Bareback escort

[Guest kenk0267]

To my surprise, on our first booking, my young escort complained about how the condom felt as I was topping him removed it and invited me to continue topping him bareback and pull out before I came. I think he is really on the edge here in terms of risk and how about me, what is the chance I could get the aids virus, of course I am putting myself at risk for various other STDS. What do you guys think?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Four words: WHAT ARE YOU THINKING?

 

Aside from a slow & painful death known as AIDS, why take the risk of any other permanent/semi-permanent STD out there? 'Pulling out' before shooting might be a plausable arguement when trying to not get your gal pregnant, but this is a totally different story.

 

Any escort who openly barebacks either has a deathwish, no respect for himself/clients or is a complete idiot. I'm thinking it's a combo of the three actually...

 

 

Would you say my opinion on this subject is crystal clear?

 

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[VaHawk]

Well, this guy thinks anyone who would engage in anal intercourse without a condom, top or bottom is a real idiot! And even worse, God forbid, they will then come on this message center and post about how wronged they were and how that guy should be prosecuted and thrown in prison.

 

If you're the bottom, remember than even precum can carry the AIDS virus, so pulling out before ejaculation is taking a real risk anyway. If you are the top, what about the bottom getting tears or having hemmarhoids and bleeding, especially if you scrape the family jewels while in the act - yep blood on blood exchange can pass on the AIDS virus.

 

And this doesn't even take into account the greater risk of contracting other STDs. x(

[VaHawk]

?Would you say my opinion on this subject is crystal clear?

 

Aahh, and therein lies the enigma. Nothing is clear when you are on crystal, it is just an all-encompassing fog of uncontrollable lust that clouds your mind and your judgement, as satisfying the lust is what rules your world at the time. Crystal meth will bring you death.

[+ deej]

Benjamin .... BRAVA!

[Doc]

Is this escort reviewed on this site? You should do a review to warn potential clients of the escorts, shall we say, stupid behavior.

[+ Lucky]

On a controversial topic like this, one hesitates to do a review that mentions the barebacking incident. It is the sort of thing that causes an uproar and the escort is then in the position of having to deny the truth of it. So the reviewer then is faced with a controversy about his own truthfulness. That doesn't mean the review shouldn't be written, but I can understand why it might not include this part.

[Guest man2man4u40]

>To my surprise, on our first booking, my young escort

>complained about how the condom felt as I was topping him

>removed it and invited me to continue topping him bareback and

>pull out before I came. I think he is really on the edge here

>in terms of risk and how about me, what is the chance I could

>get the aids virus, of course I am putting myself at risk for

>various other STDS. What do you guys think?

 

Besides the guy putting both you and him at risk, the other thing that strikes me is that this comment of the condom not feeling comfortable is one that I've heard from more than one guy who I've talked to. With the HIV infection and other STD's on the rise in our community, especially among younger men, I wonder how many guys take this risk for that reason? The efforts of condom makers has always been on how to make condoms feel like the guy is not wearing anything, not acknowledging that comfort for a guy could be not only for him wearing the condom but having it feel enjoyable when he's on the receiving end. Maybe this condom manufacturers should have a call for volunteers for a research project to test for all around comfort. I'm sure there will not be a lack of volunteers.

 

--Jack in SF

[Guest Merlin]

An escort that willing to bareback is probably no longer at risk. He is almost certainly positive. He continues to be at risk for other strains of the HIV virus which can complicate and impair his treatment, but he may not know or care. Barebacking is also a big risk for the top, and topping without a condom is considered the second most dangerous activity after bottoming without a condom. Topping bareback is particularly dangerous for the uncircumcised. Remember, bottoming bareback would not be a risk if there were no infected tops.

[AaronScottDC]

>To my surprise, on our first booking, my young escort

>complained about how the condom felt as I was topping him

>removed it and invited me to continue topping him bareback and

>pull out before I came.

 

Well, on a positive note, at least he took the condom off with your full knowledge and asked you to continue without it. Since you were fully aware of the situation, you could then make up your own mind about what you wanted to do next. He didn't try to slip it off secretly and put you in any danger unwillingly. I am certainly NOT saying that anyone should engage in bareback sex with an escort. All I am saying is that at least he didn't try to trick in any way.

 

If I were you in this situation, I would have either: a.) put on another condom and kept fucking him, or b.) stopped fucking him. Either option would have been fine with me.

 

Of course, there is a slight chance that he was just sore from getting pounded and was hoping that given the options I just outlined above, that you would choose not to fuck him anymore. Some people are just horrible about asking what they really want. Just a random thought.

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[+ Lucky]

I guess my question is just how uncomfortable a condom feels. It has never bothered me in this fashion. I've always thought that it bothered the top more than the bottom. Perhaps my mileage varies...

[AaronScottDC]

>I guess my question is just how uncomfortable a condom feels.

>It has never bothered me in this fashion. I've always thought

>that it bothered the top more than the bottom. Perhaps my

>mileage varies...

 

When properly lubed, the condom feels quite fine. Unless the escort was getting pounded for a long period of time, or many times in one day, then no amount of lube would help make it feel comfortable.

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[+ Lucky]

But then, is it the condom causing the discomfort? It seems that the pounding itself is the problem, which I concede the latex doesn't help...

I guess what I really think here is that the escort in question had no complaint about the condom, it was just an excuse to do what he relaly wanted, which is barebacking.

[Guest man2man4u40]

>I guess what I really think here is that the escort in

>question had no complaint about the condom, it was just an

>excuse to do what he relaly wanted, which is barebacking.

 

I have come to the same conclusion. I always try to give someone the benefit of the doubt but one can only go so far.

 

--Jack in SF

415-303-0221

man2man4u40@hotmail.com

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/man2man4u40

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Comfort vs. Discomfort

 

>I guess my question is just how

>uncomfortable a condom feels.

 

. . .

 

>I've always thought

>that it bothered the top more than the bottom.

 

 

 

 

IMHO, generally, tops who allege that they have a "latex sensitivity" or allergic reactions to latex (which, to be honest, can exist, but no in anywhere near the numbers frequently alleged by some gay men) or who state that they cannot get or maintain an erection with a condom (which, again in the interest of full disclosure, can certainly be true but is more pyschologically than physiologically based in nearly every instance), simply want to fuck someone without a condom.

 

Aaron is right in one respect: at least the matter was brought up and the opportunity to continue or decline to continue was present. I can think of any number of men who were the receptive partner (escorts, clients, friends or others I have simply spoken with) who told me that someone topped them without using a condom, without discussing status, without asking (the receptive partner) for permission or consent. In some instances, the men who spoke to me made the top stop and put on a condom (or simply stop, period), but in more than a fair number of instances, many assumed it was "OK" to continue or did not want to "spoil" the moment or some other thought along these lines, which I hate to say it, is essentially a rationalization on the part of either or both men in these situations.

 

 

>>It has never bothered me in this fashion.

 

. . .

 

>Perhaps my

>mileage varies...[/]

 

However, in your case, Lucky, maybe Shane Shivers has a special technique that keeps your mileage low and also provides the maximum amount of comfort? I could also make a flippant and hopefully humorous comment about certain proclivities of yours, ethnically speaking, but I would hate to make certain parties have to dig out a dictionary twice in one month.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Comfort vs. Discomfort

 

"I could also make a flippant and hopefully humorous comment about certain proclivities of yours, ethnically speaking, but I would hate to make certain parties have to dig out a dictionary twice in one month."

 

That's fine with me! I am always open to humorous remarks..

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Ben Franklin and John Adams both

 

walked into a bar and a Tory sympathizer turned to them both and said, "Be gone, your powers do not work here." and tossed a nearly full tumber of pale ale at them both. Remarkably, Mr. Franklin stayed completely dry while Mr. Adams was soaked to the bone.

 

Why?

[+ Lucky]

RE: Ben Franklin and John Adams both

 

Gore-Tex.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Great Minds

 

>Gore-Tex.

 

Ah, you heard the joke before . . . .

[Flower]

So the reviewer

>then is faced with a controversy about his own truthfulness.

>That doesn't mean the review shouldn't be written, but I can

>understand why it might not include this part.

 

....hmmmm, I thought we were all anonymous:+