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If the only thing about the escort that matters to him is that the escort is black, that is a fetish. If he is simply more strongly attracted to handsome black men than other men, that is a preference.

No, I had foolishly brought everything in a huge suitcase--it was my first trip to Europe, and I didn't realize how much I would come to hate that suitcase.

Mud wrestling.

At night under a bridge in Luxembourg City, with a guy who picked me up on the street only a couple of hours after I arrived in the country on a flight from New York. I had no idea where he had taken me or how to get back to my hotel, and he didn't speak much English. But I was young, and it was my first opportunity to have sex in Europe.

There is a very nice one called Forestgrove in Santa Rosa, but it is for fairly affluent gay professionals (the kind of people who expect there to be a full-time pet-sitter on staff). A friend of ours purchased an apartment there about five years ago, but unfortunately he died right after he moved in, so I never got a report on his reaction to living there. It is in the same neighborhood as the big wildfire in Santa Rosa, so I don't know how much it was affected by the destruction there.

My mother spent her final years (age 94-102) in such a community, starting in assisted living and ending in nursing care, and it was a good situation for her. My partner and I actually visited several continuing care communities a few years ago, because they seemed like an ideal solution to our situation (no children to take care of us, and no family in a position to take responsibility for us). The problem is that most are really designed for straight couples or singles. We spent two days in one that was very nice, and they designated a very likeable resident gay couple to shepherd us around. However, we got the impression that most of the residents were rather conservative upper middle class straight folks, and the gay couple admitted that among almost a thousand residents, they were the only male couple! We felt the administration were trying to recruit us as tokens so they could claim to state authorities that they were diversified. The ones here in the Coachella Valley were more relaxed about sexual diversity, but they were also out of our price range. We did find one that we really liked in a university town, and we almost bought into it, but they didn't have a memory care facility, which is necessary for my spouse. One has to really investigate these communities carefully, because they don't always have all the services they claim in their brochures.

As a descendant of Bermudans, I wish I could have attended.

I had a few wet dreams when I was young, but not after I learned how to avoid them.

Medvedev's play today was brilliant, but he was helped by Wawrinka, who played the worst match I have ever seen from him.

Possibly. I always use Firefox. A couple of nights ago, however, I could enter this box, but it wouldn't post. Then later it did.

When looking for a new place to retire, one should also try to consider the possibility that you may be retired for a long time. When you are in your 70s and 80s, your wants and needs will probably turn out to be somewhat different from what you wanted and needed in your 60s, and you don't want to be stuck in the wrong place if you no longer have the means or energy to move again. When my parents retired at 65, they relocated to the perfect place for them. But as a new widow at 75, my mother realized that it no longer met her needs, and she relocated to yet another completely new area, which was just right--at that time. At 89, that place no longer worked for her, and she had to make another major relocation. Before retiring anywhere, it's worthwhile to project what your life is going to be like if you live there ten or twenty years from now.

In the 1960s, my best friend was stationed at the Air Force base in Wichita. He loved the town and its gay community. Then he got caught up in an Air Force witch hunt for gay personnel in Wichita who were interacting with the local community, and was arrested by military police at the home of his civilian boyfriend. He was discharged, along with several of his comrades, and his boyfriend said he never wanted to see him again, because the exposure had ruined his life in Wichita. I have been to Kansas a few times, but I have never had any desire to visit Wichita.

But there is interaction. Jerking his fellator off with his foot certainly requires dexterity!

When I looked at the ad, I said to myself, "Those photos look old." You beat me to it.

When I was ready to retire from my full-time job at 60, my partner and I did an 8000 mile driving trip around the entire country, looking at all the places that I had been researching for a couple of years as possible retirement relocations. We settled on Palm Springs for several reasons, but there were other places I really liked and was sorry to forego. Now I find myself bitching all the time about the summer heat the same way that I used to bitch about the winters in Pennsylvania, and I fantasize about what it would be like to have chosen some of those places instead. But starting life in a new place at 61 is a lot easier than doing it again years later, when one worries more about finding new friends and new support services, especially if one is dealing with medical issues. I would certainly recommend relocating if one retires fairly early and has the means and desire to live somewhere new, but no matter where you go, expect to have times when you suffer nostalgia for your old home and regrets about the new one. No place is perfect to begin with, and every place changes over time, in ways good and bad.

That's Mt. San Jacinto in the background.

We Palm Springers also talk about our "monsoon season."

"It's a dry heat" is simply a way to convince oneself that it could be worse. But believe me, day after day of temperatures in the 105-120 range under a blazing sun, with nights that only decline into the high 80s, are not that pleasant. And it isn't always very dry: the last few days here in the desert have been humid as well as hot. As I write this, it is early morning, with a temperature of 83 and 66% humidity, and no breeze at all. My ideal would be to live on the coast in the Pacific Northwest from June to October, with a condo in Palm Springs for the rest of the year.

His behavior is immature, but he is fascinating to watch as a player. He is not physically attractive to me, although I do sometimes like the geeky skinny look. However, his opponent today, Dominic Koepfer, could easily find work on rent.men.

O, Canada!!

Yes, that Bruno was truly a porn star. I sat next to him once on the ferry to Cherry Grove. Were you the guy he was traveling with?

I had problems posting last night and went to bed, but the post was still sitting in the reply box when I logged on just now, so I posted it; then I discovered that it had posted last night after all, so I went back and deleted the earlier copy.

Grazing through this thread from 2017, I am struck by the recommendations for places like Santa Rosa, which the 2018 wildfires have made one think twice about as idyllic retirement places.Last month we made a drive up through western Oregon on the I-5, and had to drive through many miles of smoke-filled air from a wildfire there. We stayed the night in Grants Pass, and could hardly breathe even indoors, although the fire was 40 miles away.

I get what hair I have left cut approximately once a month. I'm on my way to my barber now..

People often don't realize how negative they can sound, because most listeners tend to be polite in response. Friends don't let friends whine forever.