Seeking general bottoming advice

[youngboldone]

Hey guys. Wasn't sure where to put this thread, but this seemed like a good place to get opinions from escorts as well as guys who hire. I had a less than satisfying experience with a friend I met on Scruff. We became friends last January. Have been hanging out, running together, and playing together (everything except anal) since then. Recently we decided to finally fuck. I care about this guy a lot and wanted to give him a special experience. I feel like I failed, and I've been beating myself up about it since then.

 

We started with me on my back, and when he entered me I felt a burning sensation. That quickly morphed into a sensation of feeling like I had to go to the bathroom. I kept trying to breathe and relax, but it wasn't working. So I told him I needed to pause for a few seconds to catch my breath then suggested I ride him. That seemed to work a little better, and I could start to feel myself open up, but he wanted to really pound me, and I couldn't take it. I feel like a failure.

 

I had even played a bit with three different size butt plugs before meeting him to try and get myself loosened up. I decided to order two different dildos - a curved 5-inch and a straight 7-inch - to play with. I'm determined to become a good bottom. I sure could use some advice from experienced bottoms on how to improve my performance. Thanks, guys.

[Chuckball]

I think there are a lot of us who would like some pointers (no pun intended). Thanks for posting.

[FigureSkater]

If it’s your first time bottoming, those feelings are natural. Things are supposed to exit your ass not enter it lol. Just like when you practice oral, you train your gag relfex not to engage so very often. You have to get your body aquatinted with the feeling of penetration. One big factor is your preference in lube types, water or silicon based. Also if you’re afraid of being dirty back there you can look up fiber supplements like “Pure for men”. Keep in mind anatomically that your intenstines bend about 4 inches into the anus and you can find positions to start with to accommodate with that before you’re loosened up.

[+ FrankR]

In my experience, a ‘good bottom’ is a skill that needs to be developed. I don’t know anybody that was a ‘good bottom’ on day one. Eager, maybe; nervous, certainly.

 

Yes, you should practice with the right toys, you should use enough lube and you should start slow and persevere when you and a buddy are going there.

 

A good top will read your body language. Will help you stretch before entering and will take it slow until you are comfortable before he starts hammering away, so to speak.

 

Now stop beating yourself up about it. It takes two to tango and a tango takes coordination (and a lot of practice). If he is a decent sort, he will brush it aside and be happy to help you practice!

 

I am 99% sure the 2nd time will be better and more fun - get back on the horse and have fun!

[Chad Constantine]

Hey guys. Wasn't sure where to put this thread, but this seemed like a good place to get opinions from escorts as well as guys who hire. I had a less than satisfying experience with a friend I met on Scruff. We became friends last January. Have been hanging out, running together, and playing together (everything except anal) since then. Recently we decided to finally fuck. I care about this guy a lot and wanted to give him a special experience. I feel like I failed, and I've been beating myself up about it since then.

 

We started with me on my back, and when he entered me I felt a burning sensation. That quickly morphed into a sensation of feeling like I had to go to the bathroom. I kept trying to breathe and relax, but it wasn't working. So I told him I needed to pause for a few seconds to catch my breath then suggested I ride him. That seemed to work a little better, and I could start to feel myself open up, but he wanted to really pound me, and I couldn't take it. I feel like a failure.

 

I had even played a bit with three different size butt plugs before meeting him to try and get myself loosened up. I decided to order two different dildos - a curved 5-inch and a straight 7-inch - to play with. I'm determined to become a good bottom. I sure could use some advice from experienced bottoms on how to improve my performance. Thanks, guys.

 

Not an expert and never used toys before but you probably just need to lube your hole up more. I have had that feeling of needing to use the bathroom too is your friend pretty hung? You may just need to do just do a deeper clean.

[David1024]

Hey guys. Wasn't sure where to put this thread, but this seemed like a good place to get opinions from escorts as well as guys who hire. I had a less than satisfying experience with a friend I met on Scruff. We became friends last January. Have been hanging out, running together, and playing together (everything except anal) since then. Recently we decided to finally fuck. I care about this guy a lot and wanted to give him a special experience. I feel like I failed, and I've been beating myself up about it since then.

 

We started with me on my back, and when he entered me I felt a burning sensation. That quickly morphed into a sensation of feeling like I had to go to the bathroom. I kept trying to breathe and relax, but it wasn't working. So I told him I needed to pause for a few seconds to catch my breath then suggested I ride him. That seemed to work a little better, and I could start to feel myself open up, but he wanted to really pound me, and I couldn't take it. I feel like a failure.

 

I had even played a bit with three different size butt plugs before meeting him to try and get myself loosened up. I decided to order two different dildos - a curved 5-inch and a straight 7-inch - to play with. I'm determined to become a good bottom. I sure could use some advice from experienced bottoms on how to improve my performance. Thanks, guys.

 

Ask 20 people this question and you’ll probably get 20 answers. Did your friend know it was your first tine bottoming? You want to make it good for him as well as good for yourself which is highly commendable, but you need to ease yourself into it gradually. I will PM you with more info.