AVOID AT ALL COST, or be extra careful at your own risk. HE IS A FILTHY LIL THIEF!
He stole my USD 400 La Mer serum and it was 9/10 full 😭 when I was on vacation at the Miami Beach.
He did an outcall at my hotel and used the bathroom extensively.
I didn't want to confront him or escalate the situation because he seemed quite rugged.
I tentatively invited him back for another session the next day and he told me he would only receive me at his own place which was located at a seedy area up north.
I didn't want to get murdered so I just let it go. Besides his massage techniques were horrible
It's easier if it's an outcall I would just walk out (actually I recall doing it twice because of fake profiles).
It happened at my hotel once and I paid him USD 100 and asked him to leave.
If I’m using any type of e-payment (cash app, etc.), I ask to pay up front in case there is any issue. I’ve had network issues and issues with any particular site being down for maintenance. And a surprising number of providers who can’t remember their login for the payment. I don’t use epayments very often, cash is still king. But if I do, I feel better not wondering if everything is going to be okay. I’ve never had an issue or regret.
I can’t remember if I have ever been asked for money up front—seems sort of tacky.
I would never use the expression "boyfriend experience" when setting up date with an escort. As this thread illustrates, there are too many different definitions. I also have no interest in pretending, even for a while, that we're something other than client and escort. When I've had extended dates with escorts in the past, I've called it what it is (for me): client and escort taking some to time to relate to each other on a non-physical level.
In my personal experience there are two ways in which this happens.
The first and most common way, is after a shared intimacy, after a passionate session or few years of getting to know one another, he looks at you with a glint in his eye, says "I fucking love you, man" slaps your ass, smiling and moves unto something else. In my experience, when a session goes the way I want it to go, I fall in love a little, I feel butterflies a little, I cherish that special moment looking into each other's eyes, which makes it very easy for me to imagine he will also feel that.
There is no promise, no contract, no attachment, no exchange of vows, and more importantly, no benefiting from the other's vulnerability. There is only love, encounter, tenderness, passion, all lived powerfully in a magic moment, then forgotten, till next time.
The other way is when after one or many sessions you notice the client suffering, tentative, demanding a lot of attention, constantly trying to break the pre agreed privacy boundaries, asking for reassurance, information, promises, or a lot of time outside of the time you spend together. Sooner or later when together, he will break down and in a very emotional way he will say something like: "I have not been doing well, I am suffering so much because of my feelings for you... I love you so much that I _______". You get my drift.
In this case, I listen attentively and compassionately and explain that under these circumstances I am unable to continue seeing him because that would only be damaging to him. I clarify that because of my professional ethical rules I will never -under any circumstance- start an emotional partnership with a client because I believe the power imbalances and mutual transferences and expectations will make the relationship unhealthy from the very beginning. I then strongly encourage him to look for professional help, someone with whom he can talk about this. Not another escort, who might potentially take advantage of his vulnerability, but a psychologist who might be better equipped to help him through that.
I tend to prefer not to wait till all this happens and look for the signs of emotional attachment before they further develop.
I have no problem with having a passionate, romantic boyfriend experience. Love traveling to romantic places with dear old clients of mine, with whom I can allow myself to be vulnerable and absolutely available because they understand, respect and celebrate the boundaries and nature of our relationship. What I won't do under any circumstance is keep seeing a client and charging him even if I know well that I will never be able to give him what he believes he wants. Making money out of heartbreak, to me, is just not an ethical thing.
To me love and vulnerability have never been a problem. They are the goal.
Attachement, expectations, blurred boundaries and emotional exploitation are an absolute no no. As soon as they show up, I will end the relationship.
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