MORAL DILEMMA

[Todd Jenkins]

Cleaning this up....

Sorry, don't want this info out there. Thanks for the replies everyone

Edited December 31, 2018 by Todd Jenkins

[+ keroscenefire]

Escorts and clients both lie about things to protect their personal lives....if its a benign lie I would let it go. As for the snooping, realize that Facebook actually grabs recent text messages and connects them to Facebook accounts as "people you may know." It's happened to me as well and it's likely that he can look at your social media accounts as well.

 

Unless you found out something that might endanger yourself, him or others, don't say squat. Although it's up to you if you don't want to meet him again.

[caliguy]

Escorts and clients both lie about things to protect their personal lives....if its a benign lie I would let it go. As for the snooping, realize that Facebook actually grabs recent text messages and connects them to Facebook accounts as "people you may know." It's happened to me as well and it's likely that he can look at your social media accounts as well.

 

Unless you found out something that might endanger yourself, him or others, don't say squat. Although it's up to you if you don't want to meet him again.

Ha. I didn't know that. Facebook makes a big deal about you listing your phone # and now I know why. Just one more way of tracking you. Thankfully I just gave them one of my VoIP #s.

 

It's my history of Ex's stalking me that's made me an expert in not giving out anything traceable back to me. I think of the worst case scenario and it's always served me well.

Edited December 31, 2018 by caliguy

[+ Reisr30]

Escorts and clients both lie about things to protect their personal lives....if its a benign lie I would let it go. As for the snooping, realize that Facebook actually grabs recent text messages and connects them to Facebook accounts as "people you may know." It's happened to me as well and it's likely that he can look at your social media accounts as well.

 

Unless you found out something that might endanger yourself, him or others, don't say squat. Although it's up to you if you don't want to meet him again.

 

I would stay away from anything related to a companion’s private life; I personally would not look at a companion’s social media account if I happen to find it since I expect they keep private and professional work separate.

 

If you no longer feel comfortable with an overnight then give him plenty of notice and change your plans. But I wouldn’t raise what you found. Just my perspective...

[caliguy]

I dont care that he can look at mine, I was totally 100% honest with him. What I found out could most definitely 100% hurt others...

If only Gladys had Facebook.

[+ keroscenefire]

If you think that is the case than I would confront him or tell people the truth that you think could hurt others. To me it really depend on what the thing is..if it's something like him not being truthful about his STD status than I don't know..maybe that is something that other should know about so they can make a more informed decision. But I think think you have to be very careful about what you think might be "hurtful" to others....if it is something that could really endanger their health that is one thing, but if it's just that he is not telling his romantic partner about his side gig, that is really none of your business.

[+ purplekow]

Yeah snooping into other people's lives without their permission is always a temptation that should be denied. If you do not feel safe, do not hire him. Who you going to believe. his facebook page or your personal experience with this man? I would trust myself and say nothing about the social media, but my insight into people has usually led me down the right path.

[Tonyko]

Lets be clear; a Brady Bunch collage of mug shots of a potential (or prev) hire no matter how it was found should make a diff in and I for one appreciate that kind of heads-up a site like this one can oft give us, even if only thru a PM. But Yes I agree prying into a scorts priv life rarely makes it better. I'm reminded of a str8 G4P struggling NYU Grad student I found on the old C.L. and loved to hire. Just letting himself get sucked by a guy, or a quick light brush across the lips was a huge concession for him (which I found very hot lol) But I pried, found his social media (MySpace back then) and discovered he was in fact Gay, BIG time gay. Whether he thought the str8 act would add to his appeal, or would be a built-in excuse to limit contact with guys he wasn't into IDK. All I know is It totally killed it for me. Was as sorry I found it.