Charlie

When I click on "Information," it brings up a link to "Contact," but nothing at all happens when I click on it. I am trying to contact an administrator because I got an "Alert" that a poster had quoted my post in a response, but when I clicked on it, the quote was not from me--in fact, it was a thread that I never participated in, and the response was really nasty.

Many years ago, after a delightful afternoon appointment in NYC with a really hot escort, we cuddled up in bed with a copy of the Advocate "pink pages" (I told you this was many years ago!), and we compared notes on which escorts each of us knew. He said that he often had sex with other escorts, sometimes as a client and sometimes off the clock, depending on what the situation called for. Unfortunately, some time later he became emotionally involved with one of the escorts I knew, who was a gorgeous psycho--yes, escorts "fall in love with" escorts just as clients sometimes do--and it turned out badly for him.

If there was anything you did wrong, it was probably not meeting him in person beforehand to make sure that (a) he was who he represented himself to be, and (b) you were comfortable with one another in a social situation. If you had a dinner date or even a coffee date first, I think he might have been less likely to simply flake on the wedding day.

The fact that a building is 80 years old doesn't mean that it was mortgaged only once, at construction. It is probable that ownership changed hands multiple times, and the building has had multiple mortgages. Many older co-ops in Manhattan were not originally co-op, but were built as rental apartment buildings that turned out not to be profitable when rent controls were instituted, so the owners turned them into co-ops so that the individual apartment owners would assume responsibility for the underlying mortgages through HOA fees. I lived through one such conversion of a building in which I had been a tenant.

I live in a retirement community of individual homes, for which the owners are entirely responsible, including landscaping and utilities, but HOA fees are still needed for insurance and maintenance of the communal areas, the "lodge" (which contains offices, meeting rooms, game rooms, a gym, craft rooms, library, kitchen, etc.), four swimming pools with toilet and shower facilities, tennis courts, pickleball courts, shuffleboard, bocce, etc. In addition to all the maintenance expenses, management personnel to run the facilities aren't cheap. Lawyers are also needed to deal with problematic owners and residents as well as with local government. It is a gated community, but the gatehouses are not manned; however, some residents who are nervous about security want the HOA board to hire guards to man the gatehouses and patrol the grounds. An owner, who is a retired police chief, has estimated that the cost of doing so could almost double the current HOA fee (he thinks it would be a waste of money for little actual gain in security). We moved here from our own home on a quarter acre of land with a swimming pool, and a dozen lovely trees (the proper care of which cost us about $8000/yr). I have found that even with all the things that have to be covered by the HOA fee, our homeowning expenses have actually decreased along with the stress of individual responsibility for things that are now taken care of by someone else.

I think William meant to say you DON'T want to drive from Logan to P-Town on a holiday weekend. However, I don't know how hard it may be to rent a car in P-town.

I think one would have to know a lot more about the history of the building to decide how reasonable or unreasonable the HOA fee is. I lived in a rental building near Lincoln Center that was converted to a co-op in the 1980s, and we new owners were shocked to find out all the things that had to be included in the HOA fee once we had bought our units. I sold it as soon as I legally could. I used to think I would like to retire in Manhattan, but that no longer holds any appeal for me.

Sigh....I came oh, so close to being part of history. I lived within walking distance of the Stonewall, but on that fateful night we decided to go to bed early instead of going out to the bars, and we didn't learn about what happened until the next day.

Interesting: in one ad he claims to be 26, and in the other he claims "10 years experience." How many professional masseurs start at 16?

It sounds like he accidentally used the text he had written for an ad on Silverdaddies.

That's sort of funny: I lived half my life in Philly. But that background did remind me of old places I have been in there.

George Nader, BTW, was a hunky B-level movie actor in the 1950s, whose photos in the movie mags always turned me on at that time. I later learned that he was gay.

I thought, "Well, that's a book by Ralph Nader about corruption in the auto industry that I didn't know about," and then I saw the cover.

What a grim-looking setting, almost like a prison.

He was using some of those same photos when I met him in NYC 14 years ago. He had a professional academic career at that time and escorted only for extra money and kicks, which probably explains why he disappears from the scene for long periods. I would at least ask for current photos before making a commitment, though he is the type of person who is likely to have taken good care of himself physically. He was an active member of this site at one time, and may still be on here.

I only take the things that my doctor says my most recent tests show that I need, such as Vitamin B complex and testosterone. My need for Vitamin D fluctuates according to how much time I spend outdoors in the sun (e.g., when I am playing a lot of tennis and swimming outdoors, my level is well into the normal range, so I don't take the supplement).

I rode once with friends in their new BMW from a small town in central New Jersey to Philadelphia. Although I knew the best and fastest route, the GPS kept telling the driver to take a different route, and then kept telling him how to get back to the route it wanted him to take. It drove both of us crazy. We don't have GPS in either of our cars; we always carry good maps, which unfortunately are getting harder and harder to find.

If the guy in the photos is 5'11", he certainly doesn't look like he weighs 210 lbs as advertised (though that appendage does look rather heavy).

I haven't activated Siri. In fact, I completely forgot she is an option on my phone.

I entered the texting world only a few months ago when I finally got an iPhone, but I rarely do it because I have such a difficult time typing anything on those tiny keys, so I have done it only when the message is very short and I have no other communication choice. I have had a tablet for several years, but I bought it for use only when I am traveling, because I don't like typing on a touchscreen--I prefer a real clackety keyboard like the one I use on my computer. What finally pushed me into at least having the option for texting was an experience of waiting for an electrician who hadn't shown up for an appointment. When he finally arrived, he explained, "But I texted your number a couple of times to let you know why I was going to be late?" I said, "That number is a landline!! It doesn't get texts." He looked at me in wonderment, like, "Dude, this is the 21st century."

Scene from a Busby Berkeley musical?

I remember being driven around in the Swiss Alps in a 2CV many years ago by a friend who was very upset and had been drinking; it had no seat belts, and I seriously considered trying to jump out.

There are three reviews of him on Daddy's under "Chris" in L.A.

Ernests Gulbis, who was a flash in the pan on the tennis courts (he got to the semis once at Roland Garros).

Any dog on a plane that is not in a carrier should be muzzled--it is just common sense.