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I have spinal disability that restricts walking with crutches. I am not in any pain and get around very well. For the most part, sex with me is only inhibited by the two people who are there to make it happen. I have hired escorts (3 so far...) with very broad-scale results (from nice but unsatisfying to lame to horrendous). Do escorts generally find men with an obvious physical disability such a turnoff that they cannot perform (or perhaps do not know or unsure of limitations) in such company? I have tried letting the person with whom I make the appoint (so far it's never been with the escort themselves) aware of my situation, but that does not seem to matter. I'm horny again for another try at this, but want to get the best bang for the buck!

-Brad:9

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I have had a few clients that have had a variety of disorders: diabetes (impotence ) - to trauma where they have massive bodily scars . It is very hard for me to turn off when I am being turned on, and if I am not turned on in the first place then I should not be in this business. I love people. All people. Disabilities should not/and do not matter to me. I will still be able to perform.

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I talk shop with other escorts and one tells me he can find the beauty in every one he works with. I believe that you can only provide good quality service when you take a professional attitude and seek to do justice by your client. I think it is important the actual client speak with the escort directly and discuss any concerns. I am so surprised men will spend a not insubstantial sum of money and not mention: I am 50 pounds heavier than my height dictates; I am in a wheel chair; I am blind, etc.

 

I worked frequently in SF with a very nice young man who was blind and the experience was very sensual with him, I have often worked with clients who are heavy and once with a gentlement in Atlanta who was in a wheel chair. He had full use of his upper torso and even though he was not able to erect, he did (as any other human being) enjoyed being "played with" and touched. Of course, where he had nerve endings were the areas we concentrated on and where he didn't, well we didn't ignore them but we did so minimally. I cannot in all honesty say it was the easiest session but I felt I had given this gentlemen a good experience and I wanted him to also feel that I had enjoyed myself as well, not because he was paying me but because I had. The long conversations we had beforehand made all of this a quality session for us both and as with anything else, communication was key.

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Guest Hard Brad

Hey guys, thanks for responding to my concerns. It goes without saying the we all have needs, and I'll be sure to be proactive with my next adventure. AT the time I use the other escorts I did not know about HooBoy, so now at least I have good guidance!

 

Hard Brad

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Guest LiLBlondBoy

Man you have been getting so ripped off,

I would definatelly suggest speaking with an independent escort so they can't blame a 3rd party for not informing them,

and Find an Escort that takes pleasure in serving, and enjoys what they do, personally, I think Most don't like thier "job" and therefore just can't perform.

I like mine! or I'd do something else!

 

 

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I agree that hiring a stable independent may be the best option for a disabled client. Communication is always very important, moreso with a disabled partner, and cutting out the middle man can only help.

 

I have a new client with Parkinson's. We talked a lot about expectations, and he was very open with information he thought I'd need. The scene was hot, and we didn't miss a beat when his meds started winding down (by that point there really was no stopping either of us). No surprises. From having to help him get redressed and upright, to collecting his wallet and counting for him, it was very natural and everything went smoothly. I attribute it to us both being honest about our limits and desires upfront, and just wanted to re-emphasize it's importance.

 

Bastian

 

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Some escorts/people are unable to perform with a guy with your kind of disability because it taps into their own fears about rejection, loss of power, etc.; others may be turned on by your seeming vulnerability; still others may even fetishize certain disabilities. This is an area where it can be hard to predict an individual's response.

 

I would advise you to read the reviews carefully and choose someone who has been reviewed more than once, with consistent comments about his sensitivity to the client's needs (this is more important than descriptions of what he does in bed). Then communicate directly and thoroughly with the escort. Don't make the disability the sole focus of the communication: let him know the other facts about your physical appearance and sexual interests--an escort's inability to perform satisfactorily may have little to do with your disability. Send him all this info in an email, but also talk to him on the phone; if you perceive hesitation or insensitivity in the conversation, you may want to reconsider.

 

When the encounter takes place, try to just relax and enjoy yourself--you want the escort to be aware of the disability, but not to concentrate on it. And then write an honest review for all of us.

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