Older Men

[Guest stud9]

I would like to know how escorts feel about having clients that are 65-75 years old. Do you enjoy being with these older men or do you totally just be with them for the fee? This could cause a heated debate, but I am really curious as to how the escorts feel about this matter. I did post this message earlier, but in the wrong place.

[Guest jeffOH]

I've always enjoyed the company of older men. When I'm having sex with a client, I'm usually more focussed on the client's pleasure. So,

whether a client is 80 years old or not terribly attractive to me is pretty much irrelevant. I have several clients who are over 60 years of age and some of them are just big ol' horndogs. I hope I have 1/2 as much interest in sex and the energy to pursue it as these guys do.

 

I wrote about this in the Escorts Only forum, but no on has had a comment thus far. I have a client who is in his early 70's who is dying of stomach cancer. Here lately I've begun to notice a marked decline in his health. Not only that, but he has developed sores(tumors)on his body. Kind of freaked me out the last time that I saw him. I've been seeing him for probably 3 years now and I do care about him. He's an incredibly sweet man. He's stopped the chemo and is now doing the occasional blood transfusion to keep up his strength,

but he can only do that for so long.

 

I've had one other client die that I know of and it is rough. Especially when you know that they are dying. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else(clients or escorts)have dealt with something like this.

It's difficult to maintain sex mode when you start thinking that he may be dead any day.

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

[Guest stud9]

Jeff.......That was a beautiful reply to my question. It is sad to know that you have clients that have gotten ill. I hope there are more escorts out there like you.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

One of the things I love about living in a city with as huge a gay community as San Francisco's is that you really do get to come across a wide variety of types, including among the older population. You meet debonair retirees, intense leather daddies, and ancient queens that blow your mind, among other things. I feel like in this city I have a wide variety of role models for what I might want to be like when I'm older. A guy in his late sixties or older often has some authentic Tales of the City that curl my newly-growing-out hair to hear. Gay older men are also more likely to keep themselves fit or stay in touch with the changes in popular culture than their straight counterparts. There are shyer, more reclusive types that conform more to the stereotypes we have about older people, and those are the ones I maybe feel a twinge of sadness or worry about (especially if they live in dark, dusty, cluttered apartments), but they are deserving of respect and great service too, and getting to know them is interesting and enjoyable in its own way.

[Guest ChicagoCorey]

The best thing about being an escort is getting to meet people you wouldn't normally cross paths with. I always think it's interesting to hear anyone's "take" on thing in the world, but it's of particular interest if you and the person, because of experience or otherwise, are coming at the same issues from a different point of view (as is likely to happen when there's a 40 year age difference); that said, I've often found I have as much or more in common with my older clients than I do with the younger ones.

 

On a related note, this thread reminded me of something else I wanted to post. I have been with older guys who constantly reminded me how much older they were -- as if it was something to apologize for. The same thing has happened with guys who were overweight.

 

Here's some advice: don't do this. There's no reason. If the escort's there, he doesn't care. Constantly bringing it up, though, makes everyone feel uncomfortable. Just be yourself -- let the escort do the rest.

[Guest Joey Ciccone]

>I would like to know how escorts feel about having clients that are 65-75 years old. Do you enjoy being with these older men or do you totally just be with them for the fee?<

 

I've found the few clients I've had in that age range to be some of the hottest screws around. Maybe because they feel it's getting close to their last hurrah ("don't be silly" I tell them), but these guys have usually given it their all. For some reason, to a man, those older gents I've been with have all been happily married, some of them granparents. Most were living hetero lives and had never been with a guy and wanted to give it a whirl due to some newfound curiosity and virility. And these older dudes are downright exuberant about the experience. One guy, a 71 year old, hadn't been with another man since his army days, almost fifty years earlier! And that fella had been my clients' only other male lover, ever. I felt a might pressured, to be sure, trying to live up to the lifelong memory of a forbidden lover lost to the wages of time, yet kept alive through a half century of romantic nostalgia. It was fun. I fantasized that we were making love in a muddy foxhole during "The Big One" while bombs exploded all around us. He made machine gun sounds. The danger, the passion. What a riot.

 

I like older clients. They bring alot to the table. Fortunately, I've never known of a client of mine, of any age, to die or become terribly ill. Sorry to hear about those gents you mentioned, Jeff.

[Bilbo]

Some of the most interesting men in the gay male nudist club I belong to are the older ones. And, yes, I am remembering one guy in particular who is in his mid-70s. Not everyone, and certainly not anyone in this thread so far, allows his tastes in men to be dictated by what we used to call "Madison Avenue." And the same goes in reverse, love. Don't be afraid to admit it if you feel more comfortable, hornier or whatever with an older escort. (Like myself, for instance.)

 

Also, I love variety and so do amny of my clients. It has also not been uncommon for an older gent to start out with me and then gradually work his way younger.

 

Right now, while I am rebuilding my career, I actually only have one regular client over 60, I believe. And he is hard to keep up with. He loves it when I tie him down to my massage table and combine a little massage and a little BDSM! Which shocked me at first, but now I find quite enjoyable. :9

[Bastian]

My older clients, while not quite reaching into the 65-75 age range yet, have been the most interesting and sincere people I've had the pleasure to meet. The time we've spent together so far has yielded conversation with depth and fun, and some very memorable intimate moments. I also find that it's never me who actually bring the age issue up, when there's an obviously large generation gap. It's such a non-issue that I'm a little taken aback, but once I make it clear that I can see them as the sexy guys they still are, the nerves fade and the fun begins. Having a fetish for gray hair probably doesn't hurt either. :9

 

And best wishes to you, Jeff. Losing someone you've developed a relationship with can never be easy, and watching someone decline must be very difficult also.

 

Bastian

(rock this cradle)

[Guest LuckyLaCoste]

I for one, really enjoy spending time with older men. I love knowing that I am usually going to leave and have learned something new and interesting. Age is only a man made number, enjoy the person and dont let the age issue be a problem.

Lucky LaCoste

[Guest Ant415]

To the escorts above: You are all very classy acts.

 

It would be great to share your insight with the rest of 20-30 year olds out there.

[Guest jeffOH]

RE%3A Older Men

 

Thanks guys for all the kind words about my client. I have truly enjoyed this man's company and he will definitely be missed.

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

jeff4men@hotmail.com

[Guest DevonSFescort]

RE: RE%3A Older Men

 

>Thanks guys for all the kind words about my client. I have

>truly enjoyed this man's company and he will definitely be

>missed.

 

He's lucky to have you nearby in his last days. I hope he finds serenity during this transition and that you get the support you need as well (both near and far).

[Guest AsianConsort]

RE: RE%3A Older Men

 

>Thanks guys for all the kind words about my client. I have

>truly enjoyed this man's company and he will definitely be

>missed.

 

Devon was right that your client is very fortunate to have you as a friend. I'm sure your client will find solace knowing that he has such a caring friend in you.

[Will]

What an interesting topic and what 24-karat replies. As an "older" client of JeffOH's, I can affirm that everything he says is true. When I found him, only a hundred miles away, I was planning to see him at least once a month. It turns out that life and work can get just as demanding over a short distance as a long one, and it has been much, much too long since I've seen him.

 

Something that perhaps the escorts themselves might not realize are the long-term effects of living in a society that fetishizes youth. In our little segment of the world, i.e., U.S. fags, the premium on being (or pretending to be) young is almost overwhelming to someone like me. I live and work among young people; I am crazy about them; and in many ways I understand myself in terms of them (that is, I age but they don't). But in some parts of the gay world, I have been insulted to my face, with not only contemptuous looks but contemptuous remarks, just because I happened into a Holy-of-Holies for the Jeunesse Dore. The first time it happened -- in Cleveland, for God's sake -- I was under forty; the second time in happened -- in Chelsea -- I was under sixty.

 

Frankly, I don't think I've ever been so stunned or so hurt by anything as I was by the gratuitous viciousness of those twenty-something boys. It made me gun-shy, and for good reason.

 

So, thanks to escorts like JeffOh, I'm beginning to regain my footing. A lot of us older guys have learned to cope with a lot of sexual abuse, sexual aggression, and sexual rejection; and we grew up in a time so different from today as to seem almost like another planet. So it's no wonder we're nervous about being "older." And it's also no wonder that we are so loyal to the sterling men like the ones who've replied to this thread.

[Guest stud9]

I just want to say what a beautiful reply to my question.

You are 1000% correct in everything you have said. It seems that so many people revile older people........But, as many have said...just wait....someday those same people will be your age...and then we see how they will feel!

[DaninWA]

Well, I'm not an escort, but here's my take.

 

I have a serious weak spot for older men. The absolute best sex I have ever had was with men who were 60+. Invariably, I have found them to be intelligent conversationalists, with great stories to tell. They have more experience, are more patient, tend to last longer, and FUCK LIKE DEMONS! YEAH!

 

Sorry, got carried away.

 

For all you older men, don't waste your time on young guys who are caught up in themselves and can't appreciate what a great catch you are. It's their loss.

 

Dan

[Rick Munroe]

>I have a serious weak spot for older men.

 

Me too. My attraction to older guys, married guys, closeted guys, and guys without "perfect" bodies is one of the main reasons I started escorting. I don't have to act like they turn me on because they do! (an older closeted man with a gut and a wedding ring...yum!) :9

[Bilbo]

For those older men who just must have younger men all the time:

 

I recently got a list of "Rules for the Baths" which stated a long held belief of mine - Young men should reserve some time every time that visit a bath house for older men. Not only will they have a lot of fun and probably learn some new techniques, etc, etc, but if a significant number of men make it a habit and then a tradition, when those youngsters get to that age, there will be youngsters ready to pay them back for it.

 

The only thing wrong with preferring older men is that as you get older yourself (and especially when the pandemic has taken so many good men from us) older men get harder and harder to find.

[+ imagooddog]

Damn Rick....I thought I was getting a crush on you, but

after this reply, I think its a case of puppy love !!;-) You

have GOT to cum to Ft Myers !!!:o :o :o

[Houston Bonfires]

Sorry suntan; the line forms in the rear....Mr. Munroe is needed in Houston....desperately.

I don't understand all these West Coast trips. What gives?

 

H B

[Guest Gentle Dude]

>Sorry suntan; the line forms in the rear....Mr. Munroe is

>needed in Houston....desperately.

>I don't understand all these West Coast trips. What gives?

>

 

Sorry guys, I'm in front of the line. We, in the West Coast, want an encore performance. A bronze replica of Mr. Munroe's "assets" will soon become one of our landmarks. :7 :9 :+

 

GD

[Guest MikeConway]

I will take an older client than a gym bunny in Chelsea any day! I have to do short of gymnastics to make the Chelsea guys happy, but with my older clients I feel very appreciated and that in turn gets me going even more!

Especially if its the first time. I love guiding the client through their first experience exploring the male body. I am so flattered when they pick me. And to see someone playing with my cock, that has always wanted to for so long really gets me off.

 

Everyone is different, but there is so much more that matters than age.

 

 

Mike in Toronto

[Rick Munroe]

>A bronze replica of Mr. Munroe's

>"assets" will soon become one of our landmarks.

 

Only bronze? I want the gold!! (sorry, Michelle Kwan took over my computer for a moment)

[+ Lucky]

Wow. It's so nice that so many escorts like older men. It certainly doesn't reflect the general population. As Will pointed out, being older in Chelsea can be very difficult. For most of the young guys, older men simply don't exist.

[Guest topsfstud]

Well my favorite man "older man" is Benjamin Franklin, and he's wel over 200. By comparison, some 75 is downright sprightly. So if we're having a 3-way, and Ben is the 3rd guy in the equation, I fail to see why a client's age should matter one iota!