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I would think they would each get their hourly rate. You're paying them for their time not for their services remember?

I believe he was once a contestant on Project Runway as well.

I think it's also funny how quickly some guys will ask for dick pics. I've definitely gotten Grindr messages like: Hi, how are you? Good, can you send me a pic of your dick? I work in education so I don't keep any photos of that on my phone (and in fact am often deleting and redownloading Grindr and Scruff) and it's often an instant dealbreaker. This is true even when it's like we're trying to go out for a drink or something. It's like, why do you need to see my dick for a coffee date? But if I say I don't have one, I often get ghosted. Guys are weird.

You have to give it to Ezra Miller and his makeup artist Mimi Choi: https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/shortcuts/2019/may/08/another-pair-of-eyes-how-makeup-artist-mimi-choi-created-ezra-millers-met-gala-look

He's amazing...really admire his ability. And I am someone who excels at trivia.

I've met with him as well. PM me for details if you want. In general..I liked him but haven't hired him since the initial meeting.

I am confused by why #1 would matter. You don't actually even need to log-in or have an account on Adam4Adam to see pro profiles (or actually anyone's profiles). For example, this is one of my favorite massage therapists in Denver: NorseTouch. Shouldn't the link to that be sufficient? Chatroom is even offered as one of the options for where you found the professional.

There is one in Denver that is kind of like that. He quoted me $500 for an evening or day. We once went up to the mountains and hiked, had lunch, did some hot springs and had some fun (of course I paid for everything although he insisted on paying tip for lunch). We actually spent probably more like six hours together. Although he has quoted me an hourly rate when he is busy and can't hang out for that long.

You can assume that nearly anyone on a PrEp regimen is being tested every three months for most STIs.

Well yes, but the data on intermarriage I was pulling from the 2010 census showed not just that whites were the least likely to marry outside their race (which BTW is only a 60 percent majority at this point), but they married at rates much, much lower than any other group. If we randomly coupled 100 adults that represented the racial breakdown of the United States, I doubt the number of white people partnering with someone of another race would be as low as two percent. I'm no mathematician, but that would almost seem impossible. For what it's worth more recent data from Pew has white people marrying someone outside their race at 11 percent (https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2017/05/18/intermarriage-in-the-u-s-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/) though the data is different because Pew is looking at newlyweds whereas the census was looking at all married couples. The reality is interracial marriage is still a minority of all new marriages for all racial groups (18 percent for African-Americans, 27 percent for Hispanics and 29 percent for Asians). Only 17 percent of new marriages overall are interracial marriages according to the Pew survey.

I am a Mexican-American/Latinx. I think you're really on to something...we all just need to be more reflective of our own prejudices and stereotypes about gay men of other races and ethnicities. I'll be the first to reflect that when I was just out of college I thought I wasn't very attracted to Asian men, but in deconstructing it in my mind I think it had just something to do with stereotypes that Asian men are not as sexual or something. However, I have gotten better at being open minded and have actually dated Asian men including one for more than three years. And of course the sex was amazing...it was just me having to be more open minded.

I am not trying to say that an individual is racist because they don't date people of color. But I think societal racism is basically a form of social conditioning that absolutely does lead to individual preferences on race. Until Virginia V. Loving only about 50 years ago, it was actually against the law in many places for a man and a woman of different races to marry. And even to this day interracial marriage remains fairly low with only about 15 percent of marriages. And the white population is actually the least likely to intermarry with only about 2 percent of white people marrying someone outside their race. Sexuality is definitely a complicated thing, but I do think our society's views on race absolutely plays a part in our attraction to or at least our willingness to couple with those of other races and ethnicities.

This is just inference...I really don't have a definitive answer.

You're talking about Rent.Men I think? I'm not 100 percent sure but I think it relates to what city they are now or what city they will be soon. For example, https://rent.men/Ryan_Parker is going to be in Omaha and Denver within the next 24 hours so those two cities are lit up, but Kansas City is too far away? For https://rent.men/Ericturner only Portland is green because that is the city he is in right now and not yet any of the other cities. I also think it's sometimes the cities they are currently in. So Mike Gaite (https://rent.men/MikeGaite) is about to travel but is currently in San Jose so only San Francisco is lit up green because he can actually travel there currently. https://rent.men/TopSFstud is in San Francisco and so nothing is green because he is not going to be traveling in any city in the next 24 hours or so.

I'm dealing with it a little bit from the client side. I have a semi-regular that likes to chat me up on occasion but when I finally try to set something up to meet he gets sick or has a family obligation or today didn't want to drive because it's snowing. He's a bit of a younger guy (mid to late 20s) and I think lives with his family still so I guess it's understandable. I do hope to meet with him again, but not sure how I can set something up when he is actually available.

I'm kinda curious because I've never experienced it from the provider side. How well are you able to communicate with the people who run Rent.Men? They feel pretty opaque to me. I mean there is a contact form, but it's just a blank box that I assume goes nowhere. But maybe it actually does? Or maybe it does for people who pay money? Honestly just wondering.

I agree with you. I think the Grindr lawsuit is bullshit and dangerous. It's the same kind of thinking that gives us FOESTA/SESTA that says the platform of information should be responsible for the individuals who publish on the platform. I do think many areas of the internet are a bit nasty towards certain types of people, but ultimately a law that tries to prevent that is censorship.

I agree with you. I think the Grindr lawsuit is bullshit and dangerous. It's the same kind of thinking that gives us FOESTA/SESTA that says the platform of information should be responsible for the individuals who publish on the platform. I do think many areas of the internet are a bit nasty towards certain types of people, but ultimately a law that tries to prevent that is censorship.

He did for maybe a month. even had an ad on Rent.men. Maybe he found that it was getting in the way of his porn work or he just didn't really like escorting. He doesn't appear to be doing it anymore.

I don't really agree...I think data of all sorts is the best way to support any decision you make. And the study in this case is fairly straightforward..white gay men who got messages from both other white men and men of color were most likely to respond to other white men. The fact that there are less people of color on these sites is irrelevant. For what it's worth, there is a lot more data to the study. There was another question where users were asked: Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color/racial background and gay white men actually had the highest percentage responding yes with 43 percent. This data just looked at LGB data, but I think that is interesting. https://www.gwern.net/docs/psychology/okcupid/samesexdataforracevsreplyrates.html I'd say there is definitely a significant racial preferences in gay white men then in other groups.

Thanks man..I appreciate you saying the nice things about me to him. I reviewed him pretty soon after he started so I'm glad it's helped him out. Terry is my only review in Vegas but I've reviewed several other guys mostly regulars in Denver or ones who have visited. You can see them here: https://www.google.com/search?q=kerosenefire/https://www.daddysreviews.com&hl=en&ei=S1LFXInnOM_KswWmv6WYAw&start=0&sa=N&ved=0ahUKEwjJuPyXnvLhAhVP5awKHaZfCTM4ChDx0wMIMw&biw=1280&bih=621

That's some hot video man. While I didn't do anything like that with him, I thought it was pretty cool how he let me hang out with him during the night we were together. We had our session and then we just hanged out doing laundry, running errands, having dinner. If he likes you, he kinda brings you into his world a bit. Or at least that was my experience.

Well since one recent study suggested that upwards of 70 percent of same-sex couples met online (https://www.technologyreview.com/s/609091/first-evidence-that-online-dating-is-changing-the-nature-of-society/), I would say it's more than just a "small universe." There is also the whole class-action lawsuit from gay Asian-Americans alleging racial discrimination on Grindr. https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/asian-american-man-threatens-class-action-discrimination-suit-against-grindr-n890946 And of course Grindr had to do that whole Kindr campaign do go against the backlash of the site (with 27 million users) that sees many profiles with messages like "No Asians" or "No Blacks." So while I wouldn't necessarily say that gay men are more concerned with race than straight men....I do think that racism in the gay community is a big problem.

Data backs up your claim. OkCupid does some interesting stuff with their data and did find that white men were less likely to reply to messages from men of color. https://www.thetaskforce.org/wonky-wednesday-racism-in-gay-online-dating/ Not sure about the why...maybe because gay men are already a marginalized group, some white gay men feel that they are holding onto more of their privilege if they partner with other white men? Not sure to be honest.

Well we just need to prove him right by not traveling to Brazil..the economy under Bolsonaro has not gotten any better. Economists are very pessimistic about the future of Brazil's economy under his "leadership." Hopefully, the public can right the ship after seeing that ugly populism does nothing but divide the country and cause more problems: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-04-22/brazil-economic-growth-outlook-plunges-to-lowest-level-ever