How to do due diligence on a potential hire?

[Wolfer]

Hey,

 

I was wondering, apart from asking for recommendations and reviews on here, how you guys do your due diligence when considering hiring someone.

 

I ask because where I hire (Belgium) almost all are travelling escorts and the roster is constantly moving and changing. Which is nice, but also makes it (near) impossible to find recommendations or reviews, apart from the ones that may be posted on the escort's ad itself.

[+ harey]

Hey @Wolfer - there are still a sizable number of reviews on Daddy's. You might also try searching for the escort's name in the Deli Forum here. I often scan the escort's ad reviews for client names that look like trusted Forum members. A few times, I've messaged other clients directly asking if they could share more information. For a general question to the Forum, you may have noticed "411" threads asking for feedback about a specific provider. It's best to search first, though, in case someone else already posted the question.

 

Without being too much of a stalker, I use Google reverse image searches to help verify if the escort is real. And it may help to search by phone number to see if anything suspicious pops up, such as multiple escort profiles with the same number.

 

My own common-sense approach uses four criteria: good escort ad with no red flags, some positive feedback on the Forum or Daddy's, the escort responds well when contacted, and my intuition. I need three of those to feel good about meeting a new escort.

[+ harey]

And should this question be in the Deli?

[Wolfer]

Wow, that's great advice, thanks so much!

 

Hey @Wolfer

good escort ad with no red flags

What would count as red flags for you?

[+ harey]

It’s personal preference and judgement. Mention of hard core drugs, pics that don’t match, weird text in the ad, etc.

[+ SundayZip]

Things I always do (not necessarily in this order):

- Google image and phone number searches

- Look for red flags in their ad. Examples: inconsistency between pics, pics that look like they're stolen from a professional fashion or fitness model, odd things in the text message, bad Rentmen review(s).

- Look for reviews on Daddy's

- Forum Deli search for escort's name

 

Sometimes if I'm on the fence, I'll post a 411 in the deli section.

[rvwnsd]

My "vetting" process is a little different than others insofar as I rely less heavily on reviews than some people. I tend to rely on instinct, the way a guy communicates, the composition of his profile, and whether the photos appear to be current and consistent. As others have pointed out, when a guy's ad copy mentions that he parties I don't reply. Recently a guy mentioned in his relpy to me that he loved getting sucked when he parties. Assuming that did not mean eating cake and ice cream, I politely ended the conversation.

 

EDIT: clarified that the guy mentioned partying when he replied to me. Had his ad text indicated partying I would have kept looking.

Edited July 15, 2018 by rvwnsd

[+ Pensant]

Google searching the number is a step I always employ. After texting I then schedule a phone call. When we hear each other’s voices after having developed an SMS rapport, I usually feel comfortable proceeding. I’ve been pretty pleased so far.

[Wolfer]

Google searching the number is a step I always employ. After texting I then schedule a phone call. When we hear each other’s voices after having developed an SMS rapport, I usually feel comfortable proceeding. I’ve been pretty pleased so far.

That's awesome that you schedule a phone call. I've never dared to ask for fear of coming across as a time waster. There's been more and more escort profiles where I live that in very clear terms say to not waste their time (like endless chats) or they will just block you or stop responding. I was recently talking to an escort about this and he confirmed that a LOT of his chats go nowhere and some people just seem to keep on asking questions without actually wanting to hire.

 

So that sorta makes me wanna be as sparse in my communication as possible but then that may lead to me not communicating enough perhaps about what I expect. I'm still figuring out how much to communicate and in what way.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

@Wolfer, what I do, in order

1. Check if his ad lists what you want to do.

2. Check if there is any weird text in his ad that makes him unattractive to you, not just the pics and stats

3. Check if he has any daddy reviews.

4. Check if he has any discussion thread on M4M forums

If the above is not conclusive,

5. Do a google search on his phone number. This should return only links to his own ads. If it returns ads to other people, big red flag.

6. Do an image search on google for the pictures in his ad. This often will return his other social media accounts, like Instagram, as escorts often use a picture for multiple purposes. Check that the current location of the guy on Instagram matches the current location of the guy on rentmen etc. If name, language of posts, location, doesn’t match, big red flag.

If no red flag came up, it is time to communicate.

7. Write a text explaining where you saw his ad, who you are, when you think of hiring him, and add to that any non-explicit questions. This can be done all in one text, I don’t need to keep going back and forth. As long the basics are agreed, like kissing, top/bottom, we can discuss the details in person when we meet.

8. Make a judgement based on the sanity and completeness of the answers (I am not dealing with answers I don’t understand).

9. Confirm the place, time and price.

 

Sometimes, you will be the first to report, therefore it feels like taking the plunge. But what is life without risks?

Edited August 10, 2018 by Tarte Gogo