To Providers: Ever met a client that behaved so well, you could've hired him?

[Stanton]

On 1/4/2022 at 12:03 AM, rn901 said:

One of my best friends who I meet and hook up with once every week or so, started as a client. It's become a "situationship" where we aren't in a relationship but we're more than a simple friendship with benefits. He's young, in-shape, handsome, intelligent, educated and an extremely kind mannered introvert. Our first meet ups consisted of him giving me a massage prior to the sex (Not a bad gig to get paid for receiving massages!). More and more our sessions got longer, with wine and conversations late into the night. After a couple months of visits, I stopped charging. He then started taking me out to dinner and I regularly started spending the night. We live about a 10 minute walk from each other and see each other almost weekly now. This peculiar arrangement has lasted over five years, with us still reluctant to make anything official out of it (why change something that isn't broken?). I hesitate telling clients this because I don't want them to get any ideas. Throughout my career I've had other clients try to push to something beyond a client/provider arrangement and I've had to maintain boundaries. It's important to not let the lines get too blurry as things can get messy fast if such lines aren't clearly established.

I've had longtime regulars who have become some of the best friendships of my life. Some are almost like family, yet they still happily pay as clients because that's the sort of wonderful souls that they are. As Benjamin describes, they're the ones with social grace and fruitful effortless conversations. I hope to keep them all in my life well after I retire from this work. The ones who have treated me the best usually also made me feel very appreciated. I find it interesting that almost never do the most generous and most pleasant say they should be the ones getting paid instead. That's just not something they say. Others of a lesser caliber will act that way or say that but that's not how these best among clients think or operate. Rather, they be their great selves and they pay my rate without ever the slightest objection or hesitation. They're humble, while being the most giving. They're men of class and kindness. 

I have been seeing a guy for 8 months now. He is very kind. I pay his rate, even buy him expensive gifts. The only thing I can say negative is that he is constantly on his phone.  I had really hoped I would see this guy for a long time but I would feel more respected by him if he would just ease off the phone so much

[+ Tygerscent]

On 12/12/2021 at 9:25 AM, SteveAgain said:

Providers: I'd like to know if you've ever been with a client that just did everything perfect. Not just good looks, but behavior, attitude, conversation, performance in bed, everything -- such that, in another life or alternate universe, would you have been the client hiring them over and over?

Yes… many times~ People hire for all sorts of reasons~ Some hire for a hot date, to live out a fantasy, for discretion and confidential rendezvous, loneliness, esteem building, need for a confidante… Maybe we just share love and companionship while traveling~ People hire for all kinds of  reasons~

  My Clients, (with the exception of three in my career), have been any combination of the type of person you describe above or I described afterwards~ (Of the three who were not, they were: a stalker, a drunk and a very prejudiced mess of a man from the south).
  The typical guy I run into is one who is too busy working or traveling to dating or comb endlessly thru hook up sites where they meet disappointing dead ends~ They want to hire someone who shows up on time, is reliable, trustworthy, responsible and on the same page they are with interests… some one who will go home afterwards without complication~ They are looking for an easy friend~ 

 The majority of my Clients are straight identifying… So, the other category here is: Married guys needing a discrete, safe situation~
   

 

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On 12/12/2021 at 11:12 PM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’m intrigued by this question. Why are some people fascinated about the idea of a sex worker hiring a client??? Lol. 
 

There is no alternate universe or “other life”. Things are the way they are. Now you can ask, if sex worker and said client ever decided to form a “non-clock” relationship, and yes that happens. 
 

I won’t go into the pros and cons of such arrangements, but yes it can and does happen. Once it does, it can be subject to the same pitfalls as any traditionally started relationship. 

But the fantasy of an escort hiring a client: kill that. Clients aren’t going to earn money by becoming SuperSexman 🦸🏻‍♂️ 

I know Clients who were intermittent Escorts~ (and vise versa… I’ve had other Escorts hire me)

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On 12/13/2021 at 12:54 AM, Jamie21 said:

It’s never happened that I have thought of a client in this way to consider the roles switching. Yes on many occasions they have been skilled but still I haven’t considered the role reversal. The premise of the question seems misplaced.
It’s like a diner going into a restaurant and having a fantastic meal where he eats everything and really appreciates the menu, ingredients, cooking and ambiance of the restaurant. He’s the perfect diner. Would the chef think “I must be that diner sometime?”.

IDK… I think it happens~ Sometimes, it’s good to have the perspective from the other point of view and it’s natural to wonder and try~ If you’re ever been to a book store, sex club, sex party, Orgy that requires donations, bar where you’ve hooked up, grindr/scruff/adam4adam, you’ve already paid for sex~ I don’t find it unfathomable to consider that chefs get tired of cooking and sometimes simply want to eat a meal prepared by someone else and in some other place than their own kitchen~ 
 I know some authentic chefs who frequently dine out so that they stay fresh on their own art~ 

Edited January 9, 2022 by Tygerscent