Massageislife

Troy’s Tiger was a “dancer” for Adonis for years. I never had him in my lap (not my type), but others told me that he was a nice guy.

He quoted me (and I paid) $450!

He quoted me (and I paid) $450!

I fooled around and found out. Rafael, is a nice guy, looks just like his stunning pics, and is, indeed, versatile. Expensive but worth the splurge.

I fooled around and found out. Rafael, is a nice guy, looks just like his stunning pics, and is, indeed, versatile. Expensive but worth the splurge.

Your post is unnecessary. Everyone has preferences in what they desire, and no one is trying to change anyone else’s. The point here is civility. We’re a community of people of various sizes, ages, and genders. Those areas can be addressed without verging into insult.

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

Years ago, he was one of my first private massages, and I wasn’t sure what to expect or ask for. When I emerged from Covid—and much more seasoned as a receiver of massages—I thought I’d try again. Huge mistake. The first 30 minutes he went on and on about how much better Florida was than New York, and DeSantis than de Blasio. He was open to MT, but near the the end of our time, he said I scratched him (which I didn’t) and that the massage was over, adding that I was lucky he didn’t hit me for scratching him. The whole thing would have been scary, if it hadn’t been so ridiculous.

I am happy it didn't make you  personally feel badly, but just because you were treated that way, doesn't mean somehow that you can do it to others.  Insulting/teasing/bullying/name calling others because it was what was done to you is a tradition to be broken, not to be carried on.

I used to think that way. But then I realized I didn't need to say everything I thought. 
And I think criticism is fair when it regards things people can control. But commenting on a person's appearance, particularly their weight, height, or facial features, is just mean-spirited. 
I prefer men taller than me (6' or taller), but I don't go from thread to thread calling the providers "midgets." So I'm frank about my preferences while not insulting or dehumanizing anyone. 

I'm a native NYer who grew up pretty poor. You will not find a more frank speaker than me. 
However, knowing that providers do check this site - in fact some moderate it - calling them "fat" or "ugly" or whatever is unnecessarily nasty. You could simply say "this person isn't my type" or just say nothing. 
And to be frank, you and your wife don't sound like people I'd want to spend time with. Again, as a NYer, we don't say shit behind your back that we wouldn't say to your face. So if you said one of my friends was fat, I would tell you that you're being an asshole. 

Bottom line, you can be critical without being an asshole.
Know that difference.  It's what separates trash from treasure.

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

This is just essentializing the incentives and markers of late-stage capitalism and patriarchy to some biological imperative. It's not. While biology plays a role, our desires are primarily shaped by our experiences, cultures, and psychology. All of these are also geographically and historically situated. For example, as recently as WWII, a man was not considered queer unless he bottomed. (See George Chauncey's Gay New York. In much the same way, how we discuss even physical characteristics are historically and culturally constructed. 
No one is saying we don't have your preferences and turn-ons. That's cool. What some of us object to is using degrading and dehumanizing language ("fat," "ugly," racial tropes, etc.) to describe providers. It's not that hard. People post about guys I don't find remotely desirable ALL THE TIME. And I don't comment on them. I feel no need to "yuck someone's yum" or to say nasty things about sex workers. 
If a client has a concern that the person they're going to meet with may look different, ask for a quick FaceTime or for them to send a current time stamped pic. 

Your post is unnecessary. Everyone has preferences in what they desire, and no one is trying to change anyone else’s. The point here is civility. We’re a community of people of various sizes, ages, and genders. Those areas can be addressed without verging into insult.

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

Your post is unnecessary. Everyone has preferences in what they desire, and no one is trying to change anyone else’s. The point here is civility. We’re a community of people of various sizes, ages, and genders. Those areas can be addressed without verging into insult.

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

Your post is unnecessary. Everyone has preferences in what they desire, and no one is trying to change anyone else’s. The point here is civility. We’re a community of people of various sizes, ages, and genders. Those areas can be addressed without verging into insult.

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

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And the curious amongst us...

There are several bisexual men who are part of the community here

It doesn’t happen a lot on this site—which is a treasure, by the way—but I’m always stunned on the rare occasions when commenters use right-wing language like “woke,” “canceled,” or, in an instance on a past thread, “social justice warrior.” These terms are all meant to diminish efforts to protect and honor people who have been and continue to be subject to every kind of abuse and violence—like the queer men this site primarily serves! I don’t know what commenters would get out of throwing out insults about someone’s weight, age, etc., which add an unnecessary toxicity to this place of deep, human pleasure. Thank you all who call it out every time. ❤️

You were the hall monitor in elementary school weren't you ?