Cute Coming Out Story

[+ Lucky]

Coming out for today's kids seems so much easier than it was for me. I waited until I was 27 years old. Kids today have so many more resources available to them, plus society's attitudes have improved. Here's a nice coming out story from today's New York Times. If you need a password to read it, you can get one free at bugmenot.com.

 

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/04/01/nyregion/nyregionspecial2/01RParenting.html?hp

[Guest ReturnOfS]

Good story. I'm glad for the kid. I wish that it would have been like that for me :-(

 

I wish that it could have been like that for all of us.

 

Oh well.

[Guest]

I guess I'm just lucky to come from a strict atheist family! ;-)

[+ Lucky]

Yes, you were lucky there! The Catholic Church did its best to fuck me up for life, but I got wise just in time.

[Rick Munroe]

Things are much better, and that was a great story, but there is still so much homophobia and hate out there. GLBT people are still getting bashed and killed. The current federal hate crimes law still doesn't acknowledge sexual orientation or gender identity (but Dem. Rep. John Conyers and the HRC are working to change that this year: http://www.newsday.com/news/local/wire/newyork/ny-bc-ny--hatecrimeprojects0401apr01,0,1755873.story?coll=ny-region-apnewyork ). We still have a lot of work to do.

 

Check out this cute home video of a little boy lip-synching to Beyoncé.

Who knows if he's gay or straight, and who cares? Well, check out some of the vile comments, suggesting that he needs to get the gay whooped out of him. ;(

[noviceny]

that is a great story Lucky !!

 

I am still "coming out" and do not seem to have the same luck however.

 

Just 2 weeks ago I came out to 3 "friends" of mine. One guy a long time friend, the other about 2 years of friendship, and the other a new friend. None of them have spoke to me since, but they said they "have no problem" with me being gay.

 

This summer I lost another friend who knew I was gay, because when his family found out they told him to "be careful" (btw he is 24) and he finally just stopped calling me and said that they did have a point that people ("but not you") can be dangerous.

 

I am an adult (36 years old)and still have great pain when I am treated like that. However it is nothing compared toi the pain I had keeping a secret or suffering in silence, while I hated myself.

 

Lucky I feel you on the Catholic thing. My way of handling that is by thinking that those people dont represent the Church or the God I believe in. I still practice but either walk away or correct people when they have the misfortune of bring up "the gay thing" :-)

[+ Lucky]

Novice, nice to see you back on the board. I thought maybe you had gone off to a seminary somewhere!

 

As for Catholics, well, I have plenty of Catholic friends, including gay ones. Even priests. Yet I cannot accept, as they seem able to do, that the damage done to me was by individuals and not the Church as an institution. We each react differently to what our experience was. I do miss a lot about the Church of my boyhood.

[valentino11]

dont worry Lucky ; I am dealing with NoviceNY :-)

[+ Charlie]

Be nice to him--he's a sweetheart. Good to see you back on the boards, novice!

[Rick Munroe]

>I am an adult (36 years old)and still have great pain when I

>am treated like that. However it is nothing compared to the

>pain I had keeping a secret or suffering in silence, while I

>hated myself.

 

Novice, congratulations on coming out and welcome back to the board. I give you a lot of credit. It must be painful when people you care about treat you that way, but you must also feel joy in not having to hide anymore, no? So many guys I've spoken to who have come out said that the trouble they found afterward (wives giving them hell, etc.) was far outweighed by the newfound happiness of being out. Good for you (and thanks for not getting scatological!).

[valentino11]

damn how do you guys all know Novice ! i know from here but i didnt know he was famous like that -

 

i will be good to him Charlie ; he's the best person Ive met in a long time - absolutely serious about that

[Guest TBinCHI]

Lucky,

I can totally relate to your post. I am a deeply spiritual person with a total belief in God and complete antipathy for organized religion. It IS the institution, and not just the one run by Catholics.

 

Novice,

Good for you for coming out. I know what it's like to lose "friends" when they find out that you are not a carbon copy. Even the ones who are still around do not "talk" about who and what I am. It sucks. Frankly, the people who have been most supportive of my particular issues are on this board. They know who they are and I send a special thank you to them. It just goes to show that support will find you in some very unexpected places. Good luck to you!