Is it ok to walk away without paying if your masseur looks nothing like his ad

[Kregger50]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

[+ keroscenefire]

I think it's ok to leave before services have been rendered. You could perhaps give a small donation just for the time he spent perhaps responding to your texts or whatever. But yeah I think it's fair to just say, "Unfortunately you look a lot different than your pictures and I am no longer interested in getting a massage. Here is $20 for your time and sorry for any inconvenience."

 

He may be pretty annoyed at you, but I think it's fair. Photos can sometimes be a tricky thing because even recent ones could look a lot different than someone does in person. But I also think you can tell if photos are older when the guy was super in shape and he has since let himself go a bit. Personally, I would rather they just share more recent, accurate photos. Many guys still look pretty damn sexy even if they have stopped doing their daily crossfit.

[+ keroscenefire]

I think it's ok to leave before services have been rendered. You could perhaps give a small donation just for the time he spent perhaps responding to your texts or whatever. But yeah I think it's fair to just say, "Unfortunately you look a lot different than your pictures and I am no longer interested in getting a massage. Here is $20 for your time and sorry for any inconvenience."

 

He may be pretty annoyed at you, but I think it's fair. Photos can sometimes be a tricky thing because even recent ones could look a lot different than someone does in person. But I also think you can tell if photos are older when the guy was super in shape and he has since let himself go a bit. Personally, I would rather they just share more recent, accurate photos. Many guys still look pretty damn sexy even if they have stopped doing their daily crossfit.

[Dginnz]

I have been in situations like this more than once. I've now made my expectations match the frequency of this, so I assume that, out of 10, a photo of a guy is how he looks "+2." I'm usually right because performers will take a photo when they're at their absolute best, and no one can look like that 24/7.

 

If the guy is really off from his photo, I leave. You just out and out lied to me, and if we're going to do intimate things, some foundation of trust is important to me.

 

If he's only slightly off, I generally still leave. You'll never see him again, he knows nothing about you, and only you two shared those messages and the reveal/let-down. You also have to think that you'll be paying money if you go through with it. Are you ok with giving him pity money? FOr absolute strangers, more often than not it's a "no."

 

If he's better than the photos, he might just see me again, if he has a good follow-through...

[Dginnz]

I have been in situations like this more than once. I've now made my expectations match the frequency of this, so I assume that, out of 10, a photo of a guy is how he looks "+2." I'm usually right because performers will take a photo when they're at their absolute best, and no one can look like that 24/7.

 

If the guy is really off from his photo, I leave. You just out and out lied to me, and if we're going to do intimate things, some foundation of trust is important to me.

 

If he's only slightly off, I generally still leave. You'll never see him again, he knows nothing about you, and only you two shared those messages and the reveal/let-down. You also have to think that you'll be paying money if you go through with it. Are you ok with giving him pity money? FOr absolute strangers, more often than not it's a "no."

 

If he's better than the photos, he might just see me again, if he has a good follow-through...

[Scott Dixon]

I've done it both ways: left and stay/endured it. Before leaving, I've always paid something nominal like $20. I've always felt better about leaving after telling the truthful reason than staying and enduring it out of pity, desperation, or whatever. By the same token and off topic slightly, when I was about to sell my house in Dallas, I interviewed three top-producing sales agents from three top agencies. The second one to show up looked absolutely NOTHING like the picture on her Web site AND on her business card. I let her in anyway and within the first few minutes, she said, "This is certainly not MY style, but I can sell it." I said, "Ma'am, no you can't. You're not MY style because you cannot even accurately represent yourself. I can't imagine how you might lie in attempt to sell my house." Goodbye!

[Scott Dixon]

I've done it both ways: left and stay/endured it. Before leaving, I've always paid something nominal like $20. I've always felt better about leaving after telling the truthful reason than staying and enduring it out of pity, desperation, or whatever. By the same token and off topic slightly, when I was about to sell my house in Dallas, I interviewed three top-producing sales agents from three top agencies. The second one to show up looked absolutely NOTHING like the picture on her Web site AND on her business card. I let her in anyway and within the first few minutes, she said, "This is certainly not MY style, but I can sell it." I said, "Ma'am, no you can't. You're not MY style because you cannot even accurately represent yourself. I can't imagine how you might lie in attempt to sell my house." Goodbye!

[+ FrankR]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

For me it depends on how far off he is from what I expected. If it is the same guy but without the “gym pump” from his pics, okay that is understandable. If he looks completely different or is not the person in the pics, i would consider walking away. If he is being deceptive with his pics, what else is he being untruthful about? His skills perhaps? ??‍♂️

[+ FrankR]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

For me it depends on how far off he is from what I expected. If it is the same guy but without the “gym pump” from his pics, okay that is understandable. If he looks completely different or is not the person in the pics, i would consider walking away. If he is being deceptive with his pics, what else is he being untruthful about? His skills perhaps? ??‍♂️

[Richardbl]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

So why you stay there? If you don't like him???

Cancel in a beginning. That's it.

[Richardbl]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

So why you stay there? If you don't like him???

Cancel in a beginning. That's it.

[thickornotatall]

How much would he owe you for travel and wasting your time? Works both ways?

[thickornotatall]

How much would he owe you for travel and wasting your time? Works both ways?

[Wanderoz]

Totally fair to walk away. Period. Next!

[orville]

I'm maybe too empathetic. I have given 20 or 50 bucks because the guy was the same guy in his photos but older and bigger. Thank God I've never been in the situation of seeing someone completely different from the pictures (Fake Pics / Scam). In that case I would give ZERO.

Edited June 11, 2020 by orville

[+ GregM]

If there is enough of a difference in the bad way by all means walk. I would consider that false advert. And it sucks for the client getting your hopes up and wasting your time. Your time and money are worth something.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[instudiocity]

I'm really surprised at multiple guys willing to give a little money before leaving without receiving a massage. That encourages fraud.

It also encourages stalkers to leave you alone.

[instudiocity]

If there is enough of a difference in the bad way by all means walk. I would consider that false advert. And it sucks for the client getting your hopes up and wasting your time. Your time and money are worth something.

 

Hugs,

Greg

False advertising can only be a precursor to FALSE REPRESENTATION and therefore, Fraudulent Behavior.

[LivingnLA]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

 

Yes, you would be stealing the service. If you don't like the person who opens the door, say so and walk away.

[orville]

I was once told that it's better to give at least something (10, 20 if you are that attached to money, intelligence, or your dignity), because often the guys that are TOO DIFFERENT than the pictures (either very old pics, or fake / scammers) have more chances to argue with you in that moment, sometimes getting physical. Even if you give a small fraction they will prefer that to be left with nothing. There are so many grey areas that it's better not to take the risk. Sometimes the guy opening the door will look like the pics but when taking off his underwear, surprise surprise! What do you do there undressed in front of him? Walk away without paying? When in danger, lizards prefer to lose their tails rather than their lives. You got the analogy. Leave justice for the numbers of people who will negatively review and report the fake/scam profile until it's shut down.

Edited June 11, 2020 by orville

[+ ButchAtl]

Sometimes I have been greeted by a door opening into a darkened area of some kind (with the provider behind the door and not visible) and told to follow the provider to their "studio" (not in those words, maybe) but, due to the bright outside, and then entering a darkened area, your eyes can't adjust enough to see much of anything. By the time you can see what the provider looks like, its too late to simply turn around and leave. But, even in this situation if there were obviously major discrepancies to the negative side, I wouldn't have a problem saying "I don't think it will work", or similar, and leaving. I think the situation described is much more of a problem for an escort visit, however, rather than a masseur.

[Richardbl]

Totally fair to walk away. Period. Next!

That's why you should have a back up plan.

[+ 7829V]

You can always give a fake $20 dollar bill.

If they are publishing a fake pic... a fake bill seems appropriate ?‍♂️.

 

I'm really surprised at multiple guys willing to give a little money before leaving without receiving a massage. That encourages fraud. How crazy is that to pretend to be a stud and have people give me $20 all day long, scold me, and then leave right away. It would keep paying for the false ad.

 

Turn around and leave. Don't even say a word. They'll know what's up.

[Guest NYCRich212]

Take a screen shot of the pic in the profile that was attractive to you. Have it up on your phone. When the door opens (or worse you open your door), just state you’re at the wrong place. “I was looking for this (hold up phone”, guy. No cash. Walk.

Send entry to m4m forum so we all know.

[samK]

Had appointment last night with a guy from rentmen. His ad showed a pretty stunning physique.

 

When I got to his place he opened the door topless. He still looked good, but not nearly as good as in his ad.

 

I felt too bad to leave even though I was disappointed and got an ok massage.

 

Would I have been wrong to have left immediately without paying?

 

 

Could you add the link to the specific masseur. I would be curious if others had found that with the masseur and what did they do in this case. Also, was it the same guy from the photos just in different shape or were the photos of someone closely resembling?

 

If it was not the guy in the photos, trust is broken and I am out of there. Not gonna lay face down on a table with someone in the room that I do not trust. (I watch too many horror films for that to happen - lol)