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My day has been spent binge watching The Politician, browsing this site, checking out potential providers, and watching porn. It's been hard to stay motivated to work while working from home lately. I've basically only responded to a few emails today, nevermind the fact I was suppose complete my self performance review & turn it into my director last Friday. It's a week late & he just sent me a reminder to get it in. So far I've only typed in my name & employee# on the form ??‍♂️ I wish I could hire someone to do this for me. I need a good vacation & haven't been able to use really any PTO due to Covid19.

He was nice to be with, it doesn't matter to me what he claims to be or where from.

When I started hiring two years ago, before I found out about RM, I booked a few through pro section of a4a. I still check it on occasion, but isn't my go to place anymore.

While you think it's overreacting, look at why this thread was started. These kinds of "preferences" have real life implications. And you think it's just "sexual preferences" but really those "preferences" help decide your actions in your daily life from who you make friends with, who you pick to be in your group for class projects, who you sit next to on public transit, employees you choose to hire, who you grant bank loans to, neighborhoods you want to live in, etc.

When you look at race as a fetish, you begin to cross over to the offensive/racism side. BBC isn't a race. What's funny about Liking Asians? Liking or disliking hairy guys or even bottoming is completely different from liking or disliking skin color.

Well we didn't really have deep conversations ?. He had an accent & now that I think about it, it would make sense that English isn't his first language. But there wasn't a communication problem. Tbh, how well he speaks English isn't on my radar when it comes to rating my experience with him. I think he's mediterranean or middle eastern.

I've seen him twice. Didn't have the language issue though. Although the first time was just for massage, the 2nd time for more. I ultimately enjoyed both times.

Last year I was in STL for work, was going to hire him as he was there, but something was off about him. He wanted to meet at 2am & to be paid with prepaid gift cards. I declined. A few months ago, he was in MN, where I'm from, he messaged me apologizing about what happened in STL. I was going to book him then, but he ended leaving town earlier than expected. This was before covid.

No, I agree with you. I'm not saying the studies aren't true. People really have that misconception, it's rooted in racism. But just because a lot of people believe something don't make it a fact.

1. They're less generous? But the provider sets the rate, they're expecting a tips? ? 2. More demanding? Or just express their discontent with poor service? ? Not trying to change the subject, but interesting enough those two misconceptions are used in probably every industry as reason why a business choose to either provide no service or poor service to blacks. "They don't tip, they expect too much from us." Which is sad but not true for everyone who is black. Something negative a black person does gets deemed as the rule for all blacks, but if it was something positive, it's deemed an exception not the rule.

I always disclose my basic stats (black, shorter in height, not inshape, my age) kind of in the same manner I would if I was going to meet up with a random person on Grindr. I want to give the provider the chance to opt out, before an appointment is confirmed, if I don't meet their requirements as a client. I have had some providers say it isn't an issue or they don't judge clients by looks, but during the session I felt otherwise. They seem in a rush, not engaged or interested, or now they don't do certain activities. So disclosing won't always help you avoid those providers who let their personal biases get in the way of their business. I don't do it because I'm embarrassed or asking them for a favor to take me on as a client, We're both are providing something the other wants. But I do it help ensure I have an enjoyable time. I rather be turned down in advance vs at the door or they go through with the booking and it isn't an good time. I don't go into many gay spaces or even Pride anymore because I've seen so much discrimination in the gay community, more there, than when I used to spend summers in small country town in Mississippi as a teen. It's like an ugly, not often spoken about truth of the gay community.

I messaged one of those who left a review for him on the AD. They said it was really him ???‍♂️ also that he wasn't very proactive & you would have to really guide the session.

I think his reviews on his ads are faked. https://rent.men/Sebask https://rentmasseur.com/Sebastianoz

I should've listened. ???? money down the drain.

That is a bit extreme. I think not confirming an appointment unless a deposit is receive seems more reasonable. I guess you will weed out most if not all the flakes, but I wonder how many non-flakes you'll miss out on because they don't want to send a deposit just to start the conversation. I doubt you're putting the deposit in escrow ? I'm not a provider, so I don't know your experiences. But just from a non-flake client's perspective, not sure if that's a good look to potentials.

This is one of those "kinks" I don't get. It looks painful. I kind of want to book hoss just to ask him about it & see him do it, and that I'll be the end of the visit. I also don't understand fisting either ??‍♂️

I definitely have been asking those questions. I'm comfortable with the answers, but I'm still on the fence about going through with it or not. If I do, definitely will each be masked. I live alone & work from home, so I've been pretty good with social distancing. There's been no parties for me.

I've hired twice, will be for a third time on Thursday. The first was with my regular on 6/30 & primarily therapeutic. my state was beginning to reopen so, I thought it was safe. My second time was two weeks later, had no symptoms. This time with a new local guy, more sensual/erotic. Still no symptoms. Sort of nervous about this third time. He's a traveler, I met with once before covid & wanted to again if he came to town. Now he's back. ??‍♂️

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I have to agree, some of the best experiences I've had was because the provider messaged me after I viewed their page. I probably wouldn't have booked with them otherwise, but now I'm booking them whenever they come to town.

I was born & raised in Minneapolis now live in a suburb just north of it. Growing up black here, I know first hand that law enforcement here can be brutal though. Minneapolis will be back. I work for the company of one of the grocery stores that was destroyed & they have vowed to reopen in the same spot, as well as many other businesses that were destroyed. I was at the protests a couple nights & I can definitely say that the people causing the destruction wasn't from the area & even some locals tried to intervene to prevent it. Not only that but we suspect some of the burnings were done for an insurance scam by property owners. Would go into more detail about it, but I don't think this is the appropriate thread for that. Providers or anyone don't be discouraged from coming to Minneapolis. The Twin Cities has is it issues to work out, but there's a lot of love here too & is a beautiful place. Most of my family has moved out of state & has been begging me to move with them as well, but I love living in here, can't imagine being any where else.

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I haven't had anal sex with any of the guys I've gotten a massage from, one wanted to take it there but I didn't want to bottom. Mostly just hjs, some unfortunately were do it yourself hjs, but whatever. Just a few times I've ended up with them in my mouth. I think I've end up in their mouth only twice.

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