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Its all about choices and respect. Providers need to take time off, and should take their ad offline for their "day off" to not tempt clients or themselves if the time off is important. But also if a provider makes a choice to accept a client, then he should be in it 100% and not guilt the client for asking for an appointment!

No. I also like Kevin's reply above. My job for the hour that i am together with my client is to focus all of my attention on him. I provide that same level of respect and focus to every client I am with without regard to age, looks, etc. I look for ways to connect to each guy to make him feel special. A similar comparison - If you own a really hot car, would you say to your mechanic, " I see how much you must enjoy working on my awesome car, so why not give me a discount for the hour of labor you spent working on it."

I'm on RentMasseur now, but not yet RentMen. But in both cases they are the only good options due to being based outside of the US with the new internet regulations. We lost Rentboy, MassageM4m, and others. Masseurfinder is good, but limits content to try to protect themselves. I do agree that I like the interview feature and ability to put more content and pictures on the Rmen/Rmasseur sites. Some guys do build their own sites, but then still really need a central place to first be found. There are not a lot of options. I was even thinking of putting a classified ad in our local gay newspaper - talk about old school!

I think most guys can tell a sincere compliment from an empty one. A compliment is like a seasoning. Too much of it ruins things. But just enough at the right time and the right place is nice. I don't make a compliment unless I sincerely mean it. For example, I had a client the other night for a massage who is a bicyclist. He had great legs. While working his legs I mentioned how great they look. He was shy to accept the compliment, and so I followed up by saying, "well, whatever you're doing is definitely working for you, so keep doing it.' I understand the reply by someone here who mentioned that he said to an escort something to the effect of "well you're getting paid to give me a compliment.." and the provider felt hurt by the comment. I often like to compare our work to a waiter-customer relationship. When you go to have dinner at a nice restaurant, of course you are paying ofr the dinner and the service, and the waiter hopes to get a nice tip. He knows that he will get that from doing a good job and giving you a great service. But at the same time he knows that simply building a good relationship with a sincere conversation will get to that end result by making it a nice experience for all involved. If a waiter gave you a nice compliment about something during the course of your dinner and you replied by saying - well you're only giving me a compliment to try to get a bigger tip at the end - I can see how the waiter would find that offensive. In the same way an escort/masseur will find that offensive. So in summary, I am suggesting that escorts should offer compliments with sincerity and I hope that clients will accept them with grace. Thanks Peter (eeks - I was typing late. Edited to fix some errors!)

I think most guys can tell a sincere compliment from an empty one. A compliment is like a seasoning. Too much of it ruins things. But just enough at the right time and the right place is nice. I don't make a compliment unless I sincerely mean it. For example, I had a client the other night for a massage who is a bicyclist. He had great legs. While working his legs I mentioned how great they look. He was shy to accept the compliment, and so I followed up by saying, "well, whatever you're doing is definitely working for you, so keep doing it.' I understand the reply by someone here who mentioned that he said to an escort something to the effect of "well you're getting paid to give me a compliment.." and the provider felt hurt by the comment. I often like to compare our work to a waiter-customer relationship. When you go to have dinner at a nice restaurant, of course you are paying ofr the dinner and the service, and the waiter hopes to get a nice tip. He knows that he will get that from doing a good job and giving you a great service. But at the same time he knows that simply building a good relationship with a sincere conversation will get to that end result by making it a nice experience for all involved. If a waiter gave you a nice compliment about something during the course of your dinner and you replied by saying - well you're only giving me a compliment to try to get a bigger tip at the end - I can see how the waiter would find that offensive. In the same way an escort/masseur will find that offensive. So in summary, I am suggesting that escorts should offer compliments with sincerity and I hope that clients will accept them with grace. Thanks Peter (eeks - I was typing late. Edited to fix some errors!)

It had been very quiet in Provincetown through early June. Once B+Bs opened again, people started returning. It is definately not as busy as a typical July, but people are coming. The beach is open, the streets are open. People are mostly very respectful with mask-wearing and giving others space. Come visit and please look me up when you're here. I stopped seeing clients for a few months, but strting back up Peter

I appreciate seeing the different replies from both providers and clients. I have gone back and forth on it. Sometimes I have sent a "thank you for viewing my ad" and sometimes not. I aam more inclined to do it if the guy is in the city where I am located or visiting soon. I agree with the comments about the coldness of a "canned" message, and so I like to write each individually and chect to see if I had previously sent one. But I'm concerned about invading someone's privacy too. I think short and sweet may be best Peter