I'm so sorry you think that way. I think maybe some therapy might help? I also grew up hearing things like that in the 70's and 80's but I knew they were wrong and that I deserved better! Now if you have a fetish for abuse and humiliation and you get off on it then that's a different story. I've known people into that sort of play, but once the scene is over, they go back to their usual self-loving persona and on with life!
Anyhow, I wish you the best!