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We stayed in Ogunquit once, but the gay life was so subtle that we couldn't find it. Of course, that was more than a half century ago, so things have probably changed.

I agree, first time I went to Fort Lauderdale it definitely reminded me of Palm Springs with a beach

And, it is worth noting that PTown is home of the oldest continuously running gat bar in the US (The Atlantic House or simply A-House)

I've never been to PS, but the comparison seems to be "West Coast Retirement Desert Oasis" VS "East Coast Summer Beach Resort for all ages".

I've never been to either place.
 
I suspect I will go to PS sometime this year. It seems chock full of sexy dads into edgy sex.
 
It is a popular retirement destination for guys from San Francisco. Oscar Wilde said of San Francisco - " “It's an odd thing, but anyone who disappears. is said to be seen in San Francisco." I have changed it to "anyone who disappears. is said to be seen in Palm Springs." Guys that you used to see around in San Francisco invariably turn up retired in Palm Springs.
 
I don't see myself living there - I imagine it to be an endless series of conversations about "Golden Girls" episodes and what a marvelous actress Betty White is.
 
I just mentioned to my husband that we probably ought to go to P-town one of these days.

In recent years I’ve spent a week in each, late February in Palm Springs and early July in Provincetown. I loved both, but for vacations I would recommend PT first. Principally because nearly everything, bars, restaurants, galleries are concentrated in the same area and can be reached on foot. I stayed with friends in Palm Springs and they showed me the sights by car.
However if I had the choose which town to live in, I’d opt for Palm Springs because of the weather.

We stayed in a 200 year old B&B in Wellsfleet, that was haunted. ?

Ok so someone was just enlightening me on Provincetown and compared it as being the Palm Springs of the east coast. I have never been to either and I'm curious what other people's view is on this comparison. Which do you perfer more and why?

I am SOLD on Ptown

East coast boy here, never been to PS. Provincetown is a beautiful special place. It's the gayest place east of the Mississippi. As someone else mentioned, you don't need a car in fact a car is a liability. You can walk (or bike) the entire town easily. The town is crowded, but that's part of the charm - there is a real "vibe" on Commercial Street, you can easily get a room off the main drag where it will be quieter. "In season" is Memorial to Labor Day and there are theme weeks throughout the season, so check the schedule before you book - make sure you want to be there on family week, bear week, women's week, etc. There are a handful of bars and 100+ great restaurants to choose from. The beaches are stunning. As a young man Provincetown changed my life. As a child of upstate NY my world was very small until had the opportunity to go to PTown a few summers (during college) and learned about the cornucopia of men and opportunity out there. I eventually moved to Boston where I still live, and visit PTown occasionally. These days I much prefer PTown off season. During the Spring/Fall there are much fewer people (still enough to be fun) and still many stores/restaurants open. I have been a few times in the dead of winter and it's eerily and beautifully quiet. NY Eve is actually a great time to go to PTown, if you can stand the winter there is a small crowd and the bars are fun. There is also a bear weekend during the winter. The town used to be more of a "living" working class/fishing town with the seasonal summer gay crowd, time and money has driven almost all the townies out and you can't touch real estate for < $1m. Even the schools all closed a few years ago b/c there are so few children left in town. As for Dick Dock, it was much more of a thing - in fact was wild back in the day (lots of) guys would literally meet under a dock at the edge of town after the bars closed. It's much less so now, but the streets are cruisy late at night (and, of course there's always Grindr). PTown is a must for your bucket list.......? Oh, if you do go.....stay at the Carpe Diem Guest House (& Spa) the enclosed courtyard and spa are clothing optional.

This reminds me of the stories I've been told about cruising in certain spots in Central Park.

As Ptown gets more expensive, the crowd tends to skew older these days (though there is still a wide age range of visitors). The other thing not mentioned here is that you don't need a car in Ptown (bicycling and by-foot are the best modes of transportation) but one is absolutely required in Palm Springs.

Not normal at all.

I believe this. I pay top dollar for a skilled top!

Fried clans are also very popular in Massachusetts. Not sure about in Provincetown though

There have always been energetic young men in Provincetown on Summer weekend night as far back as I can remember (early 1960s) It is Cape Cod where families go for vacation. Falmouth, Hyannis in particular drow young people
 
Try Rockport and Gloucester on the North Shore of Massachusetts. Not gay, but beautiful places to visit

Provincetown is crowded. That might appeal to some. Lot of young energetic boys. ?
The above lobster comment brought back memories. Good eating.
The beach is nice. My friend got a terrible sunburn! ☹
 
Palm Springs is relaxing and beautiful.

No, but then Senator John Kennedy did speak at my high school in Massachusetts. So I saw Mr. Kennedy then.
 
And I saw Senator Robert Kennedy campaiging for president in Philadelphia in 1968

I few weeks ago, I did a quick check of my high school classmates in Massachusetts from the early to mid-sixties.
 
I was very surprised so many lived in Cape Cod, or in southern New Hampshire near Hampton Beach.
 
The Winters in Provincetown may be a bit worse though- at the end of the town. I hated being there once in late November. Ugh

There's an easy solution. Spend the summer in P-town and decamp to PS when it starts getting chilly.

how come nobody so far has mentioned the "dick dock"?
 
Take a peek under “D*ck Dock,” one of the world’s most frequented cruising spots / Queerty

I'm from Canada but I spend about half the year this side of the border. I'm often based in NYC which is not all that far from P town. ?

Totally agree.
 
And one can hike a relatively short drive from Provincetown in places with Martha's Vineyard

Great place to have lobster too

Our nexdoor neighbors in Philly had moved to P-town a few years before we retired, so we learned a lot from them about living there, and we did consider it briefly, but for me the drawback was always the winters. I remembered what it was like visiting there in January, and it was not a fond memory.