Charlie

That headline definitely intrigues me: my father worked in a factory that made cardboard boxes.

It's odd that he lists his location as Philadelphia, but his "near travel" location as Old Greenwich, CT. It takes at least 3 hours minimum to get from Philly to Old Greenwich no matter how you travel. It probably means he has family or friends to stay with in Old Greenwich, and if he is going to be there when you want to get together, he can arrange it. Of course, he is also another advertiser whose "map me" application shows his location as Phlia.City Hall.

I think the only reason for doing this calculation by states is because the laws which affect sexual behavior are decided at the state level, not at the local level. If I were trying to decide where to live or visit, I would be more interested in polls at the city level.

I would like to know where I am going before I book. But it is true that a lot of advertisers in Philly opt for the default location, which is always City Hall. Ironically, years ago City Hall courtyard was one of the common places to find street hustlers.

Let me count the possible places to put this: manspreading, the view from down here, tattoos, backwards ball cap, beards, autoerotica......(?)

Another one whose Map Me location is shown as City Hall.

In defense of the OP, I think many of these answers have distorted the obvious meaning of his original post and his later attempt at clarification: "Who was available as a provider at some time in your lifetime whom you did not hire because of lack of funds, but if you could return to that time now with virtually limitless money, whom would you hire?" It was not a question about who in history would you pay any amount to induce him to have sex with you. That is worth a separate topic.

If you were going this week, I would say forget Palm Springs: the high temperature here today is forecast to be 118 degrees. However, in 5 weeks I hope it will be better.

Love and marriage may go together like a horse and carriage, but sometimes the horse wants to be unharnessed and frolic with a mare that catches his eye. My partner and I were happily married, but I was nevertheless sexually attracted to a variety of men, though not interested in a romantic relationship with them. We agreed from the start that ours would be an "open" marriage, so both of us had occasional sex with other men when circumstances were suitable. Back then, the commercial open marketplace for gay sex didn't exist, except for street hustlers, who usually were not my type. As we aged, opportunities for sex with attractive men became very limited. Then one day, I happened to be alone in NYC, and in the Advocate I saw an ad for a sex service. Curious, I went to the address, told the man at the desk what I was in the mood for at that moment, and he directed me to a room to which he would send someone. I waited in the room for about ten minutes, and in walked a guy whom I could never have picked up cruising on my own. We had great sex, then I dressed and went back to the desk out front, and paid. Soon I learned about finding freelance providers on the Internet (I had just bought my first desktop computer), and from then on my only sex outside marriage was with the professionals, because it was quick and easy, with no danger of becoming emotionally involved with someone just because we had sex.

Sometimes what words one uses to express a feeling are important. "I love you" comes across differently from "I really like you," "I am very fond of you," "I feel a strong connection with you," "I enjoy your company very much." I am reminded of the SafeLite commercial in which the young man who responds to the worker who has just replaced his broken windshield with "I love you" as they shake hands, and the worker looks startled.

I wonder what Bruno looks like now.. He was adorable in the early '80s.

"I love having sex with you" is not the same "I love you"

Don't let that photo of Center City mislead you: you will need a car to get back and forth to his location way out on the Main Line.

Palm Springs is beginning to see the same problem, because the economy here has long assumed that there will be an influx of Canadian snowbirds every autumn. Airlines have already warned that tickets to SoCal aren't selling well this year.

I came out when I was 17 and still in high school (and, no, I wont tell you what year that was, soloyo215), so I could have legitimately claimed to be a twink, if sites like RentMen had existed in those days, but of course they didn't (because the Internet didn't exist).

Kissing is hard when wearing a mask like that!

I am reading West of the Revolution: An Uncommon History of 1776, by Claudio Saunt. While the Americans were fighting for independence from the British in the east, the Spanish and Russians were trying to expand their empires in what eventually became the western United States and Canada.

One thing that I only indirectly mentioned in my posts is that my lawyer recommends that a will name not only an executor, but an alternate if the executor named in the will is unable to execute it at the time of your death. In my case, I was lucky that my brother-in-law's daughter knows the full situation and was willing to be named in the will as alternate executor if her father can't perform the necessary duties when I die. The alternate should know how to access the same information that the primary executor needs to have.

Although William M and I lived for years in the same city, even the same neighborhoods, I didn't become aware of him until I joined this site, and I didn't recognize him as someone I had known in the many years I lived in Philadelphia. He never gave any indication that he recognized me either, although I had been reasonably active in the local gay community for many years (I was involved in the gay rights movement in the 1960's, and was active in community organizations during the AIDS crisis in the 80's). On this site we often disagreed with one another, generally on rather trivial subjects, but we never made any effort to meet or find out who "Charlie" and "William M" were in real life. It was clear from his posts that we were about the same age, so it wouldn't surprise me to learn that he has passed, like so many of my contemporaries. I wish I had seen MikeBiDude's post of that obituary, so I could have speculated on whether it could have been William.

The "Map Me" function is for Denver, and I don't see anything in the ad that indicates when he is in Palm Springs, even though he has a Palm Springs phone number and the reviews are from clients who claim to reside in Palm Springs.

I thought it was because gentlemen (G) always let ladies (L) go first.

"Bonnie Prince Charlie" (that's assuming I started advertising 60 years ago).

Even a family member may not already know important information, like what possessions need to be disposed of that are not specifically mentioned in the will, where important documents and items are stored, the status of things like mortgages and loans, etc. Such information should not only be discussed with a potential executor, he/she should also be given a written list of such things.

As I mentioned before, when I asked my brother-in-law what financial compensation he would like for his work as executor, he declined to accept anything. I suspect it was because he knew the will itself already contained a substantial bequest for his young grandchildren's future education. I imagine many family members could be in a similar kind of situation in regards to a will, and would be reluctant to expect the kind of compensation that a professional would expect..

Picking a family member as executor should be as carefully done as anything else. Most people automatically choose a sibling or an adult child for the role, but I didn't have that option, since I had no siblings, and mine was a childless same-sex marriage. As an only child, my only relations in my generation were multiple cousins, but only two of them are still alive, both much younger females whom I haven't even seen in this century. However, my spouse had two surviving younger brothers, both of whom I had known and been friendly with since they were young men. The older one, who is also gay and has a law degree, might seem like the logical choice on paper, but he is my age, has a history of medical problems, and lives 3000 miles away from me; he probably wouldn't be able to take care of anything that needs to be done in person, especially if I live a lot longer. The youngest brother lives only half as far away from me and is accustomed to make visits; he also has a daughter who is a lawyer and is willing to be a back-up executor for her father. So although I feel less close to him emotionally, he was the better choice. But no matter how well you think you know the family member and you think he/she knows you, before making the will, one should have a long talk with the potential executor, making sure he/she is aware of all the duties and expectations in your specific situation, and is willing and able to perform them.