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Some might — with good reason, to be sure — advocate undergoing a healing period before even considering hiring again, but I personally think that a good experience ASAP would be most helpful. Hire someone with multiple good reviews, meet in the hotel restaurant, etc. And yeah, no money upfront. If this completely sours you to your hobby, the bad guys win, in a way...
 
I think that a particular old adage could be applicable here: “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”

Some might — with good reason, to be sure — advocate undergoing a healing period before even considering hiring again, but I personally think that a good experience ASAP would be most helpful. Hire someone with multiple good reviews, meet in the hotel restaurant, etc. And yeah, no money upfront. If this completely sours you to your hobby, the bad guys win, in a way...
 
I think that a particular old adage could be applicable here: “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.”

Scam. My condolences.
 
Scammers are growing bolder and bolder.
 
Incidentally, there are real (corrupt) cops in Tijuana who find a pretext for arresting someone, then just ask for money in exchange for release. It’s happened to a couple of friends of mine. But yeah — those were actual cops. Yours was not. And like an earlier poster noted, legitimate undercover operations are generally composed of several people, or so I’ve read. I’ve also read that they are recorded, so a real cop wouldn’t ask for a bribe, I think... Anyway, I hope this doesn’t haunt your psyche too much. That sucks.

I had a client who used to be an escort. He too worked through an agency. But yeah, now he’s a client using the Internet. Circle of life, eh?

I love how the bios of some Grindr guys address a certain subset/group of gays and add “to the front of line.” As if there’s really a line of people waiting to get into their pants.

Not to fret — the Brit in my estimation who serves as the exemplar of my favorite accent is Cary Grant ?

I love how the bios of some Grindr guys address a certain subset/group of gays and add “to the front of line.” As if there’s really a line of people waiting to get into their pants.

“The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent.” -Stanley Kubrick

“The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent.” -Stanley Kubrick

I had to provide a pic of my ID way back when. The problem for me is “verifying my photos” (which is optional, and on your page indicates to visitors that you’ve done so) by taking a selfie holding up a paper with my URL (rentmen.com/loremipsum) on it. I just don’t feel comfortable with the possibility of that photo swimming around; it is irrefutable proof that I was at one point an escort.

Better a cynic than a chump.
 
Don’t get down on yourself, OP. I’ve had many a client tell me to follow my gut. It’s the right route to go, protecting yourself. You feel you’ve pushed him away? If you think this guy is actually bona fide, and you’re still desirous, by all means extend an olive branch — but don’t feel melancholy if he balks.

What are some of your favorites? I’m partial to a great many — some of mine are:
 
“The wicked envy and hate; it is their way of admiring.” -Victor Hugo
 
“No man made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could only do little.” -Edmund Burke
 
“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.” -J.K. Rowling by way of Albus Dumbledore
 
“Fas est et ab hoste doceri.” (Right it is to be taught by an enemy/a wise man may seek good counsel even from a foe.) -Ovid

“You do not have to attend every argument to which you are invited.” -Idk

“You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.” -C.S. Lewis

I’m empathetic. I’ve known that people make great misuse of this adverb since I was around eight years old. Same goes for “literally,” which I believe was also in 2012 deemed acceptable by the powers that be. Not hot.

Unfortunately, no. He could have profited from what I offered.

I now we don’t mention names here but I have seen a very stable genius that went to Wharton

Looks to me like a GoogleTranslate job from Portuguese to English. Let me give it a (cursory) go at a correct, non-mundane description (not to disparage underhandedly the escort in question — just giving it a go):
 
In me you’ll find a sensual, sinewy sexpert who is incidentally fluent in both legalese and the language of love alongside my own native, Brazilian tongue, the likes of which in another man you’ll never find... Legend has it that Latin lovers are the best lovers, and I am an embodiment of this, here to dispel any doubt about said notion. I am a Latin Lover par excellence. Our lovemaking will cause you to writhe and ache in blissful ecstasy and even brief twinges of agony as you beg me to stop, hardly able to withstand the exquisite pain of my penetrating not only your simultaneously desirous and rejecting body but almost piercing your very soul with my greatest appendage, remaining on the cusp of a heady release until I liberate you from the throes and prison of the seemingly endless climactic edge, allowing you to orgasm...
 
Idk. Too much?

You mean “its”? ?

You mean “its”? ?

those who* and put a comma after that “i.e.”
 
I was a worse “Grammar Nazi” in my teens — perhaps in part informed by my being the copy editor of the school paper. A friend exploited this in the form of a threat after she expressed via text that she’d grown weary of my “elevated diction” — I replied with a deliberately-phrased “I cannot help it if this is the manner in which I speak. Or text, rather.” Her response: “STOP OR I’LL STOP USING PUNCTUATION.”
 
Now I’m mostly bothered when people don’t use question marks, that is unless a word is used that clearly indicates that a question is being asked rather than a statement being made (e.g., the “is” in “is 5PM good” rather than “5PM good”). I’m sometimes texted a simple “Rates and availability” — no “Hello,” no question mark — I just don’t reply.
 
I appreciate that this can be off-putting to potential clients, but there’s a lid for every pot: One of my regulars, upon our first rendezvous, intimated to me that the ultimate, deciding factor in his meeting me was seeing in my ad “Please use complete sentences when contacting me.” (He’s a writer; he was an English and Philosophy major at Georgetown, and then went on to Yale Law School, so it makes sense.) I’m fine if I only attract clients of that ilk.
 
In the interest of softening my perceived fastidiousness: I’m okay with split infinitives; far too many phrases are awkwardly-put if one really wants to avoid splitting their verb phrases.

I think I knew him once. Good man, that Lorem. He gave me a great piece of advice once - semper ubi sub ubi.

You mean “its”? ?

How old was he? Millennials typically regard it as sketchy not to have your phone on and charged at all times. Phones die only when they’re out for hours of partying at nights, making considerable use of their battery for IG stories to commemorate said times and such. Escorts have no-shows often. I myself confirm the day of, as he attempted to do. The fact that he was angrier at you than you at him probably reflects a history of his confirming with clients day of, and having had some neglect to respond even just to cancel, and then not showing. That being said, certainly it is your prerogative not to avail yourself of his services in the future. You confirmed it earlier in the week and that should’ve been good enough. Once a client books an appointment, I’ve learned to act as though they are always serious about seeing me and will follow through, even knowing that they might not. This ensures that I don’t book another client for that time slot and prevents subsequent awkwardness (read: near-disaster) ensuing if they both think they’re going to meet me at the same hour.

“This is not a book that should just be tossed aside — it should be thrown with great force.” ?