Do You Care About Protecting Your Privacy After You're Dead?

[Whitman]

Are you an open book?

 

Or are there unknown things about you some relative or friend will discover after you're gone? Old letters and mementos from the lost love of your life (à la "The Bridges of Madison County")? Paperwork to do with the brief marriage you've never mentioned? A record of your donations to a sperm bank? Maybe a well-equipped dungeon in your cellar?

 

Any plans to protect your privacy into the beyond? To dispose of your telltale keepsakes sometime before you're at death's door? Or do you not care what anyone knows about you after you're gone?

[+ Travis69]

A friend has instructions to come in and throw away quite a bit.

[+ Charlie]

I have written an absolutely honest autobiography. I also have 46 years of daily journals, in which I have recorded everything of note to me, including such details as how much I paid Escort X on Sept. 4, 1982, and what acts we engaged in; my opinion of an operatic performance at Covent Garden in March 1974; where I ate dinner on July 5, 1997; what lie I told my high school class reunion committee in 2005 to avoid going to their get-together; the death from AIDS of someone I fucked at an orgy in Baltimore in 1966, etc., etc., ad nauseam. The journals alone fill a very long file cabinet drawer.

 

An academic library to which I have given a substantial financial bequest has agreed to accept and archive all these documents and keep them closed for ten years after my death, after which they will be available to anyone.

 

There are no Jeff Stryker dildos, handcuffs or lacy underpants to worry about. But then there are the thousands of my posts on this site.....

[+ bashful]

I do plan on talking to one of my brothers about when I die. For the most part, there's not much that friends and family don't already know, except for this hobby. if my brother found the burner phone before we talked, I'm not sure if he would start calling numbers or not. But, if his wife is with him, I'm sure she will make it her business to know who those people are, and if she put 2 and 2 together, she would waste no time in telling others, no doubt using some sort of scornful or disparaging tone. I really wouldn't want that to happen. I'd rather it came from me.

 

Oh, the only other thing that could be discovered about this hobby, my list of meetings in a spiral notebook. No names, just month and year, hotel or city, and cost.

 

Unfortuantly, I don't trust the other brothers to take care of things after I'm gone. Time to revise the will, and beneficiaries.

Edited January 16, 2019 by bashful

[marylander1940]

I have written an absolutely honest autobiography. I also have 46 years of daily journals, in which I have recorded everything of note to me, including such details as how much I paid Escort X on Sept. 4, 1982, and what acts we engaged in; my opinion of an operatic performance at Covent Garden in March 1974; where I ate dinner on July 5, 1997; what lie I told my high school class reunion committee in 2005 to avoid going to their get-together; the death from AIDS of someone I fucked at an orgy in Baltimore in 1966, etc., etc., ad nauseam. The journals alone fill a very long file cabinet drawer.

 

An academic library to which I have given a substantial financial bequest has agreed to accept and archive all these documents and keep them closed for ten years after my death, after which they will be available to anyone.

 

There are no Jeff Stryker dildos, handcuffs or lacy underpants to worry about. But then there are the thousands of my posts on this site.....

 

I'm sorry but I'm more interested in @Avalon biography!

 

Answering the OP @Whitman question: I have all my financial papers in a safe in the bank and I've given copies of my will to all who will get something from me. I'm not concerned about anybody finding out what I've googled, my participation in this forum, etc. I don't have a diary.

[Guest]

I don't worry about my privacy after I'm dead for myself. I suppose that if I had children who might be embarrassed about something specific, I would try to protect them, especially if I were famous. But at this time, I can't think of anything I have that I'd want to protect for the sake of others' feelings, off-hand....

[+ Travis69]

My sister and brother in law would probably think me a sexual pervert if all they found was a cock ring. What will they think when they find 5!!!!!:eek::eek:

[rvwnsd]

Not really. I will be dead, after all. Of course, it was my brother who was going to buy me porn for my birthday one year until his wife pointed out that he didn't know what kind I'd like and wouldn't it be odd if he called and said "Hey, bro, what kind of gay porn do you watch?"

[LaffingBear]

Nope. Don't care.

[sexymonk]

I'm sorry but I'm more interested in @Avalon biography!

 

Answering the OP @Whitman question: I have all my financial papers in a safe in the bank and I've given copies of my will to all who will get something from me. I'm not concerned about anybody finding out what I've googled, my participation in this forum, etc. I don't have a diary.

I don't care after my death what people found. I only know that I have never harmed or hurt anyone. After I I die all things are meaningless and will have no value to me for I will never come back to see the material things, ethics created by earthly beings!

[sexymonk]

My sister and brother in law would probably think me a sexual pervert if all they found was a cock ring. What will they think when they find 5!!!!!:eek::eek:

After death who cares! All earthly relations, reputations are gone!

[Gvtire]

The husband and I don’t have anything we feel we need to protect . Everything has been taken care. On the other hand the will might be a big surprise.