete. Don't spend too much time washing his hair. It really turns him on when you're massaging his scalp and he usually pops a woody. That bothers other clients in the salon so just give him a very quick shampoo.[/font color]

 

Oh my Gawd, I wondered why he asked if I did shampoos![/font color]

 

Yeah, that's the same shit he used to pull on me. If you're not careful he'll start playing with himself under the smock and then you've got real trouble. But, if you want a good tip, make sure to "accidentally" rub your crotch up against him while you're cutting his hair. He really like the feel of your cock rubbing against his arm.[/font color]

 

Hey, he's beginning to sound like a pervert. Why is he coming to me now instead of you?[/font color]

 

Well, last time he told me he only wanted his "usual" haircut and I only booked him a 20 minute appointment. But, when he showed up, he told me he wanted shampoo, cut, blow dry, ear hairs trimmed, and a bikini wax. Plus, he didn't want to pay extra for the other services. These things aren't free and he got a little upset when I charged him for the extra services and time. [/ol]

 

So, what makes it different for escorts? If I were an escort, why would I "assume" a competitor would give me accurate info on someone that he has previously serviced?

 

Are there so many clients that escorts don't feel the need to try and foster repeat business?

 

What kind of relationship do escorts have with their peers? Are the co-workers, competitors, friends, or ...? And, why is another escorts opinion valuable to you?

[Epigonos]

OneFinger your analogies aren't quite right. I know escorts who share clients without jealousy. I know guys who exhibit great loyality to their tax preprarer, their doctor and their barber. However, these same guys would never repeat with an escort. I know escorts who, because of the unique nature of their business, seek out the friendship of other escorts because, for if for no other reason, they can be completely honest with them regarding the trials and trivializations of their work. In fact I have always been suprised by the lack of jeaoulsy and sense of comaraderie many escorts exhibit toward each other. Now I am totally aware, like all who read this site regularly, that there a some very notable exceptions to what I have just stated.

[JT Brooklyn]

Epignos...IF only it were True 100% of the time. But as we all see, "Jealousy' does from time to time show it's "Sarcastic Ugly" side even around here!

 

It's down to only one Working Guy, so Naturally not as obvious. But it does exist as part of Human Nature! :P

[Epigonos]

JT absolutely NOTHING including this statement is 100% true!!!!!

[Steven_Draker]

I've met about two dozen fellow escorts in different circumstances. With some I worked together (threesomes are fun), some other I met socially (what about a coffee?), some other for hot extra-circular fun (I'm lovin' it) and 2 become very good friends. The latter I won't disclose, because I'm being very 'egoistical' here and I want to keep them for myself.

 

I like to meet fellow escorts for different reasons. One of them is compare notes and exchange some experience and techniques or just for good conversation and sometimes hot action. Here I have to emphasize that I don't exchange any information about clients because of my privacy policy. Whatever happens between a client and me remains private and I don't share it with other escorts.

 

Steven Draker ~

http://www.rentboy.com/location/getrb.asp?rentboy=67813&Location=49

 

 

"Some" people are better to be ignored.

[JT Brooklyn]

Epignos...You're Probably right. But I did apparently make my point also! LOL :P

[Boston Guy]

Sounds pretty damned sensible to me.

 

I cannot imagine working in any field and not having friendly communication with others in the field. In my field, people tend to be quite well known and I have known many of the major players for years. Yes, we compete, but we also share drinks and stories and gossip. You never know who you might be working with next year, so it's good to treat everyone decently, the way you'd like to be treated. It's the old saying: "be nice to people on the way up because you never know who you'll see on the way down."

 

It's also good to remember that one's competitors are not one's enemies. (God, I wish people in Washington -- all people, all parties -- would remember this!) Competition is usually a good thing, helping us strive to be the best we can.

 

I'm glad you have escort friends with whom you can share thoughts about what you do.

 

BG

[+ Charlie]

I have known more than one escort who was actually "mentored" in the profession by other escorts.

[OneFinger]

>I know escorts who share clients without jealousy... I know escorts who, because of the unique nature of their business, seek out the friendship of other escorts because, for if for no other reason, they can be completely honest with them regarding the trials and trivializations of their work. In fact I have always been suprised by the lack of jeaoulsy and sense of comaraderie many escorts exhibit toward each other.

 

I can certainly understand the lack of jealousy because escorting is a business transaction with the client and not a LTR. But, you've pointed out something that I have noticed that I feel is somewhat unique among escorts - the level of comaraderie and friendship.

 

As others have pointed out, within an industry you know and interact (somewhat) with others at competiting companies. But I haven't observed the level of interaction, including sharing of client info, that I've heard proposed here.

 

You also make a valid point about one-time clients. That's usually the way I am when I'm on the road. But, in my hometown area, I definately have my "regular" escort.

[OneFinger]

Steven,

 

I've got to agree with BG when he state, "Sounds pretty damned sensible to me."

 

I really like your privacy policy. Glad that you (and probably others) are able to foster friendships/interaction among other escorts while not sharing client info.

[SAdler]

You bring up an excellent question which also is a great segway into another post I was going to make today after a horrific trip in NY. It all also touches back to the constantly considered idea of client reviews.

 

First off I'll say that Charlie hit it right on the nose when he brought up the idea of escorts mentoring other escorts and teaching them the ropes. I also have to just quote that scene in Circuit when the new guy protagonist meets the working boy and the new guy asks if he feels threatened about him being on his turf. The response?

 

"I'm not threatened at all. You're one type, I'm another."

 

As I said in the Escort Fees thread a while ago -- each escort is their own experience. Whereas a stylist or a car repair shop has the same general goal every time -- each escort can provide a different experience. It's not like I would lie to another escort friend to discourage them from working with someone because they're my regular, I'd have no problem telling them the truth. A lot of the time I make recommendations for other escorts because I'll be out of town and can tell the client someone good to use while I'm gone.

 

I wouldn't be upset or look at someone as a competitor unless all of the sudden this regular client stopped calling me altogether. Hasn't happened yet so I definitely can't say how I'd feel -- that's just my assumption of how those feelings would manifest.

 

As a whole I look at the escorting community (some at least) as a tightly knit group of individuals who understand each others needs and lives like Epigonos said. It's kind of like Doctors who are having a long shitty day and need someone that understands their issues.

[Guest ript4hire]

Co-workers AND Friends, I would say – never competitors.

 

I've never felt the competitive vibe with my escort friends. Sure

there can be flares of jealousy ("My client is taking me to the

Italian Riviera for a week ...") but mainly I am happy for their

successes. Besides, there is a lot of work for a good escort in New

York ... no need to worry that someone is going to take my piece of

the pie.

 

More than anything I am grateful to have people with whom I can talk

about the business. This industry presents some very unique

challenges, both physically and spiritually, and it is a relief to

be able to sit down and share thoughts and perspectives, without

worrying that you will be judged.

 

Beyond that ... good escorts are sexy, witty, personable and

wildly fun in bed … who wouldn’t want friends like that?!?! :9

 

Eric

[Guest Jesse Dane]

With the exception of 2 guys I have met, I would say that every escort I have met I have either become friends with or at least been on very friendly terms with even if we didn't get to know eachother extremely well.

 

In this business I have always found it a big help to have friends who know exactly what my life is like and only other escorts can really know that. I have sent business the direction of my escort friends many times and I have had them send business my way as well.

 

If we all work together I think things work out better for everyone in the end.

[Houston Bonfires]

I appreciate all the comments and it is gratifying to sense the comaraderie and friendship that exists in the industry. My only comment is that as Athan has learned be careful about the wrong service provider becoming jealous or pissed off.

 

HB

 

Look out . . . Barry's got the lock out key in hand.

[Curitibano]

Yeah, I always get a chuckle out of how nice the working boys play on here when they are posting something in public. And, I don't blame them for one minute. How stupid would they have to be if they came on here and posted how much they hate so-and-so, or how they feel this escort (or client) is a huge jerk, etc. Of course they are going to say that they are all friends and get along extraordinarily well.

 

That said, I know that there are many guys in the biz who get along extremely well and who are great friends and co-workers instead of enemies. I would think it would be extremely difficult to deal with everything that this "job" offers without having at least one other co-worker to chat with on a fairly regular basis.

 

However, I still take a lot of what is said in public on here by escorts with a grain of salt. At least when it comes to a subject that could adversely affect business. Any intelligent salesperson would do the same.