A Client Responds to Escort on Escort Violence - It CAN hurt your business

[+ Axiom2001]

I don't know how much the bitchy exchange between escorts would affect their business, but I'd like to propose that they write to each other in private e's vs writing their tit for tat dialogue (openly and publicly) at the various forums.

 

The other day a man wrote a very thoughtful thread: two escorts decided to correspond with other in this particular thread which marred the whole thing; their bantering and flirting took away from the initial intent of the man who started the thread and who sought out ideas from both escorts and non-escorts; he did not want to see an ongoing dialogue between two escorts...

[RockHard]

RE: Admiring AdamSmith

 

I do believe AdamSmith wrote a very insightful response here and it's worth reading more than once.

 

Personality means so much more to me than cock size and a pretty boy face. I deal with the superficial every day in my work and, although it pays well, none of it can get me HARD. But a great, fun, joy-loving, man-loving, sex-loving personality can get me ROCKHARD every time.

 

There are several escorts on this board who know the art-of-the-reveal and I admire them and will not hesitate to hire them. There are too many who remain silent. Sometimes, but rarely, I take a gamble and win, big time, with the silent ones but I'm not fond of gambling.

 

I've asked two of my silent favorites why they don't participate here and both say they're not good writers. Writing can reveal a lot, even if you say very little, and I understand why some guys prefer not to appear vulnerable in the written-word environment.

 

But I LOVE a guy who's willing to expose himself, even if just a bit, in words. This method of reveal can be quite a turn-on, a great fantasy stimulator, especially for a smart, successful customer.

 

Of course it can be deadly if the words go too far. And I could list several cases where I thought I would hire but backed away once the mouth got out of control. Less-is-more is the most difficult concept to grasp, especially if you're gay. It's a conservative concept and that's all I'll say about conservatism.

 

Escort participation here is a double-edged sword. If you decide to engage, you simply can't be all things to all people all the time. But make no mistake, I prefer a brave escort over a shy one. I prefer a guy who takes chances to one who doesn't. I love a guy who's willing to tackle his fears head-on. But most importantly, I'll hire the guy who knows when it's inappropriate to say one thing more. And those guys are truly hard to find.

[Rick Munroe]

>I fell for Mr. Munroe 51%

>because of his online persona here, 49% for the bun and ab

>shots (acceptable ratio, Rick?).

 

Yes, I think I can live with that.

[Rick Munroe]

>Oh holy shit! How will Rick ever be able to pay his rent now

>that you have declared your disinterest in hiring him? His

>credit rating will plumet and all because of you weilding your

>power in such a heavy handed way.....

 

LOL There'll be a few less TV-on-DVD box sets this month and maybe I won't bid on that rare Kristy McNichol doll on eBay after all, but I'll get by somehow.

[jawjateck]

>I'll agree with you there and genuinely hope that I don't come

>across as standing on a high ground because it's really not my

>intent. I just stand on principles .... granted those

>principles tend to get beat like a dead horse (and I'm working

>on that in myself) but I dunno ... some things just stick out

>to me.

 

Scott....you are making progress in handling this matter, both here and another thread I read. You and I probably have little in common, so conversation between us might not be very stimulating to me.

 

But, I will be honest and say you are a hottie. We could couple together nicely, methinks. How about one day, when our paths cross, I hire you for a few hours, and we don't say anything; just ravage each other and part ways??? That would be a most satisfying experience for me. ;-)

 

Wish I could help keep your balls warm in beantown, but that ain't my neck of the woods.

[Guest manrent1]

Seems I'm not the only one who finds these comments a turn off....

 

here is an email I received in my in box today

 

In your comment to Rick Munroe, you stated:

 

"..... you're right I didn't hire you because I found the tenor of your posts on this board to be queeny - I've been readily corrected of that notion by many of your fans - however your posts in many regards have made me less than interested in meeting you."

 

And after having met him, I find his posts to be even more of a turnoff. Not something I would post, since his fans are far too vocal in believing he is anything less than a sex god. I just want you to know that someone (namely me) thinks you're making a good decision.

[Guest TBinCHI]

So, a guy emails you privately to tell you that he agrees with you and offer you his support and you immediately pay him back by posting his private message. And to what end? Vindication? Cheap shot dude.

 

It simply is not possible to be liked by everyone. I for one appreciate the fact that Rick is comfortable enough with himself to express himself as he truly is. I even appreciate that Rock Hard and Tom Isern profess to be comfortable enough with themselves to engage in their senseless sniping at each other. It's entertainment to some, serious to others, and probably boring to the rest. But, to me that's the whole point of this board.

 

We get it already. You aren't going to hire Rick (does that extend to Derek, too?) Let it go.

[Guest manrent1]

yes you are right - my only reason for posting the email I received was to make your day.

[SAdler]

>And after having met him, I find his posts to be even more of

>a turnoff. Not something I would post, since his fans are far

>too vocal in believing he is anything less than a sex god. I

>just want you to know that someone (namely me) thinks you're

>making a good decision.

 

And here I find it all quite the opposite. Granted we're both similarly loud outspoken personalities -- but never over the top like some people here and in the media.

 

I can't speak to him being a sex god but he's an awesome guy and having met him I was able to appreciate his posts that much more. The reason being meeting him gave me insight into his inflection and personality which makes every key he strokes that much more amusing

[Rick Munroe]

>And after having met him, I find his posts to be even more of

>a turnoff.

 

LOL So someone was supposedly turned off by my posts, but hired me anyway, only to find my posts even more of a turn off, and the only person they would ever confide this in is manrent1. Yep, sounds like a genuine email to me! :+

 

>Not something I would post, since his fans are far

>too vocal in believing he is anything less than a sex god.

 

Actually, since my "fans" know I'm an atheist, I think they'd probably believe me to be a "sex godless."

[JT Brooklyn]

I'm alway's Amazed at the Guy's who have so much to say, about a Working Guy,they say they have "Little or No Interest In" whether previously Hooked Up or Not?

 

I'm guessing it's just to have something to say OR doing Someone a Favor, that hopefully they will be reciprocated in, somewhere down the road of Life! L O L :P

[Guest TNT Ted]

The email was geniune. I wrote it.

 

Had I known it would be subject to this board's scrutiny I would have been more careful with the wording. What I should have said to manrent1 is "after meeting him I found his posts to be even more of a turnoff than you find them to be."

 

Prior to meeting Rick, I very much enjoyed his posts. I probably told him that on more than one occasion. But after our meeting (and especially after his subsequent emails to me), his actual personality -- and I admit, this is just my opinion -- is not at all like his on-line persona. Since my mind won't let me separate the two, his posts take on a whole different spin. And frankly, they turn me off.

 

I'm sure I won't change any one else's mind about him or his posts. I just want manrent1 to know that there really are other views and that he doesn't need to justify his opinions to everyone who disagrees with them.

[AdamSmith]

>Actually, since my "fans" know I'm an atheist, I think they'd

>probably believe me to be a "sex godless."

 

..."sex secular humanist"?

[+ purplekow]

>

>Actually, since my "fans" know I'm an atheist, I think they'd

>probably believe me to be a "sex godless."

 

I tend to think of you as a satiric satyr.

[Epigonos]

It seems to me that we, as clients, tell a great deal about ourselves when we discuss whether or not we appreciate the attitudes and opinions of certain escorts who post on this site.

I can readily understand that a guy who hires an escort for an hour romp might not be remotely interested in starting a philosophical or political discussion with that escort. Thus the client might feel that the escort’s board-persona could get in the way of their sexual adventure.

I can also understand that a guy who hires an escort for multiple hours or overnights might be interested in starting a philosophical or political discussion with that escort. Here the client might feel that the escort’s board-persona could add to their sexual adventure.

Frankly I belong to this second group and an escort’s personality is as important to me as is his body, his face, or his cock. I have an edge to my own personality and I look for escorts with a similar edge. I arranged my first meeting with Scott Adler after reading his post on this board and then meeting him at one of the L.A. group’s dinners. On our first get together Scott and I started out the evening with a great dinner during which we discussed one issue after another, disagreed about many and all in all had a grand time. For me the sexual adventure we shared later was greatly enhanced by the dinner experience. I continue to get together with Scott. I have never met Rick Munroe but someday I hope to. His post always seem to tickle my fancy. Since I find his post funny and entertaining I assume that he is funny and entertaining in bed and for me that is what it is all about.

Now I can almost hear some of you guys saying “Is this guy nuts?” Possibly!!!!!

[+ deej]

>It seems to me that we, as clients, tell a great deal about ourselves

>when we discuss whether or not we appreciate the attitudes and opinions

> of certain escorts who post on this site.

 

Exactly, and this is something TY (I think) once dubbed the "whammers" vs. the "charmers". (Think sharks vs. jets, but with better fashion sense and flower arranging skills. ;-))

 

Some clients are only interested in a quick fuck, and some escorts are experts at delivering exactly that. Some clients want a little more emotional/personal involvement and surprisingly enough some escorts are experts at delivering exactly that.

 

The "whammers" and the "charmers" will never agree about what makes an escort great, nor should they. They have different goals.

 

There is, of course, crossover. I consider myself generally a "charmer" but some days all I want is somebody biting the pillow. I'd be surprised if some "whammers" haven't enjoyed a languid and charming afternoon/evening with their favorite rentboy.

 

We're all human. We have general preferences, and some days we go against type. That's part of what makes us human.

 

Our reactions to message board posts follow along these lines, and rightly so.