Client can’t get it up

[Trick]

Yes! I was waiting to see the erection happen.

 

It’s kinda like waiting for the cum shots at the end of porn previews

[FTM Zachary Prince]

What do you do when a client can’t get it up?

 

Lots of things! Typically: Deep kissing, gentle neck nibbling, nipple teasing, armpit licking, cock licking, ball sucking, butt munching, asshole teasing, tongue fucking, anal teasing, prostate stroking, cock teasing & cum swallowing! Also, occasionally: toe sucking, spit play, watersports, topping w/ strap-on, anal fisting, spanking. Also lunch, dinner, sleeping, cuddling, mutual massages, porn-watching, and talking!

 

What I DON’T do when a client (or any sex partner) can’t get it up: Take it personally.

[Cyd_StVincent]

Having good communication about whats going on with you will make all the difference. When I've had clients tell me straight out the gate that they don't get hard or usually don't cum or whatever, we have some of the best sessions. To me - it doesn't matter if either of those things happen as long as I know you are having a good time and you give me some cues as to what makes you feel good, since the obvious indicator isn't present. Sex is a million things, and with a soft dick you still have at least 500,000

[Derrick Rigg]

In bodybuilding, there are lots of guys that can't get hard. They taken too much juice like deca and can't get hard.

[Floridasexman]

I would be concerned to hire an escort who rims clients. I wonder how many times a week he does it.

Just so he does me I don't care.

[+ quoththeraven]

This is a refreshing change from all the threads about escorts who can't get hard.

[marylander1940]

This is a refreshing change from all the threads about escorts who can't get hard.

 

In that case it's always their fault...

[FTM Zachary Prince]

I had this happen to me for the first time, and it's flustering. He was a champ and understanding like a pro should be, but the anxiety I put on myself for not being able to perform is awful, as it's like a wasted donation. We just socialized, which is fine and all, but I could do that in a bar for free, although with clothes on, so looking at the bright side of it his body was great. : )

 

I’ve come to feel that part of my job is teaching people how to free themselves from this anxiety. Particularly since I specialise in prostate stimulation, which tends to make even men with constant raging erections go soft during the prostate stroking itself. This means I’m constantly dealing with guys who are dumbfounded that their dick is soft in the middle of a sexual encounter when they haven’t come yet, and before I learned how to help guys let go of their anxiety about their lack of hard-on, a good 20-30% of them were actually letting it ruin their sexual experience because they just couldn’t deal with their own feelings about their soft dick. At the end of the prostate experience lies the most powerful orgasm that most of my clients have ever had in their life! But so many guys couldn’t get there because they were so anxious about why they didn’t have a hard-on. Now I tell first-timers to expect to go soft before we even begin, but in a very nerdy way where I discuss how the blood flow actually re-routes into the prostate, which is the “control center” for orgasms. My eyes light up as I explain, and I add with a naughty wink that just because your dick is soft doesn’t mean it won’t feel good to have it in my mouth while I’m stroking their prostate... then I keep an eye out for anxiety once I notice their dick has gone soft and reassure them again that it’s totally normal and they can still have a CRAZY orgasm. Or if they were never hard to begin with, but have also never experienced a prostate orgasm before, I reaffirm that they’re about to experience the most awesome way to orgasm where an erection doesn’t even matter. I suspect that a lot of highly-experienced escorts have strategies to help clients address this type of anxiety. I personally want every single client who meets me to have a unique, intensely-pleasurable experience that they will NEVER forget. And I strive for a high percentage of my clients to feel that it was the hottest encounter or the craziest orgasm they’ve ever had. Even if there is never an erection involved! I personally don’t have a hard dick to work with either! And I’m a top! I’ve found a LOT of ways to share mutual pleasure without a hard dick. I hope no one is ever afraid to book me because they’re worried they won’t get an erection and won’t enjoy themselves as a result. Sexuality and sexual experiences are so varied. There are tons of ways we can enjoy ourselves, with or without a hard cock in the room.

Edited October 11, 2018 by FTM Zachary Prince

[+ Keith30309]

I’m a brand new tri-mix user and... wow. I have mixed feelings about it but it absolutely works as advertised

I had an overnight with an SA guy last week and we were busy off and on all night and neither of us could walk in the morning.

 

There’s probably some deeper element of this related to the obscuring of intimacy and loss of romance but, for now, I’m enjoying it.

[+ Eric Hassan]

What do you do when a client can’t get it up?

 

sex is more than a hard cock and a cumshot, but sometimes you want a hard-on. i ask - gently, of course - what do you like? anything i can do? if they tell me something i do it. if they're nervous and say so, i just give space and it comes along. sometimes they tell me they might not get hard and i just ask them to tell me if anything comes to mind, then carry on. it's not a big deal to me, and i don't want to introduce thoughts of it being a big deal for my partner, so i bring it up, take them at their word, and then do what i'm there to do.

[Trick]

sex is more than a hard cock and a cumshot, ... it's not a big deal to me, and i don't want to introduce thoughts of it being a big deal for my partner, so i bring it up, take them at their word, and then do what i'm there to do.

 

I know. ?

[+ Socalguy]

The efforts the put into the blowjob to get me to cum is always exciting especially when they say I will get you to cum. The next 30 minutes of sucking is usually awesome. lol once in a while they prove me wrong but I love every minute.

I sort of have the reverse problem, I can get hard but orgasms can be few and far between which leads me to the dilemma: If I tell them upfront, will they not try as hard? Whether or not I orgasm is so not the point, I still enjoy every moment of the effort. But if I don't tell them, I'm afraid they'll take it personally. Would it be wrong to wait until the end to tell them?

[+ Eric Hassan]

I sort of have the reverse problem, I can get hard but orgasms can be few and far between which leads me to the dilemma: If I tell them upfront, will they not try as hard? Whether or not I orgasm is so not the point, I still enjoy every moment of the effort. But if I don't tell them, I'm afraid they'll take it personally. Would it be wrong to wait until the end to tell them?

 

my rule of thumb about disclosure is that you disclose if you feel like that will help you have a more enjoyable time. if there's something on your mind that will be in the back of your head, taking you away (even a little) from enjoying the moment, disclosure is a great way to squash that.

 

also, if you're hiring guys who don't try as hard because you probably won't cum, you're hiring the wrong guys

[+ peterhung85]

Looks like I’ve been missing out on the hiring experience. I very seldom meet escorts who initiate oral on me. Even when I ask for it, most say they don’t do oral. I just think it’s because I couldn’t get it up.

 

OMG! You have been meeting the wrong crowd! Not a self-ad but I LOVE GIVING ORAL (in all caps)!!!! Actually, I meet many gentlemen who have a "hard time" getting an erection but every now and then I DO find certain (oral) techniques that actually work, make people at least semi-hard and manage to make them ejaculate. Of course ED has a variety of (mental, medical) reasons behind it, so it is never a "one size fits all" solution, but nevertheless, it does occur.

 

Whoever you meet in advance, try to communicate what's important to you, go with someone reputable and then there will be a great chance that your chosen one will live up to (or surpasses) your expectations. I always enjoy receiving feedback in advance from people and knowing what makes it an AMAZING session to them.

 

Best of luck in your hires!

[+ peterhung85]

I sort of have the reverse problem, I can get hard but orgasms can be few and far between which leads me to the dilemma: If I tell them upfront, will they not try as hard? Whether or not I orgasm is so not the point, I still enjoy every moment of the effort. But if I don't tell them, I'm afraid they'll take it personally. Would it be wrong to wait until the end to tell them?

First of all, you are the "customer" and as we know "the customer is always right". So no, you would not be wrong

 

I can't speak for everyone here, but as far as I am concerned, I prefer to know it in advance. I would give you my best but at least I would not feel that I was inadequate ... either way you would not see it on me or my actions but I prefer to leave an appointment knowing that my client truly enjoyed himself and I was at least "good enough".

 

Hope this helps!

[+ Socalguy]

my rule of thumb about disclosure is that you disclose if you feel like that will help you have a more enjoyable time. if there's something on your mind that will be in the back of your head, taking you away (even a little) from enjoying the moment, disclosure is a great way to squash that.

 

also, if you're hiring guys who don't try as hard because you probably won't cum, you're hiring the wrong guys

You are absolutely correct on all points, which is way you are amazing at your craft. The one time I did wait until the end, I was worried about him assuming it was something he was (or wasn't) doing. Thanks!

[+ Socalguy]

First of all, you are the "customer" and as we know "the customer is always right". So no, you would not be wrong

 

I can't speak for everyone here, but as far as I am concerned, I prefer to know it in advance. I would give you my best but at least I would not feel that I was inadequate ... either way you would not see it on me or my actions but I prefer to leave an appointment knowing that my client truly enjoyed himself and I was at least "good enough".

 

Hope this helps!

It helps a lot, thank you! It is very reassuring to hear from true professionals that I should be able to be upfront with them and still expect their best effort

[Brosnan]

OMG! You have been meeting the wrong crowd! Not a self-ad but I LOVE GIVING ORAL (in all caps)!!!! Actually, I meet many gentlemen who have a "hard time" getting an erection but every now and then I DO find certain (oral) techniques that actually work, make people at least semi-hard and manage to make them ejaculate. Of course ED has a variety of (mental, medical) reasons behind it, so it is never a "one size fits all" solution, but nevertheless, it does occur.

 

Whoever you meet in advance, try to communicate what's important to you, go with someone reputable and then there will be a great chance that your chosen one will live up to (or surpasses) your expectations. I always enjoy receiving feedback in advance from people and knowing what makes it an AMAZING session to them.

 

Best of luck in your hires!

I can attest to the fact that PeterHung is a master at giving head. While I have no problem getting or staying hard, with Peter I am like a horny post-pubescent 17-year old with a perpetual rock hard boner!

[+ peterhung85]

I can attest to the fact that PeterHung is a master at giving head. While I have no problem getting or staying hard, with Peter I am like a horny post-pubescent 17-year old with a perpetual rock hard boner!

Hahaha )) You made me laugh out loud )) Thank you for the compliment

[Love2GetMassaged]

I can attest to the fact that PeterHung is a master at giving head. While I have no problem getting or staying hard, with Peter I am like a horny post-pubescent 17-year old with a perpetual rock hard boner!

 

Ditto. I met Peter several years ago in the earlier part of his career and he absolutely rocked my world!