Limited Escorting - How and Help

[Guest laman2662]

I am 28 years old - kind of the preppy boy-next door type. I have been thinking about escorting, 1) because I love being with another guys and 2) need to pay off loans.

 

I have hired escorts in the past because I am not one for bars and clubs.. I have a hard time meeting guys. I have to say every escort experience has been positive and really kind and gentle guys.

 

I am seriously considering escorting, but not sure I am confidant enough to put out an ad and go full blown. I would like to consider something a little more limited, like 1 client a week or so.

 

First, any thoughts of it is possible to be more limited and has anyone ever entered the business with like a mentor. Someone to join up with to see the right and wrong things to do. I even thought that with the right escort, maybe I could be the free add-on to start. Someone hire the escort and I come as a bonus. I just want to learn the way and thought shadowing someone might work.

 

What do you guys think - LA seems to be a great place to learn, just not sure how to begin.

 

Thanks and best wishes

[Rod Hagen]

Congratulations on your recent decision.

 

Ther'es no problem w/part-time escorting. You will even be able to do overnights if you wish. No client was ever upset when I said, before we met, that I'd have to leave at 7am so that I could go to the office. Clients tend to be pretty understanding if you have another job. After all, so do they.

 

Best advice to a new escort is that he reads. Read

1. Aaron's HOW TO guide first as it's the most practical.

2. Read Preston's "Hustling, a gentleman's guide..." which is somewhat out of print, but easy to find, to get a more classical perspective on the biz.

3. Read Ittel's "Consumer's guide to Husters" to become aware of how detestable the worst humans can be, and therefore to be more likely to avoid them.

4. Finish with Aaron's "Suburban Hustler" just so you can keep things in perspective. There are more literary books on prostiturion, but you can get to those later.

 

Then, once you're positive it's for you, get a webapge, easy, avoid AOL, decide immediatly if you're top, bottom, versatile as an escort (I made the wrong choice at first and it was an initaial pain in the ass). Good luck and have fun. Email for more questions: leandream1@rodhagen.com

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>I am seriously considering escorting, but not sure I am

>confidant enough to put out an ad and go full blown. I

>would like to consider something a little more limited, like

>1 client a week or so.

 

If you only want one client a week the chat rooms are a good place to start. You just go on when you want to work -- you can even go on when you're not necessarily available just to establish a presence, let people start seeing your pic out there and getting a little curious. I've had people email me sometimes weeks after seeing me in a chat room. Everybody has their own timing.

 

>I even thought that with the right escort, maybe I

>could be the free add-on to start. Someone hire the escort

>and I come as a bonus. I just want to learn the way and

>thought shadowing someone might work.

 

Going along on threeways can be a great learning experience, and I've had friends in your tentative position accompany me -- but they got paid for their time, which made it much more of an authentic experience. Part of the "can I do it?" question is finding out whether Cyndi Lauper was right. Does money really change everything? In my experience it did. I was totally turned on by the fact that I was getting paid for my time, and suddenly everywhere I went I saw sexy men (which also happens to be a more enjoyable way to look at the world).

 

Put a price on your time, even if it's less than the escort you're accompanying. That's the only way to find out the answers to important questions like a) what does getting paid to do this feel like, b) can you handle the rejection of being told (usually not in so many words, and usually fairly politely) by a potential client that he doesn't think you're worth that price, c) does that price feel like an exchange YOU can live with, etc. Plus you'll be able to say you've done it. Even if you decide it's not for you, you'll always have that feather in your cap: you got PAID for that tight ass. Quite a few of my clients have done it at least once, and most of them still get a twinkle in their eye talking about it.

 

Becoming an escort is like a lot of things; half of it is showing up and declaring that you're an escort. I ran an ad, said I was an escort, and before I knew it, I was an escort. Of course it helps matters infinitely if you are punctual, honest and genuinely value and enjoy the connections you make with your clients.

 

Rod's right about the value of reading -- I'm embarrassed to say I only got around to Aaron's Male Escort's Handbook and then skipped to the literary stuff, but Aaron's book was a valuable guide. However, I also spent a lot of time reading the reviews on this site, and found them helpful in learning about how clients approach and remember these encounters. It's great that you've already been a client yourself; that perspective will be very beneficial to you.

 

Good luck to you and let us know how much you charge. :*

[Bilbo]

Some people have said in the past that one way to start out with a mentor is to work for an agency. But there are people (myself included) who just don't work well in that situation. If you (unlike me) find it a good thing for you, perhaps you could find an agency that would allow you to work only their busiest nights each week?

 

I definitely agree that you should go with a website instead of advertising in the gay papers. Even when you post hours, readers don't always pay any attention to them before calling you. (See that other current thread about all hours calls.) Whereas surfers who don't have your phone number have to email you, which you can read anytime during the day that it's convenient to you.

 

You will, of course, want to get nude pictures made, either before or shortly after you open your site. You probably won't want to pay a photographer, at least right at first. Do you have friend(s) whom you would enjoy photographing you? This could be a catch in the plan. Or thinking about it might start a support group for you of friends who not only know you're in the business, but have actually helped you to get there.

[Guest laman2662]

I got a couple of private messages from very nice guys offering to be the "first" client.

 

But I am hoping to have a better understanding of all of the things that I need to know.

 

Any thoughts.

 

thanks in advance

[Guest AdamLVescort]

Looks like Rod, Devon, and Bilbo gave some pretty good advice! Boy fellas I could have used you when I started!

 

Later,

Adam

XOXO

http://www.theadambomb.com

[Guest laman2662]

The advice has been great and I picked up the book at lunch - (did not have it at the borders - drove over to west hollywood to pick it up.)

 

I am hoping to find an escort willing to show me the ropes, but understand that this might just complicate their needs and jobs.

 

So my to-do list includes getting the right pictures taken, figure out the website thing and figure out the plan.

 

I am pretty excited, 1) because I enjoy sex and 2) it will allow me to explore my sexuality a little more.

[Bilbo]

Love your pictures, little one. Wouldn't have minded a round robin of use when you were starting, indeed. I also remember one or two young men who did come to me for advice, or so they said, and we started out by bedding. That let me say to at least one that my advice was that he shouldn't become an escort, he was way too self centered in his sexual style. So much of it is in the headspace, isn't it? Of course, now that cynacism is in, though I try to avoid it, one is tempted to think that he had no intention of becoming an escort in the first place. Which reminds me of Hairy Pony. (Was that his name?) Which, in turn, leads me to wonder why this young cutie mentions that he has turned down several who wanted to be his first client? Another piece of advice might be "Shit or get off the pot.", but then that would be cynical of me, wouldn't it? ;-)

[CT Dick]

Oh?

 

>Love your pictures, little one.

 

Pictures?

 

Are there secrets among us?:-(

 

Dick

[Bilbo]

RE: Oh?

 

Didn't make myself clear enough. I meant the pictures of Adam of Vegas, to whose note I was responding. I could, and sometimes do, confuse a brick wall.

[CT Dick]

RE: Oh?

 

> I could, and

>sometimes do, confuse a brick wall.

 

Was a longtime poster on this site just compared to/called a brick wall?

 

Dick

[Bilbo]

RE: Oh?

 

No, honey, the point of my exageration was that if I can confuse anything without a mind - such as a brick wall - how much easier would it be for me to confuse someone with a good mind? If you have known any geniuses, or if you are one yourself, you might have noticed that the greater the intellect, the less the common sense, in many cases, present company excepted I'm sure.

[Ryan Roman]

I got a couple of private messages from very nice guys offering to be the "first" client.

 

But I am hoping to have a better understanding of all of the things that I need to know.

 

Any thoughts.

 

thanks in advance

 

You've gotten some really great advice from the other guys. Pics are important. I escort part-time, and enjoy it. But... You really need to know what you and won't do sexually. If you're not sure, find a FB or FWB to try a few things out. Knowing what you're into - as well as not into - will help you be a better provider. Best of luck, man!

[ericwinters]

I got a couple of private messages from very nice guys offering to be the "first" client.

 

But I am hoping to have a better understanding of all of the things that I need to know.

 

Any thoughts.

 

thanks in advance

Send me a private message please

[+ Reisr30]

This thread is from 17 years ago (circa 2002). What am I missing? I am really confusedo_O

[MikeBiDude]

You've gotten some really great advice from the other guys. Pics are important. I escort part-time, and enjoy it. But... You really need to know what you and won't do sexually. If you're not sure, find a FB or FWB to try a few things out. Knowing what you're into - as well as not into - will help you be a better provider. Best of luck, man!

[+ oldNbusted]

 

Yeah, I would hazard a guess if the OP hasn't learned by now, it's not gonna happen...

 

I do have to admit, I'm interested in what the cited books say, so there is that.

[big-n-tall]

This thread is from 17 years ago (circa 2002). What am I missing? I am really confusedo_O

 

You're not confused. It's something that happens all the time. People will do a search on the forum for a particular topic and respond to it with or without noticing the original posting date.

 

There was even one guy who posted exclusively to topics that started more than 5 years ago. I think he was banned.

Edited January 1, 2020 by big-n-tall

[+ Reisr30]

Yeah, I would hazard a guess if the OP hasn't learned by now, it's not gonna happen...

 

I do have to admit, I'm interested in what the cited books say, so there is that.

Yes I had no idea about all the published literature on the subject.