Empowering an “on call” bottom

[Guest]

I was trolling around on Grindr and stumbled upon a very sexy Colombian named Javier. 
 

I asked if he was interested in generous men and he said yes. 
 

We met. He wound up being a voracious, sub bottom. I fucked him and it was wonderful. Over the following week through text, he REALLY challenged me to explore my dom side with him and asked for another meeting. 
 

We met up again and he further brought the dom out of me. It was super hot. 
 

We had more meetings and the sex and chemistry just got better and better. I’m enjoying this dom, aggressive consensual approach to sex that we’re doing. We decided to take it one step further. 
 

For the past 3 Sundays, I shoot him a text with my schedule for the week when I’ll be home.  “Hey Jav, I’m free Monday, Tuesday and Thursday after 6:30, and Wednesday afternoon from 1-5.”  Then he just comes over unannounced during those windows. 
 

The rules are that he can’t come over back to back nights. If he comes over, he has to be prepared to bottom and he can’t tell me which nights he’s coming.
 

So now, every night I’m home I wait in anticipation of him just showing up. It’s been really thrilling and exciting.  I’m finding that I’m much hornier. I’m not wasting time on Grindr and he’s a bargain at $200 a session regardless of length of session. 

Anyone ever had a similar arrangement? Any suggestions for making it better or more things in a sub dom role to try? 

[MscleLovr]

3 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

Anyone ever had a similar arrangement?

Yes. I had two such muscleboy-bottoms, each for a few years. Both were inveterate gym-goers, had a submissive streak and were dedicated to pleasing a man. 
 

Unlike you @Coolwave35, I used to schedule the meetings as I enjoyed the anticipation and slowly getting ready for our date.

3 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

Any suggestions for making it better or more things in a sub dom role to try? 

Yes. After each session, in that post-coital glow, I’d talk over with the muscleboy what he’d liked most and what I’d really enjoyed, and we’d discuss what we might do next time. I’d be quite directive and detailed beforehand, as I found being dominant during the date isn’t necessarily enough for a good sub.
 

I’d tell my muscleboy how I wanted him to be dressed for our date - sometimes causal, sometimes smart formal dress as typically I like undressing my boy. Also I have an underwear fetish and so I’d specify briefs or jockstrap for the date. There would be a fun reward and a fun penalty: for compliance, a load in his mouth; for disobedience, being stripped naked and spanked.

Sometimes I’d get a few dildos/vibrators lined up. One sub really liked me using these on him first, whereas the other didn’t (he told me later) but liked how I just  did what I wanted to his ass. Both muscleboys loved being tied up. I bought various restraints and I’d make that a “special treat” for them. (It takes time and energy to tie a guy up!)

And I’d mix up the atmosphere for our dates. I might be romantic: undress them lovingly at the start but leave walking around naked while I was fully clothed, making drinks and chatting to them. Or I might be harsh: have the muscleboy strip and drop to his knees to suck me off straightaway, before I’d even greeted him. Another time, I’d use dirty talk sparingly: ask the sub why I should feed him my load or why they deserved to be fucked hard; tell them where I was going to deposit my load (on their tongue, on their abs or all over their face). Sometimes I took photos and gave them copies - both subs liked that. 

[+ Pensant]

Try putting your sub in chastity. I made one wear his for a week. I often make them wear tight cutoff jeans and riding boots. 

[Guest]

Thank you for the incredible suggestions. He keeps encouraging me through text to tell him what I’m gunna do to him, where I’m gunna put my load, how he should show up etc. you’ve opened my eyes to commanding my role better, thank you both. 

[MscleLovr]

19 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

He keeps encouraging me through text to tell him what I’m gunna do to him, where I’m gunna put my load, how he should show up etc.

You know him better than anyone @Coolwave35. To me, he sounds like a pushy little bottom who needs to be reminded you’re in charge. 

Tell him you’ll do what you want to him, depending on your mood.

Tell him you’ll put your load where you want, once you decide.

Tell him what to wear, and be very specific. For example:

if you want him in a jockstrap, specify the colour and make;

if you want him in white briefs, specify low-slung jeans to show the brand.
if you want him to wear a shirt, specify the colour and the number of buttons he should leave open to show his pecs

It might be very enjoyable to take your sub shopping 😉