Providers that jockey around appointment times...

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

Today I made an appointment to see an out of town provider staying at a hotel. When I arrived at the hotel, I texted for the room number and the provider tells me that he's running 15 minutes late accompanied with some lame excuse. As the client a) what are you thinking and b) what do you do? I'm very curious if others run into this issue. Thanks.

[+ azdr0710]

a) I'll give him a chance and see if he comes through in the 15

 

b) wait 15 minutes

[marylander1940]

Today I made an appointment to see an out of town provider staying at a hotel. When I arrived at the hotel, I texted for the room number and the provider tells me that he's running 15 minutes late accompanied with some lame excuse. As the client a) what are you thinking and b) what do you do? I'm very curious if others run into this issue. Thanks.

 

Give him a chance, wait 15 mins. He was visiting and maybe he was trying to squeeze someone who either arrived late or called him at the same minute. It's a business and that practices is understandable, busy and boring days do happen.

 

For the record, even if the elevator requires a key I want to know his room number before I get there.

[+ bashful]

It gets annoying.

 

A guy I meet several times, and really enjoyed his company when were were together. He was very generous with his time, so I overlooked it a first.

 

He lived 30 miles away in a further out suburb. First couple of meetings, all when well.

 

The first time it happened, I was just leaving my garage, and the phone rang. Could I give him a little extra time. I said no problem, I was just leaving, and would text him when I got to his parking lot. i think I had to wait only 5 minutes or so before he texted to ring the buzzer.

 

Next time, I was on the tollway, and heard the phone. I didn't look at it until I exited, and pulled over on a side street. He needed another 15 minutes. I Just drove around for a while.

 

Then the next time, while on my way, a text. Needs more time. Wants me to text him when I get there. I pull into a strip mall near his apartment, use the bathroom at the Starbucks, and go back to my car, text him to say where I'm at. There I am, sitting in my car, waiting for a text. It wasn't really long, but still, not good. I probably should have gone home.

 

Our last scheduled meeting never happened. We agreed on 4:30 several days before. I wasn't feeling great the day of, so decided to take a nap around noon, and set my alarm for 2:00. Woke up, and there was a text on my phone. He wanted to move the meeting to 7:00pm, that way, I could avoid traffic, and he could run errands. Still groggy, I texted back ok, thought it would give me more time to sleep. I go back to bed, and wake up at 4:00, and still don't feel good. I decide to call and cancel. His first response was only to ask if I wanted to reschedule. I said I'd wait to see how I feel later.

 

I never did reschedule.

Edited June 24, 2019 by bashful

[instudiocity]

In LA, 15 minutes is acceptabLe delay as well as early arrival. Of course, some of us want 15 Minutes More...

[hypothetically]

It gets annoying.

 

A guy I meet several times, and really enjoyed his company when were were together. He was very generous with his time, so I overlooked it a first.

 

He lived 30 miles away in a further out suburb. First couple of meetings, all when well.

 

The first time it happened, I was just leaving my garage, and the phone rang. Could I give him a little extra time. I said no problem, I was just leaving, and would text him when I got to his parking lot. i think I had to wait only 5 minutes or so before he texted to ring the buzzer.

 

Next time, I was on the tollway, and heard the phone. I didn't look at it until I exited, and pulled over on a side street. He needed another 15 minutes. I Just drove around for a while.

 

Then the next time, while on my way, a text. Needs more time. Wants me to text him when I get there. I pull into a strip mall near his apartment, use the bathroom at the Starbucks, and go back to my car, text him to say where I'm at. There I am, sitting in my car, waiting for a text. It wasn't really long, but still, not good. I probably should have gone home.

 

Our last scheduled meeting never happened. We agreed on 4:30 several days before. I wasn't feeling great the day of, so decided to take a nap around noon, and set my alarm for 2:00. Woke up, and there was a text on my phone. He wanted to move the meeting to 7:00pm, that way, I could avoid traffic, and he could run errands. Still groggy, I texted back ok, thought it would give me more time to sleep. I go back to bed, and wake up at 4:00, and still don't feel good. I decide to call and cancel. His first response was only to ask if I wanted to reschedule. I said I'd wait to see how I feel later.

 

I never did reschedule.

 

That was a lot of...details. What’s the takeaway??

[+ StLouisOct]

a) I'll give him a chance and see if he comes through in the 15

 

b) wait 15 minutes

I agree. Geez, I've been 15 minutes late to things. Problems occur. One guy was honest and said his douching took longer than expected. I was grateful he didn't keep to the schedule.

[Gymowner]

has anyone ever set an appointment to see a doctor for say 2pm, arrive on time,check in and wait 45-1 hour to really see the doctor? did anyone just get up and leave? my point is things happen. if you feel that you are setting a time with someone who is not responsible and trustworthy to see you on time then the answer is quite simple...dont set the appointment. if you feel you are making an appointment with someone credible then give him slack. a one hour appointment should be more like about a 3 hour stint for the client if travelling to the escort. time to get to the escort, unpreventable traffic/, wait time on the escort, the hour session with some possible overage of chit chat then the ride home or to wherever you are going afterwards. if you really are on a tight schedule then dont make the appointment in the first place.

 

if the escort is coming to you, then take the 3 hour time frame and reduce it to at minimum 2 hours...more like 2.5 hours at that.

[Mocha]

I decide to call and cancel. His first response was only to ask if I wanted to reschedule. I said I'd wait to see how I feel later.

 

I never did reschedule.

 

That was a lot of...details. What’s the takeaway??

 

I guess the takeaway was, another client who does a dick move when the escort doesn’t lay down his life to be available at and when it conveniences him.

 

I won’t say the escort wasn’t being exactly prompt either (especially considering the escort was the one who was hosting)...but one dick move doesn’t excuse another dick move.

 

When a client decides to be a dick, in response to possible dick behavior...it becomes a match between who can be the bigger dick. And in this case, I think @bashful was the bigger dick because not only did he cancel, but he alluded to being able to reschedule and never did, in a passive aggressive attempt to tell the escort he didn’t like time being changed. And worst yet, never expressed his concerns, thus the escort never knew why. He likely filed the client as good client gone bad, and moved on.

 

@bashful should have expressed his concerns something like, “hey...I can’t do at 7 or I would appreciate if you try to stick to the time next time, please...so don’t keep me waiting”. Instead, this happened: one became the bigger dick than the other.

 

[+ bashful]

That was a lot of...details. What’s the takeaway??

 

Two sides to every story. 15-20 minutes may not seem bad from a providers point of view, and a one off should not bother a client.

But, don't let it get out of hand.

[Mocha]

has anyone ever set an appointment to see a doctor for say 2pm, arrive on time,check in and wait 45-1 hour to really see the doctor? did anyone just get up and leave? my point is things happen. if you feel that you are setting a time with someone who is not responsible and trustworthy to see you on time then the answer is quite simple...dont set the appointment. if you feel you are making an appointment with someone credible then give him slack. a one hour appointment should be more like about a 3 hour stint for the client if travelling to the escort. time to get to the escort, unpreventable traffic/, wait time on the escort, the hour session with some possible overage of chit chat then the ride home or to wherever you are going afterwards. if you really are on a tight schedule then dont make the appointment in the first place.

 

if the escort is coming to you, then take the 3 hour time frame and reduce it to at minimum 2 hours...more like 2.5 hours at that.

 

THANKYou! And difference is, escorts don’t have waiting rooms (maybe), receptionists, and triage nurses. You usually don’t see the doctor until much later. And they aren’t rushing around for you, even if it is a medical emergency. Therefore if something gets delayed, the client is going to walk into our personal space, when we may not be ready for them.

 

I’ve discussed the topic before myself. That’s why I don’t do last minute appointments usually, especially outcalls.

[+ MakeMeCowboy]

It's all very good input. Thank you. In my business, I KNOW if I'm going to be running late therefore I call my client and let them know. I'd like to think the provider would do the same but to wait until I'm in the lobby texting him for the room number is not managing your business well.

 

I understand the doctor analogy but my doc doesn't charge $550/hour.

 

My last comment may be more my problem/issue. The running 15 minutes late (while I'm already in the lobby) leaves me feeling like the provider overlapped bookings. I wonder about these visiting providers and their tight schedules. Even a Maytag wears out. I don't like being left with the feeling that overlapped bookings was the root of the inconvenience.

[+ FrankR]

Reading this prompted me to go back through my mental list of all recent meetings, so basically the past year. I also went back to text messages to refresh my memory although I havent had more than a handful of meets all year. None, as in zero, of those meets started on the exact time initially planned or discusses. In all cases there were some back/forth and even reschedules. Some were 10 minutes, some much more. But I had a good time during each meet, and to me that is all that matters. Dont get me wrong, I value my time, the time providers spend with me and all that, but life isn’t a linear equation. None of my dates flakes on me. As long as there is solid communication between us, it is all good in my book. ?