travelling with an escort: how do you protect your identity

[johnnyboy]

I am thinking about hiring an escort during my holiday. But i want my real identity confidential and i think that the escort wants the same. Can you guys (clients and escorts) give me advice how to do? I have to travel by plane and also need to book a hotel. Maybe i even want to book a cruise.

[Epigonos]

What you want to do is extremely difficult if NOT impossible. The real issue here is one of TRUST. If you do not believe you can trust the escort, with whom you plan to travel, with your “real” identity it might be best NOT to be traveling with him. The same is true for him regarding you. You will most likely be booking the escorts airplane ticket and that will require his “real” name. Booking a hotel will require your “real” name. If you book a cruise, passengers “real” names will be required and those names are usually posted on the outside of their cabin doors.

 

I have traveled with two escorts and have never been concerned about them revealing my “real” identity to the world. I would suggest, however, that you do not travel with an escort you do not know well. If you know the escort with whom you plan to travel you will know two very important things. First, you will know that you and the escort are compatible and that a vacation together will likely be successful. Second, the two of you will have establish, a degree of, MUTUAL trust which should relieve both of your minds regarding the issue of revelation of “real” identities.

 

If after considering the above you are still concerned about revealing your “real’ identity to the escort, with whom you plan to travel, my best advise is RECONSIDER spending an extended period of time with him. It is much easier to protect one’s “real” identity by meeting an escort at his place for an afternoon or evening. An afternoon or evening get together might even include lunch or dinner. GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN.

[Philly Guy]

>I am thinking about hiring an escort during my holiday. But i

>want my real identity confidential and i think that the escort

>wants the same. Can you guys (clients and escorts) give me

>advice how to do? I have to travel by plane and also need to

>book a hotel. Maybe i even want to book a cruise.

 

In my opinion, when you have decided to travel with an escort the releationship has elevated to the level where it should be unecessary to hide you identities from each other. By this point you should have vetted the escort out (by reviews and such). If that is not the case you should take another person.

 

There is also the option of trusting the escort enough to send him the entire money in advance for the trip and let him book it himself (thus protecting the identities). It that point you should hope he shows up.

[fedssocr1]

I can't say that I have any experience at all with this. But wouldn't it be wiser for you to travel with an escort that you know pretty well and who at least seems trustworthy? At the very least wouldn't you want to make sure your travel companion is some one with whom you have a good chemistry and friendly rapport? If you are going to be in such intimate contact with some one for a long period of time I think it just makes sense that he would be some one you get along well with. At the very least I would pick some one who is well-reviewed by others who have traveled with him. If an escort really wants to steal your identity or otherwise cause trouble for you it seems like he would be able to do that even if you don't tell him your real name. He could find it from your phone number or address or some other identifier.

 

Personally I never try to hide my identity. And I have been with many escorts who also use their real names.

[Boston Guy]

I'm with the others. Traveling with someone on any kind of extended trip will be very difficult without revealing your real name. If there are reasons why you simply can't do that, then perhaps meeting up with escorts along the way would be a better way to go.

 

Best of all would be finding someone you trust enough to know your real name. I think I'd be uneasy spending a lot of time with someone who had access to me and my possessions (for example while I slept) but whose real name I didn't know and it seems a bit unfair to ask for an escort's real name without revealing one's own.

 

Certainly, there are escorts who have been around for a long-enough time for you to have confidence in their ability to be discrete and not reveal your name to the world, if that's a concern.

[Luv2play]

In this post-911 security-conscious age at border points, airports, hotels, on cruiseships and frankly, everywhere, I think it unwise trying to disguise your identity in any of these venues. I would not want to be in a position where some inadvertent misstatement of your identity were to lead to questions and possibly worse. My advice is choose an escort for travel that you can trust with your identity and vice versa. Of course always keep your guard up against any untoward behavior on his part, such as being a little too interested in your financial affairs.

[rentingdad]

ok so this seems very strange to me. as others have already mentioned if you're traveling for more than a couple of days with an escort you should already know and trust him enough to share basic information about yourself (your real name for instance) - if that's not the case then you shouldn't be traveling with the guy in question.

 

In addition to the trust/know each other factor mentioned above and by others - I'm amused to think about the various travel situations that would make the trip nonsensical to say the least. You're checking into the hotel and the desk clerk looks at your credit card and says "Welcome to the Plaza Mr. Smith..." and you're still going to tell the escort that your name is "Mr. Jones"?? Or perhaps you'll make the escort wait in another part of the lobby while you're checking in? Restaurant, dinner and the waiter calls you by name (again from the credit card)? The scenarios go on and on!

[ted]

I'm with the majority here, if you can't trust the other party with your name your shouldn't be traveling together. In these days where even hotels want to see ID when checking in its almost impossible without going to exorbitant lengths. In my day I've travelled nationally and internationally with 6 escorts. Yes one has a set up as Anton described, but then the travel agency personel, who you don't know at all or have any info on at all, know you and xxxx, an escort, were traveling together. What happens if you run into someone who knows you and greets you with your name? Do you introduce your friend with his escort name? Much more discreet to use his real name, so if he is ever recognized as an escort you can be surprised.

Being upfront with each other you only have the other to worry about. As far as the airlines or hotels, they know you and xxxx, no escort presence on the internet or elsewhere, travelled together. I got burned once early on, so I don't travel with anyone I haven't done at least an hour appt with, and usually do an overnight first.

At this point my regular travel guy buys his ticket upfront and I reimburse him later, which takes quite a bit of trust on both our parts.

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[rentingdad]

great cartoon lookin!

[adriano46]

Anton, you raise a good point.

 

Some years ago I met a terrific escort from Canada who was working occasionally in Amsterdam. Our times together were memorable, not only for the privte parts, but more, he was wonderful company. Over the course of a few months, we had 3 day-time meetings, and towards the end, 3 or 4 overnights (never more than one overnight per trip). I really liked this guy, and we had made some progress on the trust deal. Plus, at that time I was close friends with two other escorts from Amsterdam, both who knew my name and profession, and to this day - although they are retired - are still trustworthy friends.

 

I eventually invited the Canadian guy to the States for a few days.

 

I learned during this 5-day visit that there is a difference between an ovenight and an extended trip.

 

Twice he "disappeared" for a few hours without even a note or text message - going out clubbing in some rough areas and came back one night with some rough marks on his body. On two separate occasions at concerts, he embarrassed me: asking me to leave an opera I wanted to see at the end of the first act because he was "bored"; and at another concert, getting into an argument with a couple sitting behind him - reduced to calling these poor people a string of 4-letter words. To add icing to the cake, at my health club, he nearly got thrown out for openly cruising some of the guys there!!!

 

As the 5 days continued, he became petulant and demanding... and to be honest, the sex had long stopped. The happiest moment for me was putting him in the limo back to the airport.

 

Three years later, using an old e-mail, he contacted me, saying he was writing a tell-all, in which I was a chapter, including my real name and profession. He wanted money up front for silence. I refused... and also cancelled that e-mail address so I never heard from him again.

 

To end - I became wary of ALL escorts from this experience, although there are still two or three who I trust - and who trust me. Now, as they are retired, I was seeking someone new to fill their shoes... and the trust issue comes up again. This thread has helped me clear a few points.

[Boston Guy]

Adriano,

 

I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you had. It can be difficult to know whom to trust and when -- for both an escort and a client. The issues are different but, as a client, I think the risk borne by the client is considerably greater. Stories like yours are revealing.

 

I remember well a story from the dark ages of Hooboy's site; it may well be buried in the archives here from the late 1990s. A Canadian man was being blackmailed by an escort and had been for a long time. He wanted the blackmail to end but felt helpless to take the steps necessary to make that happen. It was very sad and I don't know how it ever ended or if it did.

 

Nonetheless, I think our lives are generally improved by sharing them with people we do trust, so not extending any trust is not a good solution for me. I've met escorts I'd never reveal personal details to even though I had fun with them. And then there have been some who learned my real name before we even met (although I'll admit that has only occurred twice).

 

I had one escort show me his drivers license because he thought I'd guessed his real last name. Actually, it was just a funny turn of speech and I wasn't even referring to his name at all. Turned out to be one of those funny moments where we got to each other better.

[Epigonos]

Damn I am finding that I have been posting on this site for so long that I am beginning to repeat myself on a number of issue. Fear of revelation of identity and exposure is an issue which I have addressed repeatedly in the past and about which I have always felt strongly.

 

Professional I was a high school teacher, for over thirty years, in a VERY conservative suburb of Los Angeles. If the fact that I hired escorts had become common knowledge my teaching position, my livelihood and my pension would have all been seriously jeopardized. I have ALWAYS believed that if what I do in private would destroy my life if made public then I had damn well better no be doing it. Thus while I taught school I did NOT hire escorts. Once I retired I, for all intend and purposes, became a kid in a candy shop. I traveled all over hiring escorts in Tampa, New York, Las Vegas, San Francisco, London, and Vancouver to name just a few places. If any of the escorts I hired had exposed me I would have been embarrassed and my family would have been upset BUT my income and my future would not have been destroyed THUS I was willing to take my chances.

 

Maybe I’m just not a chance taker BUT I simply don’t understand people who are willing to do things in private that could destroy their lives if made public. It could also be that I am basically not a very trusting person. Frankly there is anybody on this earth who I trust enough to give access to information that could destroy my life.

[Boston Guy]

Hmmmm....

 

I'm not sure how to respond. I understand how you feel and you make good points. Anyone older than 40 would identify with at least some of them. If you are retired, you're likely to be about fifteen years older than me, which means you grew up in an even more conservative period of time which, like it or not, shapes us and in some ways remains with us forever.

 

On the other hand, I wouldn't want to go through life without placing more trust in at least some people. There are people in my life who could do a great deal of damage to me and my life should they choose to do so. But I trust implicitly that they never will. It's part and parcel of believing in someone. I admit that I take a real risk in doing that but I'd rather take that risk and be able to believe in and trust people than to choose to never trust.

 

I've learned that there are many ways to live a life. You've made certain choices and I've made others and apparently (and hopefully) we're both ok with the choices we've made. It's one of the things that makes life interesting. :-)

[adriano46]

Anton,

 

I should clarify - I am wary of MOST. I rarely now see anyone more than once or twice, and do not share details unless necessary (eg name only, not profession nor place of business). As travel extensively around Europe this is fairly easy - I never meet an escort in the country where I work.

 

I should say... if I do ever get back to Amsterdam, I would not hesitate to contact you }( I have hadyour name on a privte list of "people to see" but our paths have not crossed as I rarely travel through Amsterdam in recent years. That could change...