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I did once by accident. It didn’t even occur to me the guy was straight. He had checked all the options on the Rentboy check list. I had hired him for a weekend. On the way home from picking him up at the airport, he started talking about a friend (who had driven him to the airport). He said a few other things. I asked him whom he preferred-men it women. He said women. When I asked him about having checked all those boxes on the Rentboy site, he said someone had told him he’d get more clients if all the options were checked. Strangely enough while he wouldn’t really kiss, he kept asking me #1) if I was having a good time and #2) if I wanted to top him. I had the feeling he hadn’t been topped before-maybe I was wrong. But by that time I was so disgusted with the situation. Plus if he really hadn’t bottomed before, I was never good at topping guys who can’t relax their sphincter. I get soft going against a closed hole. Gman

When did you move to Los Angeles? Gman

I’d say it’s like anything else. It works for some-ok it works for a lot. But it doesn’t work for everyone-just like 12 Step Programs aren’t a good fit for everyone. I don’t think counseling has been overly helpful for me. On the other hand, maybe it’s helped me more than I know-especially after the course of therapy even if not particularly during therapy. One thing to watch out for with MD’s-they have a tendency to push medications-same thing with psychiatric nurse practitioners. While everyone is different, and medications seem to help a lot of people, I’ve been tried on three different medications in the past. They always had side effects and did nothing for my mood that I could tell. Gman

Thank you for your hopes for me. Have a Joyeux Noel. Gman

...and (of course) Gman

Well you know the old saying, “It’s an ill escort that doesn’t even blow good.” At least the experience brought you here. Gman

That was my thought too. Gman

@jjkrkwood I’m glad you had that kind of relationship with your Mom. I don’t. I love my Mom. I can talk with her about a lot of things. But ya know, I don’t really want to hear about the sex life she had with my Dad or adjustments they might have had to make as they aged. And I know she doesn’t want to hear about my sex life either-what little there is of it. I’m going to hope @bigvalboy is right about the white lies. Because if the situation occurred again tomorrow, I’d probably answer the same way. Gman

I went out to lunch with my Mom today. I was driving. After we finished, I asked her whether she minded stopping at a store that was a bit out of the way, so I could pick up a prescription I had ordered. The prescription was for some sildenafil. My Mom asked me what the prescription was for. I blanked a moment and then told her, “It is one of my blood pressure medications.” Gman

I might be one of the fabled unicorns then. Decades of research can show whatever it wants, I am here to proclaim that I am gay, I’ve always been gay, and I don’t remember the thought or sight of a female ever causing me to have an erection (Muscular good looking guys are another story). I am gay, gay, gay, gay, gay-and I’m not even that crazy about being gay. In my mind, I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to be bisexual and able to marry a woman. But I know that not all bisexuals are able to reconcile both sets of feelings successfully. So if I can’t be straight, I’m probably better off as I am. Gman

I came out to my brother and sister about 5 years ago in a long overly wrought email that took me hours to write (at a Kinko’s no less as I only had limited WiFi access where I was living thru a hot spot). I had lost my job and was feeling extremely down about being unemployed and lying-by omission to my family. I might not want to be gay. But I was tired of not saying anything about it. Throughout the writing of the entire missive, I had tears in my eyes and a lump in my throat. A few years later my sister told me it wasn’t that much of a surprise. And at least in one sense I knew what she meant. I was, at the time, a 51 year old male who had never really had a girlfriend growing up or who had never really gone out on dates/had a girlfriend as an adult. On the other hand @BasketBaller, you dated girls/women in high school and college, were known as a ‘player’ in college, got married, had three children, and unfortunately became a widower. I have to assume you’re pretty much a regular guy’s type of guy otherwise it’s doubtful women would have found you as attractive if you weren’t that type of guy. As discreet as you’ve been, unless your boys saw you out with one of your escorts, your few other encounters, or found a web browsing history, I’m willing to bet that your sons will be as surprised as your brother-in-law was when you told him. Gman

I wonder what the percentage of Adonis guys are actually gay-or bisexual. And for me bisexuality really would be someone at least a 3 on the Kinsey Scale with the proviso that the reason they have gay sex is because they are really attracted to guys and like having sex with them more than just for monetary reasons. Gman

On an iPhone at least some of this could be accomplished with the Do Not Disturb Feature. Gman

I hope this post isn’t going to be too indelicate to discuss on here-but I was using a public necessary room near the dining room of my mother’s retirement facility (it was the handicap stall so much larger than the other one). As I was sitting in there reading a Men’s Health Magazine that I had picked up in their library (the story was an interview with Ben Affleck conducted by Jimmy Kimmel in case you were interested), the lights went out. Well obviously I had seen this exact same scene many, many times. I knew I was about to be attacked by a deranged serial killer—-or the timer on the lights had gone off. Gman

9 PM seems a little late for me for a business call unless he had hours posted that included 9 PM. On the other hand, if it were an emergency and you definitely needed him for the following day, that would have been my limit of the time to call. The friend could have had a woman in bed with him at 7:30 PM too. So that doesn’t seem to me like a workable rule. When I had friends -unfortunately I don’t really right now -my limit was usually 10 PM unless it was an emergency or I knew they stayed up late and wouldn’t mind a call. But there is something else to consider. While I don’t mind talking on landlines or VOIP with ‘big phones’, I hate extended conversations on cell phones. I think there is a subtle delay. That combined with trouble hearing, and dropped words make me really hate conversations on cell phone. Gman

I met Eric twice years ago. Once was for a weekend. He was an extremely nice guy. He’s not a very passionate kisser. I think I remember that he wasn’t overly enthused about bottoming for me. I still like him. He’s a friendly guy. But even with the familiarity of two visits, he still wasn’t what I consider a top tier escort. He was ok. But he definitely wasn’t (for me) a Mike Gaite/ Ray Stone/Andrew Justice type escort. One other definite caveat -I just looked at his ad and I’d say at least 9 of his pictures are probably a decade old at least and in some cases more. The more current pictures, as is usual in cases like this, don’t look as good as the older ones although he still looks good for his age. Gman

I’m pretty sure @Bearofdistinction is making a joke as Kathy Griffin was the usual cohost until that idiotic stunt she did with the severed head. Gman

I might add to the above that one reason I really like topping even with what I wrote above is that I can lean over -hopefully stay inside-and kiss and stroke the bottom while I’m inside him. Gman

I have two comments I’d like to make about this video. #1. Who in the name of great Caesar’s ghost is Amber Tamblyn? #2. As regards Andy Cohen drinking the breastmilk -I’m now faintly nauseous. Gman

Now Freshfluff-I’ve actually read about this. Just like not all gays are made to bottom, women and nipples differ. Some women’s nipples are more sensitive and some less. In addition to that while sore nipples may be common with initial breastfeeding by an infant, they usually eventually toughen up. There are also hormones released during breastfeeding that make it more pleasurable for the woman. On top of that in the best cases there is the emotional attachment to the infant and the emotional satisfaction of knowing that you are supplying your infant’s lifeblood so to speak. Please don’t think I think that all women can breastfeed. That’s a myth. The large majority can most likely. But the La Leche League would never tell you about failures. Gman

I’m a top. And I like to top. I never plan on bottoming. But I will freely and truthfully admit that for me receiving oral usually feels better than topping. And a guy who knows how to give oral without gnawing me with his teeth (while not being porn star thick, I am on the thick side of things. So the gnawing I receive from some guys may be involuntary on their part) and can keep me on edge for a while, will definitely make my toes curl. The other thing that can make my toes curl is if I’m really horny, and a guy knows how to kiss on my neck and my ears. I’ve almost cum hands free with a skillful necker before. Gman

It took me a minute to understand this post because I almost never watch TV (I’m not being overly superior about this. I love to watch TV. For a plethora of reasons, I don’t anymore.). But for those like myself who may not be up on all the latest lingo, TWD stands for the TV show The Walking Dead. Gman

I’ve been with some guys (bottoms) though who really like the Energizer Bunny School of being fucked. I’ve been with several escorts and buddies who want it fast-and hard but that goes without saying. I’m not really the perfect top for them as I think I left my Energizer Buddy capability days long years before I ever actually had sex assuming I ever would have been capable of pile driving like that. I think my style of sex is best described by the “Best Little Whorehouse in Texas” philosophy -“Lots of goodwill and maybe one small thrill. But there’s nothing dirty going on.” Gman

I think ‘being turned’ is a common expression in the vampire media and in those mythological stories of completely straight guys becoming gay. Gman

I wonder how many people go around limping -or walking with a catch in their steps -after bottoming. Gman