jtwalker

Here is an example
 
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Absolutely, nothing beats a good make out session at the start of any meet. Kissing is so intimate and if you click at that point what then follows is so much more intense. Kissing is my lead up to the best possible sex! ?

One piece of advice for both escorts and clients: You may or may not be the best kisser, but do this beforehand--antiseptic mouthwash, so that your breath is fresh. A lot of guys don't follow this basic prep.

You seem like a nice guy!
 
Usually escorts can decifer who’s serious from who’s wasting time. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. State your intentions and maybe if you’re getting 1 word answers it’s time to move onto someone else.

I share this curse. I’m a much better written communicator. Even with good friends. Thomas Jefferson was rumored to have been a poor oral communicator, but he wrote magnificently.

When does a provider find 'detail' offensive? Where is the line?

Exactly, that's what @laexecutive is asking.
 
I guess as posted before we need to wait for Fosta and Sesta to be changed. I doubt this SCJ would legalize escorting.

once you know what u want to experience with the provider, would recommend the following:

be clear and state what you want to happen with your encounter if the provider asks you, "into?"
once you have stated the above, ask for confirmation if there is anything in what you said that he would not be into (either respect that, or if a non-negotiable for you, promptly and politely let the provider you pass).
if you are just naturally shy (which believe me, I am) upon meeting the person for the first time, you can tell him beforehand that you can be shy and awkward at first meet and no shame in asking if he could help get the encounter started.

I guess I have had situations where the combo of the above worked and did not work, but definitely saved me, for the most part, some money if I had some non-negotiable they were not willing to deliver. I have since not been too explicit or detailed with my 'into's' but being clear and detailed during the first few times I met providers definitely helped me out. hope that helps.

@jtwalker – Good luck! Communicating is the topic on this website you’ll find there’s no dearth of opinion on!

@JoeMendoza gives good advice
 
The trick to communication is "taking care of business" while not being viewed as a "time waster". I usually try to take care of business in 2-3 txts:

Hey, is this <name>? Saw you profile on RM and interested. Jack here. (establishes contact, intent and also you are texting the right person before giving away "too much" detail)
Looking for.....[be complete but concise about the experience you are looking for, 3-5 sentences OK]. Are we a match? [include dates/times if you have specific constraints, like you are out of town and only have one night available]. THIS is the response you scrutinize carefully. BTW nearly all will SAY they will provide the scenario you are looking for, now you need to decipher their intent. Like, are they really a bottom? Or a top willing to bottom (and perhaps not really enjoying it)?
What the the rate for your time only? 60 90 and 120 min.

If at this point you think you have a match, you can delve into more questions. Point is, 1st 3 texts will get the providers attention and confirm you are not a wanker and a time waster, and know what you are doing. I'd avoid 10 more questions, but this is the time to clear up anything not yet clear including the date/time of your meeting if you decide to move forward.
 
Once established, it's OK to send a few txts "looking forward to our meeting ?" or similar. Just don't be annoying. If you scheduled in advance best to (1) confirm the day/night before then (2) confirm the day of but a few hours before.
 
Providers are barraged all day long with creeps, straight wankers and time wasters who have no intention on closing the deal. You want to stand out from that pack and get started on the right foot.....leading to an exceptional experience ?
 
Hope this helps

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So far, communication has been very difficult for me. First off, I'm a bit shy so its a challenge to talk to sexy men anyway. I am also not sure when and what to say.
 
A couple of times, the one-word answer, how much and where conversations have actually worked out.
 
Many other times, the lack of clarity has lead to very boring encounters. I've found that many profiles are not accurate in terms of likes.
 
Saying too much ahead of time seems risky, but its frustrating playing escort-roulette. From what I understand, escorts are frequently inundated with pointless conversation from time-wasters, so I also understand the one word answers and reluctance to invest much into a conversation.
 
What is the protocol for effective communication?