Advice for a first-timer who is flying an escort to his city

[studchaser]

I’m considering flying an escort to my city. I have met him many times before - but he recently moved across the country and I’m thinking of flying him to me. He has always been good guy to me and I do trust him.

 

I know his real full name and birthdate. I’m planning on purchasing his round-trip flight soon - but in my life, I have never purchased flights for someone in another city.

 

Does anyone have any comments about something I might not be aware of or something I need to know before I do this (such as - can he somehow cancel the flight and get the money I spent for the flight- etc.) I’m just trying to be cautious and cover my bases regarding anything that could occur that I’m not thinking of.

 

Thanks.

 

First things first I would have hoped after a few visits that you would have assessed his character to not worry about him cancelling and keeping money. However at best he could likely get flight credit after paying a 200 dollar change fee. Some airlines like southwest dont have them.

 

If you are doing a full weekend or more than 24 hours try to have non sexual activities planned. Alot of clients too often see these affairs as sexual slavery with no plans for anything the guy may consider fun or entertaining. Good clients always buy gifts even if its simple things like apparel. They will remember you whenever they are in your sweater.

 

If you have must haves and dealbreakers state them but at the same time be able to go with the flow.

[Guest]

...Alot of clients too often see these affairs as sexual slavery...

 

I find it offensive to call escorting "sexual slavery." This is a mutually agreed upon financial transaction (paying good money) among two consenting adults. If the escort doesn't feel he can keep the client happy, he shouldn't accept the money. Yes, when I've hired someone long-term, I try to keep him happy also, but primarily it's the escort's job to keep the client happy. No way is this "sexual slavery," any more than my being hired to perform as a physician is "medical slavery." I don't like every aspect of my job, but I'm being paid to do my best. I do the best I can even when the task is not what I'd like. Life isn't a constant bowl of cherries (well, maybe with my fiancé it is ). Most adults realize that.

Edited July 17, 2019 by Unicorn

[mike carey]

I find it offensive to call escorting "sexual slavery."

@studchaser didn't call escorting sexual slavery. He was characterising the attitude of clients who hire escorts for overnights and longer and expect the whole time to be taken up with sex as treating the arrangement as sexual slavery. That characterisation is debatable, as you said a paid consensual arrangement is hardly slavery, but it's quite different to saying that escorting per se is sexual slavery.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Good clients always buy gifts even if its simple things like apparel. They will remember you whenever they are in your sweater

 

I'm mostly shirtless this time of year, so I guess I'll just have to remember the good clients by the fact that they're decent human beings who don't need to buy me gifts to explain that.

 

Edited July 17, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Good clients always buy gifts even if its simple things like apparel. They will remember you whenever they are in your sweater

 

I'm mostly shirtless this time of year, so I guess I'll just have to remember the good clients by the fact that they're decent human beings who don't need to buy me gifts to explain that.

 

Edited July 17, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[studchaser]

@studchaser didn't call escorting sexual slavery. He was characterising the attitude of clients who hire escorts for overnights and longer and expect the whole time to be taken up with sex as treating the arrangement as sexual slavery. That characterisation is debatable, as you said a paid consensual arrangement is hardly slavery, but it's quite different to saying that escorting per se is sexual slavery.

 

You summed up what i said and meant perfectly. Reading and comprehension is fundamental!!!

[Guest]

@studchaser didn't call escorting sexual slavery. He was characterising the attitude of clients who hire escorts for overnights and longer and expect the whole time to be taken up with sex as treating the arrangement as sexual slavery. That characterisation is debatable, as you said a paid consensual arrangement is hardly slavery, but it's quite different to saying that escorting per se is sexual slavery.

You're right. A paid consensual arrangement is hardly slavery. Slavery is any system in which principles of property law are applied to people, allowing individuals to own, buy and sell other individuals, as a de jury form of property. A slave is unable to withdraw unilaterally from such an arrangement and works without renumeration.

Studchaser felt it was slavery because the client had "no plans for anything the guy may consider fun or entertaining." Well, sorry, but it's not the job of the client to keep the escort amused and entertained, unless that was agreed upon prior to sealing the deal. Do you think I go to my boss complaining that he doesn't make my job "fun and entertaining"? I've seen what some escorts request for long-term hires (more than what I make, and I'm a successful physician). At those rates, the escort should be working hard for the money. Now, when I've done long-term hires, I discuss the itinerary with the escort, tell him that I want him to have a good time, and expect a substantial discount from those rates. But if a client is paying $1000+ per day, and there has been no negotiation, the escort should be ready for action more than once a day.

A woman taken from Vietnam under false pretenses, who then has her passport taken without her consent and is told she needs to put out to be housed or fed: that's sexual slavery. Let' not make a mockery of those who really suffer from sexual slavery.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I've seen what some escorts request for long-term hires (more than what I make, and I'm a successful physician). At those rates, the escort should be working hard for the money.

 

It's not about working hard in an extended-hire situation... It's about connecting and having a natural, easy flow to things. Everything falls into place when two people are having a good time together.

 

If a client is thinking about how much he's spent in relation to how much he's getting laid, he's going to psych himself out. Those are the personality types that are likely better with shorter timeframe hires.

 

As an escort, a big part of my job is planning how things are going to go on a visit: My clients trust that if they want, I can handle making complex travel arrangements, day-to-day activity plans, etc.

 

I'm basically like a concierge who doesn't like to wear his hotel uniform.

Edited July 18, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I've seen what some escorts request for long-term hires (more than what I make, and I'm a successful physician). At those rates, the escort should be working hard for the money.

 

It's not about working hard in an extended-hire situation... It's about connecting and having a natural, easy flow to things. Everything falls into place when two people are having a good time together.

 

If a client is thinking about how much he's spent in relation to how much he's getting laid, he's going to psych himself out. Those are the personality types that are likely better with shorter timeframe hires.

 

As an escort, a big part of my job is planning how things are going to go on a visit: My clients trust that if they want, I can handle making complex travel arrangements, day-to-day activity plans, etc.

 

I'm basically like a concierge who doesn't like to wear his hotel uniform.

Edited July 18, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[+ Seaninsf]

I'm mostly shirtless this time of year

 

Clearly you're not in San Francisco this time of year! Lucky you (and lucky for those around you!)