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While I think you are mostly correct, it does depend somewhat on the training program psychiatrists go to. I think there are still some -possibly only a few these days-that seem to be more talk oriented than others. As in everything, it’s an odds game. From personal experience I can tell you that I’ve liked the majority of my therapists, but that hasn’t made a difference. Gman

@FreshFluff-this may not be a good thing. I’d say that at least 70% of the therapists I’ve seen over the years have been cute to attractive. The most attractive one was straight, so what I’m about to say regarding the gay practitioners doesn’t apply to him. So here I am sitting in therapy with these attractive gay guys. And most of these practitioners, while not revealing any inappropriate details, have indicated that they had their own struggles coming out. But I would keep thinking to myself, but once they came out and accepted being gay -how much easier it was for them to find hook-ups/dates/partners than it was for me since I’m not that attractive (I’m not a Medusa by any means-just not that attractive). I was talking about this with an acquaintance of mine. I told him I had for the most part always picked gay male practitioners because I thought they could understand what I was going through better. And I told him that most of them seemed very attractive. He told me he always picked women therapists as there was no chance he was going to be attracted to them. So while it’s pleasant to sit and look at an attractive person (unless of course he’s an analyst, and you are lying down), maybe it’s better not to have a therapist you could be attracted to. Gman

Is that the OctoMom-the one on the left I mean? Gman

I’ll go a bit further. There’s this hot guy I know. We met about 5 years ago. This guy is extremely handsome. It’s too bad he’s not a better person. He’s about 6 feet tall, athletically muscular, and has what is most likely an *8 inch (bee-you-tee-ful) tallywacker. *As I’ve noted before, I never seem to have a tape measure around during intimate moments. This guy is probably the handsomest guy who has ever been interested in me. On the bad side- using pop psychology-because he is so handsome, he’s arrogant. And I’m betting a lot of guys let him get away with his behavior because he is so handsome. We haven’t seen each other for a while. But when we did see each other, he knew that giving oral is not my favorite thing to do. But he would still ‘go down’ on me in spite of that. Gman

You might be surprised, @FreshFluff. Gman

But isn’t that more of just a mental image? I mean the majority of the tallywacker is going to be inside the guy’s mouth. Will the size of the lips really influence how good getting head will feel? Gman

My Hebrew isn’t very good. And if I’m not mistaken, the difficulty is increased as what we can see is the mirror image. It looks backwards to me. @FreshFluff, can you help us out with the Hebrew. It almost looks to me like it spells out “ahava” which is one of the few Hebrew words I know right off the bat. It means “love”. Gman

While I have no direct knowledge of the size of your tallywacker and hope I am not speaking out of turn, I’m betting both would be able to do an admirable job. They look like very capable men. Gman

I’m sorry this happened. My question is have you ever seen a sleep physician to help with the insomnia. Gman

It would depend on how good the time was with the known guy and how good the reviews/gossip was about the new guy. Gman

I’m sure after he and I have gone together a few months, I won’t even notice them, that greasy kid stuff he has in his hair, or his too shiny forehead at all. Gman

If guys are accurate on their heights and weights, I’m finding the differences in body types very interesting. For example, this guy is 5’11” and he says he is 175. I would have thought at that weight and that height he would be beefier with bulkier muscles and instead he looks much more ectomorphic than mesomorphic. I’m not saying I think he is bad looking, just more ectomorphic than I was expecting. Gman

Well I can understand if we are talking paper thin lips of the elderly. But I have to say that duck lips like this don’t do a thing for me. Gman

I am reading a book. One of the protagonists is a straight male, and he mentions a new female character as having ‘bee stung’ lips. Bee stung lips don’t do anything for me on either females or males. I’m trying to figure out what is the attraction for them. Is it something subliminal about receiving oral from them or that they remind guys of labia majora? What’s the attraction of them? Gman

Not in the Seattle area. Going thru multiple ads for therapists, you see either the words ‘Cognitive Behavioral Therapy’ or the initials CBT (and I don’t mean Cock-Ball-Torture) frequently. Now most them of say they use a combination that includes this as opposed to being strict CBTers. Gman

Last February while I was driving in the Capitol Hill Area in Seattle on a street where I had the right of way, I was T-boned on the driver’s side by Lyft driver. He had a stop sign. I’m sure he was looking at his app and not at the road. I was really shaken up by the accident. I could barely get the front door open http://Dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/86zrh0ly31j95h7/File%20Dec%2025%2C%208%2015%2006%20PM.jpeg?dl=0 The guy was a youngster in the Navy. He drove for Lyft on the weekends. Here is his car. http://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/cas25bnn3it4fuu/File%20Dec%2025%2C%208%2016%2024%20PM.jpeg?dl=0 Less than 2 months before the accident I had had to replace the coil packs in my car. I had also recently bought a new battery, and had replaced both front headlight bulbs. I was really upset at first having had to spend all that money. But the repairs actually helped me as once I sent the receipts to the appraiser, he upped the value of my car by about $1200. Gman

A gay counselor of mine recommended I read Velvet Rage years ago. I wasn’t able to even get through the introduction. The author seemed to take the attitude that his experience was universal, that all gay men went through what he did. Well my experiences are my own. Gman

But I love breadcrumbs-especially mixed with butter, salt, paprika and spread over pearl onions!! Gman

Willson-welcome to the Forum. There are two things. #1. You are more likely to find our info relating to a masseur in The Spa section which is the section designed for info about massage. While there is overlap, a lot of guys who like massage aren’t interested in escorts and probably rarely check The Deli-and vice versa. #2. It’s always helpful to include a link, so we know exactly whom you are referring to. Gman

I did once by accident. It didn’t even occur to me the guy was straight. He had checked all the options on the Rentboy check list. I had hired him for a weekend. On the way home from picking him up at the airport, he started talking about a friend (who had driven him to the airport). He said a few other things. I asked him whom he preferred-men it women. He said women. When I asked him about having checked all those boxes on the Rentboy site, he said someone had told him he’d get more clients if all the options were checked. Strangely enough while he wouldn’t really kiss, he kept asking me #1) if I was having a good time and #2) if I wanted to top him. I had the feeling he hadn’t been topped before-maybe I was wrong. But by that time I was so disgusted with the situation. Plus if he really hadn’t bottomed before, I was never good at topping guys who can’t relax their sphincter. I get soft going against a closed hole. Gman

When did you move to Los Angeles? Gman

I’d say it’s like anything else. It works for some-ok it works for a lot. But it doesn’t work for everyone-just like 12 Step Programs aren’t a good fit for everyone. I don’t think counseling has been overly helpful for me. On the other hand, maybe it’s helped me more than I know-especially after the course of therapy even if not particularly during therapy. One thing to watch out for with MD’s-they have a tendency to push medications-same thing with psychiatric nurse practitioners. While everyone is different, and medications seem to help a lot of people, I’ve been tried on three different medications in the past. They always had side effects and did nothing for my mood that I could tell. Gman

Thank you for your hopes for me. Have a Joyeux Noel. Gman

...and (of course) Gman

Well you know the old saying, “It’s an ill escort that doesn’t even blow good.” At least the experience brought you here. Gman