Boyfriend experience???

[Drod1474]

I’m considering booking a boyfriend experience. Is sex a given when booking somebody on rentmen???

[+ glutes]

Nothing is a given with someone on Rentmen.

[TruthBTold]

Read their profile carefully and chart exactly what they say they are into and what they provide. Also read what they write about themselves. Then checkout Daddy Reviews and read any reviews written about the escort. Then do a search and see if the escort has been written up in the Forum. If you want to go further, if you find anything written about an escort in the Forum you can always contact the person who wrote about the escort and ask them if they would mind you asking some questions about the escort. If they agree ask what you would like to know. If you are satisfied that you want to engage the escort contact him and ask if he provides the things that you would be interested in engaging in. "Boyfriend Experience" is a vague term and you are much better off asking them about specific types of acts, e.g., kissing, rimming, sucking, anal top, anal bottom, etc. Ask about the things that you imagine that you want your boyfriend to do to you. If he says he will not do them then he probably is not for you.

[LADoug1]

And remember that there are as many boyfriend experiences as there are boyfriends.

[Wolfer]

Yes, I was just reminded how important it is to confirm every single thing you'd like to do with the escort. I recently hired a guy based on excellent reviews, many of which stated that "he treats you like a lover, like a boyfriend".

So, instead of my usual question of "cuddling nude after sex" I omitted this since I thought it was a given since so many reviewers were referencing (what seemed to me) a very affectionate type of guy.

 

It was a disaster. He was friendly and smiley but zero affectionate. He didn't touch me till we were on the bed and then proceeded to rush through sex as if it couldn't end fast enough. After he came he wouldn't touch me anymore, threw on his clothes and was on his phone. I asked if we could cuddle after which he lay on the bed with his clothes on. When I asked if we could cuddle naked he said he had volleyball practice (his reason for having his clothes on), when I asked again if we could really not cuddle naked he said: "I don't do romance, only sex. Romance is for the boyfriend."

 

Imagine what you would like a boyfriend to do with you, then make a checklist (but as short and as to the point as possible), send this in your first text to the escort and ask them if all of it is good for them. And also ask them to confirm it is all okay for them.

 

Like Oaktown said, nothing is a given in this hobby. Guys have different rules, limitations, ... Some escorts are really good in writing this in their ad text but I've found those are the exceptions. So, check, check, check. If the guy gets annoyed when you ask him to confirm, move on immediately.

 

I always include the question: "Can we cuddle nude on the bed after sex and talk some?"

Edited August 26, 2018 by Wolfer

[gilbert]

When first contacting the escort I always give him a basic description of myself and what tell him what I'm looking for. If I decide to hire him, I always send a detailed email about myself and what I'm into a few days before the meeting , so there are no surprises for either of us when we finally meet. I want to know that my escort will be comfortable with me and I with him before we meet face to face.

[Guest europeanman]

When first contacting the escort I always give him a basic description of myself and what tell him what I'm looking for. If I decide to hire him, I always send a detailed email about myself and what I'm into a few days before the meeting , so there are no surprises for either of us when we finally meet. I want to know that my escort will be comfortable with me and I with him before we meet face to face.

I don't think escorts read these mails.

[TruthBTold]

When first contacting the escort I always give him a basic description of myself and what tell him what I'm looking for. If I decide to hire him, I always send a detailed email about myself and what I'm into a few days before the meeting , so there are no surprises for either of us when we finally meet. I want to know that my escort will be comfortable with me and I with him before we meet face to face.

 

I am pretty sure I know what you mean but when I email a companion and let him know "what I am into" instead I let him know that these are the things that I would like when we are together and ask him if he thinks he can provide those things. The fact that I am into something does not necessarily mean he is going to do those things with or to me. I want to know specifically what he will do and then I can make a decision. If he tells me he won't do something (or have something done to him) then I can decide to still hire if it is not a necessity or decide not to hire because it is something I have to have.

[+ Tom Isern]

I don't think escorts read these mails.

 

I can assure you, some of us read them carefully, because we know that a happy experience that pleases both us and the client is the result of good communication and managed expectations before going into the session. I don't do the "boyfriend experience," however, because I believe it directly links the escort's ability to deceive the client to the "success" of the session. The relationship becomes, by definition, artificial and manufactured. I know some people can do this really well, and it's no doubt wonderful for both when it works.

[Wolfer]

I don't do the "boyfriend experience," however, because I believe it directly links the escort's ability to deceive the client to the "success" of the session. The relationship becomes, by definition, artificial and manufactured.

Perhaps my expectiation/definition of a boyfriend experience is different but I don't see how a boyfriend experience automatically necessitates deceiving the client as to how much the escort is enjoying himself or is genuinely connecting with the client on an emotional level...

 

For me boyfriend experience means that besides hot sex there is also very intimate cuddling, kissing, talking about what's on my mind, just looking into each other's eyes... I never expect the escort to role-play pretending to be my boyfriend like: "Hi, honey, how was work? Do you wanna fuck me before the Jeffersons come over?" when I enter his hotel room. But more that he will take the time to be interested in me and my personality and invite and welcome me into his personal space (both physically and mentally), so not that he will actually make me believe I am his boyfriend.

 

But every client and escorts look and offer different things. I recently had a session with an escort who drew a very hard line in the sand between sex and affection. He wouldn't touch me before or after sex (not even a peck on the cheek. He actually shook my hand when I came in), wouldn't shower with me and put his clothes back on the second we were done. He told me that affection is for his boyfriend, not for clients.

Edited September 1, 2018 by Wolfer