Dinner with your favorite masseur…?

[+ 7829V]

I know with escorts you pay for time and company. So usually dinner is on the clock. But what about with a masseur? Have you invited your favorite masseur for dinner or lunch? How did it go? Did you pay for time?

I met a masseur few years ago, he was a regular. He expressed interest in shopping for pottery in Rosarito, México. So we went there one morning (from San Diego) and spent almost the whole day together. It was nice. No money was exchanged. We just enjoyed each other’s company. No sex or massage.  Note: usually when I paid for a massage session it was full service most of the time. 
 

Do you have any stories or experiences? 

[Redwine56]

26 minutes ago, 7829V said:

I know with escorts you pay for time and company. So usually dinner is on the clock. But what about with a masseur? Have you invited your favorite masseur for dinner or lunch? How did it go? Did you pay for time?

I met a masseur few years ago, he was a regular. He expressed interest in shopping for pottery in Rosarito, México. So we went there one morning (from San Diego) and spent almost the whole day together. It was nice. No money was exchanged. We just enjoyed each other’s company. No sex or massage.  Note: usually when I paid for a massage session it was full service most of the time. 
 

Do you have any stories or experiences? 

I would look at the connection you've  described as having made a new friend. In your case, perhaps a friend with benefits.  Nothing wrong with that.  You apparently enjoy each other's company away from the massage table.  If this friendship eventually develops into full service outside the massage table, that's a whole different story.  I don't believe there's any  expectation of paying for your leusure time with this masseur.  Just have fun and enjoy each other.  Isn't that what life is about?  We don't always have to put a price tag on everything.  CHEERS!

[Jamie21]

I’ve a few regular clients who ask me for dinner or drinks after a session (these sessions are full service, massage and sex) and I have accepted the offer, which I should add is not ‘on the clock’. It’s a pleasant thing to do and I’m flattered to be asked. 

One time a client took me for lunch to his club at Annabels in Berkeley Square (after a morning session) but equally it can be just a coffee and cake in a coffee shop. Last week I saw a client at his home and stayed afterwards for some tea and a slice of his home made cake. The cake was moist and sweet…I told him it was just as tasty as his bum had been earlier. So I had some more (cake, not bum). 

Although I wouldn’t assume to speak for others I suspect most masseurs will appreciate being invited to eat or drink with their client as long as it’s an adjunct to a session and they have time to spare. Getting to know the client helps make them more comfortable during the massage and I think enhances the experience (both the massage element and the intimacy element). 

[+ Mrprofessional]

I would say this is tricky territory, speaking from experience. For me,  

when I develop a friendship with someone, it feels gross emotionally when things slip back into transaction mode. When I hear the implied message  “ I’ll spend time with you if you’re paying for it.” It’s just hard.

e.g. “hey let’s grab a coffee this week” (we’ve had coffee several times in the past) and now, no reply. But “hey let’s book a massage” there’s an immediate response.  Ugh. 

when your time is how you make your living, it can be hard to “carve out” time off to just be friends with a client — so I’m not judging anyone  

And I’m not saying it’s *impossible* to have a friendship with a favorite Masseur — but in my experience, it can be very challenging to feel good about the relationship/friendship if certain expectations start to naturally arise. (Like actually responding to an invitation for dinner or coffee)

[pubic_assistance]

16 hours ago, 7829V said:

Have you invited your favorite masseur for dinner or lunch? How did it go? Did you pay for time?

I frequently invite masseurs to dinner when I am away on business and traveling alone. Since their business model is NOT "escorting" there is no implied expectation to pay for their time. Obviously you're paying for dinner and tipping generously ..but otherwise it's up to them if they want to spend time with another hire or enjoy a free dinner. I've never had anyone decline the offer .

[JQ915]

A regular often talks about places he eats at after our meetups and he asks me if I’ve tried them. Is that a sort of invitation to hang out or is he just trying to be nice and chatty?

I’ve had a masseur ask me out before but I politely declined.

[+ WestGuy]

I’ve had a masseur ask me out before but I politely declined.
 

Why did you you decline @JQ915? I once mentioned a restaurant  to one of my regular guys just as point of reference for directions and he said it was one of his favorites and the two of us should go. We did (off the clock but I bought dinner). That was over 4 years ago and we enjoyed many dinners together. The emotional intimacy we developed was a nice complement to the physical intimacy we enjoyed. 

Edited March 12, 2022 by WestGuy
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[JQ915]

@WestGuy I was younger and had a different mind set. 
 

He also identified as ‘straight’ which confused me back then. 

[Jamie21]

9 hours ago, Mrprofessional said:

when I develop a friendship with someone, it feels gross emotionally when things slip back into transaction mode. When I hear the implied message  “ I’ll spend time with you if you’re paying for it.” It’s just hard.

Yes I agree. That’s why for me the invitation I’ll accept is when it’s an adjunct to the massage, usually immediately afterwards. If a client invites me for a social event like dinner but it’s not after their massage then I’d decline because I agree with @Mrprofessionalthat the situation becomes too difficult.