Older Men

[Guest old_troll]

I was curious how some of the really nice, young excorts handle older, very out of shape men? I'm 50ish and let my body go to hell the past few years, being very short, but quite large around the middle, arthritic and bi. I don't want to be rejected by an escort when he comes to the door. I dress well and am clean, and still want that full action that I have fantasized about for years. What do I do? Now that I travel more for business without my wife, the opportunities are there!

 

Thanks,

[Chuck50]

I am your age and overweight and it isnt a problem with me just be up front about it. I have had some of the hot and most respected esorts and they all treat me like I dont have 5 heads. Its all in the attitude search the reviews on here and you can tell by the review and the clientell. I go to the section that talks about the person themselves and read. Ie: 5o yr old male overweight etc. I see how that escort treats guys. So don't sell your self short no pun intended. HUGS Chuck50

[Prime Muscle]

In a way, the response to this question is no different than most other posts -- it varies by the escort. Some escorts will not take on older clients, some will not take on overweight clients, some will not take on bald clients, etc., etc. But there are lots of escorts who do accept older men. I always suggest that you be upfront with the escort as much as possible before you meet. Let him know in advance what you are like and let him know what you are looking for. There is no reason to waste your time and energy only to finally meet the escort to find out it's a no-go.

[Guest old_troll]

Thanks for the vote of confidence! I do sell my self short. I always ask the escort before meeting what their likes are dislikes are. If he's not happy, it's doubtful that he'll make me happy.

 

Regards,

Horny Old Troll

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Greetings~

 

A client should NEVER, under any circumstance, feel that he should have to go out of his way to become someone else to impress an impending escort. If the escort you've chosen has even half a brain, he'll find something the two of you can 'click' on and go from there. There's so much more to sexual attraction than just weight issues.... Intelligence, charm, personality and the ability to ebb and flow with someone can be a complete turn on (well, for me at least).

 

IMO, escorts who bias when it comes to weight issues and outer beauty are worthless. If they would rather brush off a potentially amazing person just because they're not an adonis then that makes them an insipid, vapid person with a penchant for terrible business skills. Stick a fork in that kid, because his clientel won't last very long...

 

 

My advice? Find an escort you're comfortable with~ and then GO FOR IT! I wish you the very best of luck, hoping that things turn out for the best, and that you leave the encounter with a smile on your face.

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[email protected]

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[Traveller]

old_troll = o.t. = old testament = methuselah = meth = bumps = lengthy seshes of wild, sweaty sex. See, you should be fine.

 

Later.

[Huey]

You'll find that there is an escort for everyone no matter your age or looks . As already suggested be very honest about your age / looks / expectations when working to set an appointment.

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WAR IS OVER

if you want it

GIVE PEACE A CHANCE

[Guest Not2Kinky4me]

Hey Horny Old Troll, just some friendly advice....

 

Stop beating yourself up and start thinking positive. Make some very small physical goals you really want and take some baby steps.

 

Buff yourself up ... get a great haircut; if the grays are bad, dye your hair (and not too dark or pitch black for GODS sake); get a wax or buzz job if youre too burly and make sure those finger and toe nails are trimmed well and kept clean, make sure the hair isnt growin out of the nose and ears and trim the eyebrows if bushing out; make your biggest meal in the early afternoon or lunch and only eat fruit and drink alot of water after 7PM; cut some calories - not a mega amount, just 500 to start, etc.

 

I am NOT implying you are a mess or need to do all this stuff but YOU Are talking yourself down and maybe there is more than weight and age doing this this. Im just givin ya some examples to feel better about yourself.

 

Pamper yourself - Treat yourself well - YOU deserve it!; Do some crunches, push-ups, squats, curls, some areobics, and think of getting blown and fk'd but a hot dude while you do these exercises daily ; buy a new shirt or some funky new underwear that turns YOU on; buff those shoes; buy some new lite fresh cologne, and nice smelling deodorant AND great smelling fresh Deodorant soap (screw the Ivory stuff and I MEAN IT) ; and shower often - buy a shower massage or great bath beads; stand erect (no pun intended) in the mirror and focus on your posture and tell yourself youre worth it and not a troll; Make some small changes here and there; maybe look for an escort who is a physical trainer as well who'll understand youre predicament and help you;

 

AND stop calling yourself an Old Troll.

 

And please! Please change your handle to something like "Work in Progress" "39 And Holding" or "Sheddin More Than Shorts" I dunno, JUST SOMETHING VERY POSITIVE !!!!

 

Stop reinforcing the negatives and place positive reminders around!

 

In 4 weeks, the subtle changes will feed itself into more change and so on - Then You can Lie about your age like most others and get away with it ! hahahaha

 

YOU CAN DO IT! }>

[+ Lucky]

"be very honest"

Good advice, Huey. Mr. Troll, be very careful the wife doesn't find out!

[Guest Not2Kinky4me]

> IMO, escorts who bias when it comes to weight issues and

>outer beauty are worthless. If they would rather brush off

>a potentially amazing person just because they're not an

>adonis then that makes them an insipid, vapid person with a

>penchant for terrible business skills. Stick a fork in that

>kid, because his clientel won't last very long...

>

 

No offense, but you must be a superman and must think every man and woman can get turned on by every piece of flesh walking the earth.

 

Look, I understand what you are saying. And I agree there is more to a person than just his face, hair, weight, whatever - and that generally takes time to learn and is appropriate when developeing a "relationship" - that takes far more than 1 hour. So at the get-go, its going to be primarily physical that gets the dick up.

 

I dont understand how you expect each one of us should be turned on by anything and everything - if thats the case, then you should be screwing woman and every race, color or creed that walks the earth. Think about it man! There are things that make us all different and unique.

 

Lets be realistic here. Escorts are not supermen and no, I am not an escort.

[Guest Not2Kinky4me]

oooops, I forgot you were married.

 

Then dont change too much too fast - she may suspect.

 

But I still think you deserve to be happy and if that means you need to make a POSITIVE improvement here and there, then do it.

 

Peace and Good Luck.

[Guest jeffOH]

I've had clients who've apologized for being overweight, old or whatever. Unfortunately, none have apologized for being condescending assholes.

 

A client's weight, age or looks haven't been issues for me in 11 years of escorting. The things I've had problems with are attitude and hygiene.

 

My philosophy is that everybody needs some lovin' and I take pride that I can provide some of that to them. That and a good ass-pounding. ;-)

 

JEFF

[email protected]

[Guest bottomboykk]

The good escorts are able to handle guys of all types, regardless of physical attraction. The not-so-good ones aren't. Very simple.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Short

 

>Thanks for the vote of confidence! I do sell my self short.

>I always ask the escort before meeting what their likes are

>dislikes are. If he's not happy, it's doubtful that he'll

>make me happy.

 

I think Chuck50's advice was really good and to the point, about being honest with your escorts and doing your research.

 

I also think Bobby's advice (Prime Muscle) was also as to the point as BottomBoykk. However, there are two other issues in your initial posts:

 

1. How you feel about yourself, your own self esteem.

2. Having the opportunity to pursue your fantasies.

 

This issue has come up before on this site, but it is an important one. I do not feel it is necessary for you (or anyone else) to be a buffed body beautiful, whether it be for your partners in life or an escort, but for issues of your own health and well-being, maintaining a reasonable weight is something which all of us should pay attention to.

 

As for the rest, you have answered your own question. You should not sell yourself short. If you do not wish to dye your hair, do not do so, and so forth. I think anything which your medical provider might suggest (cutting out smoking, losing weight), we should all undertake at any age but the rest is as much as matter as being happy in yourself.

 

As for your fantasies, this is a different issue. The escorts who may more closely match some of your fantasies, at least in some of the cities which are on your travels, may not be as open minded as some of the young men encountered by Chuck50 or the other clients here on this site. You may, therefore, need to consider tempering your fantasies a little bit in order to get a complete experience. I do not feel you will need to look outside the age group you desire, you may just need to consider both geography and physical attributes and be prepared to compromise somewhat at least the first few times, while you experience the escort client relationship, and then pursue the more complete fantasy you may desire.

 

Best of luck to you and please certainly let us know how it goes!

[tedbear]

I'm a bit short of 50, but I'm a big guy. Just last Saturday I spend an evening with Bill from Portland, Oregon. Wow!

 

He began with the most erotic massage I''ve ever had. I'm saviing the rest of the experience for the review I'm going to be submitting, but if you're ever in Portland (or in a city he's visiting) be sure to see him. You won't be sorry.

 

You'll feel like a million bucks and you'll feel like the hottest thing around. Bill did things to me no one has done in years. He's a great kisser.

 

Other guys I can reccomment as a big guy: Rick Monroe, NYC; Jason, First Call Escorts, Chicago; Zsolt, Chicago;

 

Rick was one of the first guys I saw after a looooooooong dry spell due to a total lack of confidence in my self . I was too nervous to really enjoy myself, but Rick left me feeling much better about myself. This self-confidence has been improving ever since.

 

These are just a few suggestions. Hope you find a guy as great as the one's I've mentioned. I agree with the others who've said that an escort who rejects you due to anything you've expressed concerns about is an amateur. If you're spending the dollars to have a good time, be sure and hire a true professional!

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[Guest old_troll]

Damn I glad I joined this board. Thanks everyone for your very upbeat and encouraging words.

 

Hugs,

Troll

[Guest dstud4hire]

>The good escorts are able to handle guys of all types,

>regardless of physical attraction. The not-so-good ones

>aren't. Very simple.

 

AGREED! My clients have ranged in age from 19 to 75, thin to portly, black to white, gay to bi or so-called straight, single to married, muscular to out of shape.....and the only times that I have had a problem with getting excited and making the client feel incredible is either when the client has had a problem with being hygenic or if I have just booked too many in one week (which is rare, and I try not to do as a result.)

 

Byt the bottom line is...a good, professional escort does not discriminate on those basis alone and can make it work.....

[Guest 7Zach]

One other thought to posit...the fact that you have been married, I assume all these years, yet bi, let yourself go, etc. perhaps suggests depression. Exercising well help that a lot too if you are able to force yourself to start. Start small, but something everyday or at least every other day (I prefer something every day). Think of it as doing something for you. In terms of meds, you might want to consider that, keeping in mind some don't have negative sexual side effects whilst others do.

You only go through life once, so I assume you've been thinking the same thing. Best to you.

[Guest mc987us]

I have had the same experience with Bill from Portland. Just saw him on his recent trip to Chicago. I had lost a few pounds since our last visit (it had been about 6 mo). Bill commented on the weight loss and told me how great I looked!! I don't know if it was sincere or just good marketing.......Don't care, it felt good.

 

Bill, your Midwest fan club is expanding!!

 

Mark

[Flower]

RE: POSITIVE FEEDBACK :-) (FOR A CHANGE)

 

>Hey Horny Old Troll, just some friendly advice....

>Stop beating yourself up and start thinking positive.

>****

>AND stop calling yourself an Old Troll.

>And please! Please change your handle to something***JUST SOMETHING VERY POSITIVE !!!!

 

Your post above was great --it really was. Have you thought of being a motivational speaker

Although you discounted Benjamin's post, I thought it was very good also--while many cannot attain what Benjamin preaches, it is a worthy goal and the few escorts that meet it have more business than they know what to do with.

 

Flower :*

[Guest ballbulge lover]

Hi

I'm similar to your age and shape. I have an experience I want to share. I e mailed a guy I saw on rentboy.com. I told him my age and shape. He e-mailed me back that he's no longer escorting. HE"S STILL ESCORTING. I felt it would have been better if he just wrote 'not interested'.

Cliff:-(

[N.N.]

>The good escorts are able to handle guys of all types,

>regardless of physical attraction. The not-so-good ones

>aren't. Very simple.

 

I hire an escort to show me a good time. If he can, I'm happy.

I'm not paying him for his ability to do this for anyone else,

I'm paying for what he can do for me.

 

If an escort who pleases me can't also do as well for clients

who aren't his type, I really don't care whether bottomboykk

would declare him not-so-good, or whether Benjamin Nicholas

would call him worthless, insipid, and vapid.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Well, that's what makes me unique i suppose...

 

 

And no, i don't and have never claimed to be a 'superman' in any respect~ just an escort who has the ability to find beauty in rather small instances. I'm not here to convert, but to simply give another point-of-view, which if i'm not mistaken, isn't such a bad thing considering the amount of negative posts here lately.

 

Personally, i do have some visual attributes i like about men, but for the most part a keen intellect and razor-sharp wit will get me going faster than Delta Burke at a cheesecake convention.

 

Don't get me wrong... It's not that i have absolutely NO standards when it comes to potential clientel. I am simply saying that escorts who screen to a point of cutting off perfectly good clients who have no other issues than extra weight or are over 50 are worthless in my book. Most of my best clients sit in these two categories....

 

How's that saying go? ... 'The older the berry, the sweeter the juice?'

 

 

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[email protected]

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com

[Flower]

>How's that saying go? ... 'The older the berry, the sweeter

>the juice?'

>Warmest Regards,

>Benjamin Nicholas

You go gurl :9

 

Flower :*

[Gigiloz4me]

Chief...

 

Advise the escort without apology... continue to shower... pop an Aleve... escort will pop a Viagra... live your fantasy... buy your wife some jewelry.

 

One other thing... change your handle and your outlook might follow :7